This situation clearly isn't unique to the hobby world. It's true for both men and women. When our brains are saturated with the dopamine and serotonin hormones generated by hot sex we aren't thinking normally. We want to be able to repeat the experience, and that starts with kind words and hopeful goodbyes when we depart. When we calm down and reality sets in we reconsider our words and actions. The real measure of a person is what they do when their partner starts to ask why they aren't following up. Do you ghost them, block them, tell them a sweet sounding lie or be open and honest? In the hobby world it's easy to treat women as things and not as real people with real emotions because men think that the money they pay for the experience is all that they owe the provider, and not the decency of proper respect. Honesty is hard to find in any encounter or relationship. Actions are what count, not words. Don't believe anything until it's proven. Everything else is just an act and part of the mating dance.
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