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diwafiven · 07-30-2015, 06:50 PM

I am seeking advice about booking an appointment with an escort for someone in my situation.

First, about my situation: I am male, 29, still holding my V card, and have a sort of mental block when it comes to approaching women due to a number of negative experiences, along with my lack of experience. I am hoping that some positive experiences with women will help break me out of this, but I still can't bring myself to approach women in a normal fashion.

I have contacted a handful of escorts who offered email as an acceptable communication method. Some I asked for advice, others to try and book an appointment. I fear I may not have been very eloquent, though I was trying to be, as I have not received a single reply in 2 weeks.

I am at a loss as to where to go from here. Advice would be very much appreciated.

goodtimes · 07-30-2015, 07:12 PM

I know ithis isnt going to be very helpful, but, My advice -- get used to it.. its going to happen, a lot.

you can try to find a "newbie friendly" but you will find that most of the newbie friendly's require screening info, which you don't have. If you keep trying long enough, there is a chance that you will eventually get lucky, so, just keep hope alive, and expect a lot of no responses.

hd · 07-30-2015, 07:35 PM

Only being an eccie member less than a day there will still be some providers that would see you. Just gonna take a few tries to find one.

My first one I found on EROS even before I knew of ASPD and I don't think P411 was in existance at that time. I let her know from the get go that it was my first time, but it wasn't a nail biter for me since I have had affairs before, only diff now was I was paying for it. Which is better since there are no strings attached !

Just be sure to do a review so you get some credit and it will be easier next time.

Iron Butterfly · 07-30-2015, 08:31 PM

Try not to focuse on the fear or what ever it is that you are experiencing. I too was very shy and did not have sex until I was 30, and it was with a Vegas prostitute in a brothle. You have it way much easier then I did. Be paitiant, be honest, and be yourself. There are plenty of nice noob ladies that will see you but some screening in some form is needed and should be done. Once you see one, then it gets easier, both with your fear and with finding a good match. Not all escorts are hard core porn stars and some will be very understanding to your needs.

Some girls/ladies don't want the hassle if your revealing to much information. Just tell them your shy and to go easy on you, that worked for me.

IB

chipjeep · 07-30-2015, 09:05 PM

You might try visiting a 'body rub' specialist first. There may or may not be 'full service' but might be easier to get an appointment and a reference for moving forward afterwards. You might even get a nice massage out of the deal.

Iron Butterfly · 07-30-2015, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by chipjeep

You might try visiting a 'body rub' specialist first. There may or may not be 'full service' but might be easier to get an appointment and a reference for moving forward afterwards. You might even get a nice massage out of the deal.

+1 and a happy ending for all.

IB

ck1942 · 07-31-2015, 04:53 AM

"GTA" is not a geographic location I recognize, so perhaps not even a city?

We have all been newbies, so expect a short uphill climb to the first plateau.

No need to be eloquent in your communications; be yourself. Supply all information requested; if you uncomfortable with a certain data request, move on from that person to the next.

Any case, in what ever locality you may be, there usually will be ladies who are "newbie friendly" and perhaps you should commence a search there. Most will require some sort of screening for the obvious reasons; some may not.

And you should be posting in the city/state area in which you live or in which you plan to hobby. Either the new member forum or the ISO forum or the coed forum, or all three.

Or, you start with an agency. Or, as suggested above, perhaps with a spa.

Steering clear of BackPage and CraigsList, I would recommend.

The other "obvious" is P411.com where you will be screened in and yes it costs some bucks, but worth it to shorten the searching parameters.

Best of luck and Happy Hobbying!

Guest010619 · 07-31-2015, 05:36 AM

One of my earlier visits was with a lady up in Austin that I found on Eros. She did say up front on the phone she was concerned about her safety, but agreed to meet at a nearby coffee shop. We met and she told me what to expect and I agreed. I did all I could to make her feel comfortable and respected. We had a great session and have met a few more times.

DNiceGuy · 07-31-2015, 05:37 AM

+1 on CK1942

When I started last year I went with an agency and got a P411 account.

If you plan to do this with any regularity, the P411 account is the way to go, if this is just a short term thing, it's not worth it.

Agencies are good, especially in your situation. You are less likely to be scammed, and they can screen you and you can be setup to use them. Some tend to be pricier, as the provider and the agency have to be both paid.

My first couple of sessions were with an agency.

DNG

pyramider · 07-31-2015, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by diwafiven

I am seeking advice about booking an appointment with an escort for someone in my situation.

First, about my situation: I am male, 29, still holding my V card, and have a sort of mental block when it comes to approaching women due to a number of negative experiences, along with my lack of experience. I am hoping that some positive experiences with women will help break me out of this, but I still can't bring myself to approach women in a normal fashion.

I have contacted a handful of escorts who offered email as an acceptable communication method. Some I asked for advice, others to try and book an appointment. I fear I may not have been very eloquent, though I was trying to be, as I have not received a single reply in 2 weeks.

I am at a loss as to where to go from here. Advice would be very much appreciated.

The Search tab is your friend. Wear it out.

Rejection is a large part of life. You should know that by now. If you do not then you need to go see your mom and light her up for having you participate in those pussy YMCA leagues where "everyone is a winner."

The ladies are providers, not counselors. They are independent contractors. You no have idea how many emails, texts, PMs, etc they have to sort through on a daily basis in order to secure one appointment. They have not responded because YOU are wasting their time. I can only imagine what you are asking them. If you want counseling pay a counselor, its called growing up.

GinaXXX · 07-31-2015, 07:53 AM

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"GTA" is not a geographic location I recognize, so perhaps not even a city?

I'm in the GTA too.... it's the "Greater Toronto Area".

I like the suggestion to start out with a body rub or two.... and keeping it short and simple. This is a job, they are there to provide a service, and the most desirable clients are those who are quiet and quick.

Always,
Gina

samantha thom · 07-31-2015, 01:51 PM

I may be wrong…but maybe you sent long emails asking for advice? If you did, you may have come across as wanting to chit-chat and a time waster. I am not newbie friendly. The reason I'm not is in my experience, ALL of the newbies who contacted me ended up sending me continuous endless emails back and forth and when I tried to be efficient and set up a date, they disappeared or they got cold feet….100% of the time. On top of that, they are not familiar with etiquette and discretion in here and I don't have time to be a mentor.

diwafiven · 07-31-2015, 09:46 PM

@samantha thom: Thank you for your advice, and how blunt you were. Too bad you aren't newbie friendly. As to your points, yes, they may have been too long. The way it sounded from what I researched is the more info the better, and not to be blunt about what I am looking for.

However, if short and concise is preferred: When is the appropriate time to tell an escort your a virgin so the appointment doesn't get super awkward fast?

@pyramider: no need for insults; and no, I am not looking for a counselor, I am looking to lose my V card, thoroughly, and learn about being a client so everything can go more smoothly the next time I hire one. Since there is no "Virgins Guide to Escorts for Dummies", I did my own research on what is expected of me as a client, and what to expect as someone with no experience, and used my own (apparently wrong) interpretation to formulate my queries. I tend to overthink things, we all have our quirks, that is one of mine.

@everyone else: Thank you for your responses. I don't think I will go for the spa though.

pyramider · 08-01-2015, 06:31 AM

Where did I insult you? I spoke the truth all the way through and if you would put on your big boy pants and use the Search tab ... you would find what you are looking for ...

rothers · 08-01-2015, 06:53 AM

I don't know how active GTA is here on eccie; if it's active then definitely should be looking in the local forums here. I lived in Toronto for 3 years (long time ago) and I would think it is a great place to hobby.

My advice is to echo what was said above about agencies. They are definitely pricier but they screen the ladies as well as the gents, and there is often a very understanding lady on the other end of the phone who will work with you to find the best fit for your needs. As long as it is understood up front that you are looking for someone very kind and patient to help ease you into it, they can usually find the right fit. Look for local agencies that are reviewed here or on TER and scrutinize their web sites.

I wouldn't recommend spas and massage parlors. They tend to be impersonal and clinical; I would not want that to be my first sexual experience. If you can find a really good independent body rub provider that can be a great choice because they can be incredibly patient and attuned to your feelings. They generally aren't full service so a lot of the pressure is gone. They do 30 minutes of very relaxing sensual massage and then work their way into BBBJ. Again it is important to read the reviews and find the right one.