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Cpalmson · 04-26-2011, 07:43 AM

While I consider myself to be somewhat savvy, I do have a question. After all, we should learn something new every day. Guys and gals both feel free to chime in.

How does one handle a situation where I as the client schedule one length of time but instead wants to extend the session? For example, I'm interested in a provider who has a donation rate of $X for an hour and $Y for 90 minutes. I know her rates well beforehand but am having a difficult time deciding on which length of session to book. Let's say the provider in question has limited reviews, or is a YMMV type, or is one that you are not quite sure about investing in the longer session. The bottom line, you book the shorter session but still might consider the long session when you arrive. There are a myriad of questions and issues that could arise.

The session could simply spill over time as the provider is not a clock watcher; however, I know she has rate for a longer period of time. Should I accept that she is not a clock watcher and take the "free" time as a bonus? Should I offer to pay anyway because she went into "overtime"?

What if we get to the end of the scheduled time, and she does mention something about time being up? How should a client express a desire to extend the session without bringing up the awkward situation of discussing a donation? Should a client bring 2 envelops or have extra $$$ ready to go just in case? If the provider is willing to go longer for more $$, how do both parties tactfully TCB without "ruining" the moment. From a provider's perspective, how do you handle a session where it looks like things could go overtime assuming you want to extend? Also, for the providers, how do you handle a session that could extend past the agreed on time if you have a back to back client? Just looking for a little insight.

Naomi4u · 04-26-2011, 08:03 AM

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The session could simply spill over time as the provider is not a clock watcher; however, I know she has rate for a longer period of time. Should I accept that she is not a clock watcher and take the "free" time as a bonus? Should I offer to pay anyway because she went into "overtime"?

Taking advantage of the fact that she's not a clockwatcher would be the same as taking advantage of her time.. wouldn't it? If you are there for one hour and you want to make it two, why not pay for additional time? I know some ladies that don't say anything when a client first does this but they do not see the client again because he overstays his time (myself included). I'm very non-confrontational when I'm handling business.

Men will scream "clockwatcher clockwatcher" but if you pay her $250 an hour or whatever. Why should she give you more time? Especially when you don't know her. You have never seen her before. If it was someone you've seen before then maybe she'll let you stay an hour extra free even. It is very YMMV. I think this is where communication comes into play. I know there are some ladies that will get up and tell you to leave after the session is over. However, I'll let you stay a few extra minutes before I let you out. That is only common courtesy.

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What if we get to the end of the scheduled time, and she does mention something about time being up? How should a client express a desire to extend the session without bringing up the awkward situation of discussing a donation? Should a client bring 2 envelops or have extra $$$ ready to go just in case? If the provider is willing to go longer for more $$, how do both parties tactfully TCB without "ruining" the moment. From a provider's perspective, how do you handle a session where it looks like things could go overtime assuming you want to extend? Also, for the providers, how do you handle a session that could extend past the agreed on time if you have a back to back client? Just looking for a little insight.

When I was working I'd usually give 15 minutes extra at the end of an appointment. After that 15 minutes is up I expect the client to excuse himself to the bathroom and get ready to leave. If he does not leave, I will ask him "Would you like to extend your stay?" If the guy wants a muli hour stay he should tell me first. If I realize that he's trying to take advantage of my time, I will ask him to leave and will not see him again.

bistraight69 · 04-26-2011, 08:25 AM

Just send the sex worker a PM and ask her the ? yourself. Each provider will have a different answer

Eccie Addict · 04-26-2011, 08:30 AM

On a first time meet I don't it should be considered "taking advantage". If a guy tries it the next time then yes it would be considered that.

If you even think you might consider extending the session I'd say you make sure you know what the rates are and have that amount available.

Naomi do you think it's wrong for a lady to give a guy extra time? If yes then is it wrong for a guy to give a tip?

LAVixian · 04-26-2011, 08:35 AM

[QUOTE=Cpalmson;1241471]How does one handle a situation where I as the client schedule one length of time but instead wants to extend the session?
This will vary with different ladies. Personally, I RARELY allow extended time because I have other engagements scheduled. I understand being unsure about someone you may meet for the first time, but you have to consider the lady you are choosing. She may other things that need attending. I suggest just asking the lady. Worst case would be that she says no.

[QUOTE]The session could simply spill over time as the provider is not a clock watcher; however, I know she has rate for a longer period of time. Should I accept that she is not a clock watcher and take the "free" time as a bonus? Should I offer to pay anyway because she went into "overtime"?[QUOTE]
Like Naomi said, you should never take advantage of time. It will come back sooner or late to bite ya in the rear, lol. She may not say anything, but she will most likely not agree to see you again because you took that advantage. Or, if she is new, she may see you several times before she realizes that she's been taken advantage of. This happened to me quite a few times when I first went indy. It's not a good feeling. However, you may run across a lady that has extra time and just want to hang out, and that's cool.

[QUOTE]If the provider is willing to go longer for more $$, how do both parties tactfully TCB without "ruining" the moment.[Quote]
I am not sure there is a way to not ruin the moment per say. I guess you could just slide the envelope over to her and pray she understands what you want?

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for the providers, how do you handle a session that could extend past the agreed on time if you have a back to back client? Just looking for a little insight.

I will never extend a session when I have another client waiting. It is unprofessional and rude. That's a bad review waiting to happen.

London Rayne · 04-26-2011, 08:41 AM

I would simply let her know you are booking the hour but might want to pay for extra time pending how you connect...that way she can set aside that block of time just in case.

Personally, I can't accommodate these types of requests being I am a planner to the minute and like to know things long before a gent arrives.

I also find it very uncomfortable to speak of money and time in the middle of a date, so I normally just ask that they let me know an exact length of time prior to booking. If all goes well, I will probably just give them an extra half hour anyway the next go round when I know I can set aside that time.

Eccie Addict · 04-26-2011, 08:57 AM

I feel that it's only "taking advantage" when it's done repeatedly.... I'm not saying that it's not wrong to "expect" free time because it is.

Ofcourse every lady is different in how they feel about this issue. Just as every guy is different in how they feel about tipping.

Naomi4u · 04-26-2011, 09:08 AM

Actually he should never overstay his time. I have had numerous guys do that to me and I would not see them again. Sure I understand I'm so hot and you want to stare at me for another hour but you have to pay for it. I think guys tend to forget that this is a pay to play business. If you are paying her for her time then why the hell should she give you her time for free? That clockwatcher clockwatcher cry is only made by guys that can't afford to pay for additional time. I think it's all bullshit. Should a lady give extra time? If she wants to. Should she be pressured to give extra time? NO! There was one girl that was giving every client she say an addition 30 minutes to an hour. More props to her but Naomi would never do that.. LOL! That girl is only making it harder for other ladies to make money. NO NO NO escorts do NOT owe you free time. If I like a guy I will tell him to stay longer. However, that rarely ever happens.

London Rayne · 04-26-2011, 09:15 AM

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Actually he should never overstay his time. I have had numerous guys do that to me and I would not see them again. Sure I understand I'm so hot and you want to stare at me for another hour but you have to pay for it. I think guys tend to forget that this is a pay to play business. If you are paying her for her time then why the hell should she give you her time for free? That clockwatcher clockwatcher cry is only made by guys that can't afford to pay for additional time. I think it's all bullshit. Should a lady give extra time? If she wants to. Should she be pressured to give extra time? NO! There was one girl that was giving every client she say an addition 30 minutes to an hour. More props to her but Naomi would never do that.. LOL!

Word! If you have to give away your time to get good reviews are you really that great? If you can afford to that's one thing, but many women feel pressured to do this for fear of a bad review.

I think doing what you say you will do should be enough, and it also indicates you have a good business sense about you and will not be taken advantage of. I don't offer free bcd time...PERIOD! I will offer public time for free, but that is where I draw the line. If I wanted a guy to wear me out for free I would just go back to the local watering hole and act as the wanton slut.

If I can afford to offer extra time, I will but if one expects it they know where the door is. I just love the ones who look at the clock with 5 min. left and go, "Well I am about to overstay my welcome unless you want to go another round." Then you ask, "Oh did you want another hour?" Answer is always the same..."No, I think one is enough because I have to get back to work." Ummmm well, if you have to get back to work how could you go another round to begin with lol.

LAVixian · 04-26-2011, 09:23 AM

Haha. London, I sure did miss your smart ass comments

welcome back sexy

London Rayne · 04-26-2011, 09:32 AM

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Haha. London, I sure did miss your smart ass comments

welcome back sexy

I was so going for serious lol. I guess it's just impossible when you guys can actually hear me saying what I write. Missed you too. You will have to come party at the new place girl!!

Eccie Addict · 04-26-2011, 10:26 AM

It makes sense to me and you ladies are absolutely right in what you say. It's the same reason I don't tip because I don't think it truly makes any difference just like when a lady gives extra time it doesn't truly make any difference.... or does it?

While I do believe that when some say "she's not a clockwatcher" they are saying the BS that you mention but that is not always the case. Although I've never said "she is not a clockwatcher" myself if I did it would be to describe the feeling of not being rushed through the motions. I've had a lady jump up and start getting dressed on the hour mark and it didn't bother me a bit. I'm not sure how she knew it was on the dot either lol. I would see her again too

London Rayne · 04-26-2011, 10:29 AM

A clock watcher is someone who watches the clock and tries to speed things up during the time you "pay for." A clock watcher is NOT someone who is aware of the time and does not allow that to be taken advantage of. If you pay for an hour and you get an hour with no rush, she is not a CW. She is a provider who delivers what she advertises in the first place!

Naomi4u · 04-26-2011, 10:32 AM

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A clock watcher is someone who watches the clock and tries to speed things up during the time you "pay for." A clock watcher is NOT someone who is aware of the time and does not allow that to be taken advantage of. If you pay for an hour and you get an hour with no rush, she is not a CW. She is a provider who delivers what she advertises in the first place!

Absolutely right. They pay for an hour and when you tell them that their hour is up they label you a clockwatcher. I would give 15 minutes extra after the appointment but anyone that tried to overstay I would tell them to leave or pay me for the extra time. If they did not see me again then so what? There are plenty of RESPECTFUL men that would.

I have to run to work now. I'll call you later, London. Muahs! LOL

Eccie Addict · 04-26-2011, 10:38 AM

How do you handle a lady that is late and leaves on the "original" hour mark rather than give you the actual amount of time you scheduled. I've never had that happen
myself but have certainly heard of it....