http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=275928
Thought this thread was worth noting for the inhabitants of the Realm.
There are so many warning signs I see in the provider's description of the date & especially the negotiation--or lack there of. The very fact that terms like "safe word", risk-aware consensual kink (RACK), nor "safe, sane, & consensual" were never discussed shows me that this was no D/s scene, it was just plain old assault while using the guise of BDSM as an excuse.
I can beat someone with my flogger until she cries, is a bloody mess, and spends an hour in subspace... and be thanked profusely after if that was the scene we negotiated. Or I can do the same thing & go to jail if it is not.
My main take away is that people who present themselves as "Dom's" & act like this give all of us who practice BDSM a bad name. And it sure makes it that much less likely that this provider or any other is going to accept a D/s role play date again anytime soon.