[The Original Becky]

Slow the ^%$# Down??

Think of me as your friendly sex coach. I'm the guy pacing wildly on the sidelines flailing my arms and tossing my clipboard to the ground in disgust when my star performers don't follow directions. I know how to play the game, so pay attention.

I've got a sizzling tip for you - you've gotta slow the fuck down. Literally and figuratively.

This whole gambit about fucking her harder, fucking her faster has received way too much glory. It's not the best you can do. If you fuck her harder, fuck her faster on a habitual basis, you cheat yourself out of a whole bunch of pleasure.

How come? Simple. When you're expending all that energy to be the great thrustmaster, your body is in a frenzied rush to get to the cum shot. As you pound, pound, pound into your sweetie like the proverbial pile-driver, you pay a tremendous price. You miss out on gobs of sensuous pleasure.

Fast thrusting limits you to a minute or so of frenzy, capped by a ten-second orgasm. Why not stretch the whole enchilada out into a much longer, slower dance of delight?

You don't see much slow fucking in the movies because quite frankly it's not great eye candy for the viewer. It looks rather ho-hum, in fact. Fast and furious sex looks wilder onscreen, and it pushes the illusion that this is what you must do in real life for really hot sex. Wrong, Bucko.

Learn to explore the slow lane, the scenic route. Learn what happens when you relax during sex as if you've just slipped into the soothing waters of a hot spa. It will lead to vastly increased sensual pleasure, and as you'll find out, it'll lead to multiple orgasms for both men and women.

Slow, Soft, and Sensuous

Men sometimes resist being slow, soft, and sensuous because they think it's unmanly. What a load of crap!

A masterful lover sends his sweetie to the brink of rapture with different styles of arousal. One way is to relax her with soft stroking and kissing. As she soaks in this luxurious pleasure of his attentive caressing, she naturally begins yearning for the feeling of a pulsating dick deep inside. Why? He's taken the time to light her fire. Ironically, the more you tease a woman along by not rushing to shove it in as soon as you can, the more she craves it.

Always remember that good sex is good brain. You play with your partner's body, but you're constantly sending messages to her brain. When you nuzzle her neck, you're zapping her brain. When you feast on her nipples, you're tugging at her brain. When your tongue wanders every so languidly down her body, you're toying with her brain. The more you focus on what's happening in her brain, the better of a lover you'll be.

All women are different, of course. Each one likes different things.

Some like it hard and some like it soft. Some like it sweet and some like it nasty. You need to find out what each woman likes. The way you delighted one woman might fail miserably with the next one.

The Benefits of Heightened Sensuality

In the majority of cases, though, women prefer a more sensuous approach to lovemaking. They enjoy a pleasing atmosphere, like candles flickering, fresh sheets to smell, some nice music to listen to. Where men are usually more zone oriented to "the tit zone, the twat zone" women prefer attention to their whole body. Women love it when you flow your hands over their entire bodies like soft warm water dripping from a shower. Give a woman a nice gooey full-bodied massage with a fragrant skin lotion, and she'll think she's in heaven.

You may not think of back rubs, foot massages, or other sensuous activities as wildly erotic. You may think of them as pretty tame. Yet when you experience the benefits of slowing the fuck down, you'll never again question the wisdom of applying the brakes. You can look forward to:

Discovering the joys of relaxing. Start giving your woman the luxurious slow hand, then ask her to give you some. Try giving each other featherlight massages. When you chow down to some good oral sex, lick gently. Go for sensual pleasure rather than buzzing her clit for an orgasm. Experiment with slowness.

More pleasure for less pump. You feel more sensuous pleasure for less physical labor. That becomes important when you're tired and not really up to being an athletic marvel in bed.

Tuning into your body. Going slow gives you a chance to fully appreciate the sexual beauty of your five senses. When your hips are rocking ninety to nothing, you miss out on many subtler pleasures of the senses.

More penis pleasure. With a slower thrusting speed, you can heighten the exquisite sensations inside your cock (and everywhere else on your body) by becoming more aware of what your nerves are doing. Thrust slowly, pause deep inside, constrict the internal muscles of your cock, and feel the bliss.

Multiple orgasms. The route to experiencing multiple orgasms for men is slow-motion fucking. You simply cannot perform this feat when you're fucking her harder, fucking her faster. It won't happen, which is one reason why so many men don't know about it.

Happy women partners. You have to experience for yourself how a woman responds to a man who knows how to deliver a slow, sensuous fuck. It's different than being pounded. It's more romantic and feels more intimate and special.

By the Sex Coach

[btbb]

Ahhhhh.... Memories. A delightful lady with a fantastic approach!

[Copierguy0]

I have Added this to my Subject Line.
Under the Definition of TRUE GFE

Thank you "The Original Becky"

CG

[Dannie]

Love this!!

[St.Mateo]

All of that is very well put together and authentic.
If you are a person whose best sense is touch you magnify this even more

[TexTushHog]

Anybody know what ever happened to Oserina? I never saw her in the hobby, but she was very active on the boards at one time. Pretty interesting gal, at least to judge from her writing.

[felicity]

Just happened upon this before bed..What a wonderful way to go to sleep!!

[VictoriaLove]

Originally Posted by The Original Becky

Always remember that good sex is good brain. You play with your partner's body, but you're constantly sending messages to her brain. When you nuzzle her neck, you're zapping her brain. When you feast on her nipples, you're tugging at her brain. When your tongue wanders every so languidly down her body, you're toying with her brain. The more you focus on what's happening in her brain, the better of a lover you'll be.

So Beautiful... I applaud the person that wrote this whole thing... Very well put!

Bravo!

[crimson]

Reminded me how I miss that special minx.