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mesquite · 10-13-2014, 11:14 PM

This is a little similar to the extreme insertions thread but not exact so I decided a new thread may be more appropriate. My question is this, say I would like to enjoy taking a strapon a bit above average. I stretch things out but should one stretch an hour before or is four hours before sufficient? I have to travel a minimum of 3 hours to see a provider so I am thinking maybe getting a room the night before to insure I am ready to fully enjoy our time together so should it be a hotel a block away or is one across town sufficient? I guess the ultimate question is, how long does it take for sphincter rings and muscles to return to normal?

stanky · 10-14-2014, 12:33 AM

Why not book her for multiple hours and let her stretch you out? Best of both worlds, I would think..

RobinArdeur · 10-14-2014, 06:28 AM

If I cannot be there to do the stretching myself (which I *do* prefer), I'll have a guy wear a comfortable buttplug for an hour or two before I arrive. I also like knowing that there's something in his ass reminding him of me even before our time together

I wouldn't say it's necessary, however. I have had several experiences with gents who weren't warmed up before they saw me and we were still able to get quite large things inside - these were longer playdates, though.

Let's not forget another important aspect of anal prep, especially when you're going big: you're really going to want to watch your diet for several days beforehand and give yourself an enema the day of, to prevent any 'surprises' for your provider. Some of us that are already into extreme anal play are willing to assist with that last part, too!

jimmylbob · 10-14-2014, 03:32 PM

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

papadee · 10-14-2014, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by mesquite

This is a little similar to the extreme insertions thread but not exact so I decided a new thread may be more appropriate. My question is this, say I would like to enjoy taking a strapon a bit above average. I stretch things out but should one stretch an hour before or is four hours before sufficient? I have to travel a minimum of 3 hours to see a provider so I am thinking maybe getting a room the night before to insure I am ready to fully enjoy our time together so should it be a hotel a block away or is one across town sufficient? I guess the ultimate question is, how long does it take for sphincter rings and muscles to return to normal?

If you have the time, i.e.: she's coming to your hotel or you're there the night before, an hour before will work. If you have to travel 3 hours, stretching 4 hours before will work. I've prepped the day before & was sufficiently loose the next day, so I'd say up to 24 hours. Once loose, it takes a while for the muscles to tighten up enough to where insertion is painful. Not to be confuse with tightening enough where there's no messy leaking.

Adventurous1 · 10-14-2014, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmylbob

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

Electricity!!!! :-) Make sure your provider knows what to do. Want to go extreme, try getting fucked with a sound that is electrified. That will blow your mind.

A-1

ElisabethWhispers · 10-14-2014, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmylbob

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

An Hitachi wand on your taint while getting teased by experienced hands.

A vibrating egg.

Nice shibari rope to tie up your testicles. Some men really like the way that this feels.

Electricity. Men tend to love it or hate it.

Sounds.

Good ole' fashioned flogging. (You use something that could be considered a toy!)

Teeth scrapping up and down your cock.

Teasing and getting you to a point of excitement and then not letting you orgasm.

And if a strap on isn't for you then perhaps a smaller finger might be?

That's all that I can think of this late afternoon.

Gosh ... I love a thread drift! (Yes. They're allowed in this forum. I like freeflowing sexual speak!!!)

Elisabeth

watchoutthegameisrigged · 10-14-2014, 07:45 PM

Wow.

DallasRain · 10-14-2014, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmylbob

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

my MAGIC finger...lol
seriously,small toys work great when you don't want the strap-on

Zoey Zacquery · 10-14-2014, 09:22 PM

Try prostate toys of fingers. Assplay isn't necessarily BDSM, though they can be combined if desired! My prostate exploration and toys for boys stuff is more in the realm of GFE/BFE.

Also, just because someone tried to fuck you with a strap-on doesn't mean they were doing it WELL.

So don't give up. Practice makes perfect. Start small and go slow...

maxgame2 · 10-16-2014, 07:12 AM

I want to experience a prostate orgasm. That's all

Jackpotvinny · 10-16-2014, 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by jimmylbob

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

My last session, I'm a sucker for clover clamps. Among others listed , there was the bed restraints, plugs adjustable and regular, gags ball, open, penis
vibrators,

I'm sure im forgetting a lot, but with the right partner, there is no limit with a vivid imagination...

Enjoy!

Zoey Zacquery · 10-16-2014, 08:31 AM

You need a curved toy or fingers for a prostate orgasm! Most of all you need to be able to relax into the sensation. Many find it intensely overwhelming at first. Not painful, just... different!

Zhivago52 · 10-16-2014, 08:50 AM

A plug worn for a couple of hours works wonders. Stay well lubed and try one that is "just" a little uncomfortable to insert and allow your sphincter to adjust to the new size. Have your provider try inserting the plug, taking it out, and reinserting it repeatedly.

Guest031115 · 10-16-2014, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmylbob

I have tried strap-on and have come to the conclusion it is not for me. What other "toys for boys" should I consider before giving up on BDSM?

BDSM isn't just anal play. If you still want mainly anal play then there are anal beads, different sized/shaped/textured plugs, frigging, fingers, anal hooks (combine with rope play is amazing).... Find someone who knows what they are doing and she will help you to explore.