Why are we so rude and disrespectful

[Budman]

Ya'll may be right to a certain extent but people here need to quit getting their feelings hurt everytime somebody says something they don't like. This is a SHMB for christ sake. Get a thicker skin. The "Polite and Civil" crap can be carried to far IMO.

[sketchball82]

Originally Posted by Budman

Ya'll may be right to a certain extent but people here need to quit getting their feelings hurt everytime somebody says something they don't like. This is a SHMB for christ sake. Get a thicker skin. The "Polite and Civil" crap can be carried to far IMO.

I'm offended.

It had to be done. If I didn't, someone else would have.

[Sensia]

+1000 on this one Chipper!

[Guest110516]

Originally Posted by Budman

Ya'll may be right to a certain extent but people here need to quit getting their feelings hurt everytime somebody says something they don't like. This is a SHMB for christ sake. Get a thicker skin. The "Polite and Civil" crap can be carried to far IMO.

I thought a pro-rudeness message would be posted sooner. The timing was a surprise.

I agree there are those who are overly sensitive, but if you're saying that what we have now is people holding back, I'd hate to see things without the restraint.

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by chipper

It seems like two or three times a week I get someone complaing that another member was rude to them. As I look back at my PM's most of the points that I have given have been for rudeness. I can't think of any good reason to be rude to another member. In fact the first five forum guidelines talk about that.

You can disagree without calling names and you don't have to reply to everything you disagree with. If you don't want to see a Lady don't see her. I don't need to hear why you made the decision. Problem is, Eccie's review system is set up for them to do just this! Half the guys talking crap have NEVER seen the lady in question...they just want to "try" and fk with her.

If you don't like the Ladies looks don't call her and after talking to her don't say You are too Old for me, or you are too big for me, or I am not attracted to you. There is just no reason for that. Why would you call her if you weren't attracted to her. Again, the reviews are set up to allow this.

We are all members here and while we aren't friends there should be some sort of bond that makes us want to be nice. My parents always told me that if I couldn't say something nice not to say anything. They all talked aobut the Golden Rule which translates to : Treat others the way you want to be treated. This includes both the guys and the Ladies.

I think that respect for your fellow members, especially the ones you hope to meet BCD is just as important as hygiene and discretion. I am here to find Ladies that I find attractive and get better acquainted with them. I would hate for someone to run them away by being rude and crass.

On another point. When I give points it will not help you to discuss how many legal parents I have or what my IQ is or how much of a little man complex I have. We don't make the rules but we are charged to try to enforce them and to keep this big boat on the proper course.

Lets all play nice or go home.

I agree, we could ALL be nicer at times. The problem is too many people here are dangerous! They take stalking to a new level if they disagree with someone, and these are GROWN men! They go outside the hobby and make threats in a person's private life just because they got pissed on a hooker board. Some people do not need to be here, and with all their cries of being a victim, the mods are about sick of it. They want to talk crap about others in their private rooms and act as if they are the victim when it happens to them in public lol. Some of us don't have to run to the Locker Rooms to trash people when they can't defend themselves...cowards!

[Naomi4u]

What is this? Grade school????

Anyways, hugs and kisses chip

[sofiaofhouston]

Originally Posted by chipper

It seems like two or three times a week I get someone complaing that another member was rude to them. As I look back at my PM's most of the points that I have given have been for rudeness. I can't think of any good reason to be rude to another member. In fact the first five forum guidelines talk about that.

You can disagree without calling names and you don't have to reply to everything you disagree with. If you don't want to see a Lady don't see her. I don't need to hear why you made the decision. If you don't like the Ladies looks don't call her and after talking to her don't say You are too Old for me, or you are too big for me, or I am not attracted to you. There is just no reason for that. Why would you call her if you weren't attracted to her.

We are all members here and while we aren't friends there should be some sort of bond that makes us want to be nice. My parents always told me that if I couldn't say something nice not to say anything. They all talked aobut the Golden Rule which translates to : Treat others the way you want to be treated. This includes both the guys and the Ladies.

I think that respect for your fellow members, especially the ones you hope to meet BCD is just as important as hygiene and discretion. I am here to find Ladies that I find attractive and get better acquainted with them. I would hate for someone to run them away by being rude and crass.

On another point. When I give points it will not help you to discuss how many legal parents I have or what my IQ is or how much of a little man complex I have. We don't make the rules but we are charged to try to enforce them and to keep this big boat on the proper course.

Lets all play nice or go home.

All rude people proceed to the Spider Hole! I can take em off your hands

[Guest110516]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

What is this? Grade school????

Anyways, hugs and kisses chip

If your point is that respectful, adult discourse can only occur in grade school, I disagree.

If that wasn't your point, please clarify.

I did understand the hugs/kisses for Chip -- no clarification needed for that one.

[Wakeup]

Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke...just sayin'...

[pyramider]

That's floating a turd in the punch bowl.

[Fast Gunn]

It is the greatest hypocrisy to be rude and insulting, but then try to hide behind a cloak of false humor when that person calls you on your offense.

. . . That tactic was used in high school by some of the smart-ass bullies, but that ploy has whiskers now.

Unfortunately, civility is in short supply in today's society, but rudeness grows like crime, ghettos and weeds.

However, we are not obligated to contribute to the problem with whatever justification we can contrive to merely continue the hypocrisy.

[AllisonofHouston]

Great thread Chip....and very well said

[Raphael]

Originally Posted by chipper

We don't make the rules but we are charged to try to enforce them and to keep this big boat on the proper course.

Lets all play nice or go home.

Great post but what time and effort you give to enforce the rules in open forum is undercut by the existence of the Spider Hole, which attract the wrong people, whose abuse is vindicated and ready to spill itself back over to the main forum.

Originally Posted by Budman

This is a SHMB for christ sake.

Is that a reason to justify the bad reputation of the world of prostitution?

Originally Posted by sofiaofhouston

All rude people proceed to the Spider Hole! I can take em off your hands

I like Chipper's recommendation better. Send them back home and abolish the Spider Hole.

[Brooke Wilde]

One reason disrespect it is so prevalent around here is because mods pick and choose who they are going to allow to get away with what. Nothing is handed out evenly. The Houston mods especially.

Eccie is the rudest board I have ever been a part of and all the rudest people I have ever interacted with can be found here. I would never refer some one to this place.

When clients ask me about hobby boards in Houston I say there are no good ones. Frankly Eccie has gone so downhill I’m embarrassed to refer people here.

[sixxbach]

Originally Posted by Brooke Wild

One reason disrespect it is so prevalent around here is because mods pick and choose who they are going to allow to get away with what. Nothing is handed out evenly. The Houston mods especially.

Eccie is the rudest board I have ever been a part of and all the rudest people I have ever interacted with can be found here. I would never refer some one to this place.

When clients ask me about hobby boards in Houston I say there are no good ones. Frankly Eccie has gone so downhill I’m embarrassed to refer people here.

If you dislike ECCIE so much, guest your handle. I didn't think so....

sixx