To DATY Or Not To DATY ?

[piquant2009]

Reviews show some like it and some don't. DATY is where I like to start.
Nothing like watching and feeling the Lady's when doing this to them.
So maybe I can be better educated from the Lovely Lady's of this board.

So Lady's,please enlighten me.

[Jasser]

I'm not a lady (anymore, ha!), but I've been told by some of the ladies I've met that they like it, but a lot of guys don't know what they are doing. To quote, "a lot of guys watch too much porn and think that we like it like the guys do it in pornos".

The hard, pointy tongue moving 100mph doesn't really work with most women. I've found that a soft, flat tongue works best. I like to think of it as french kissing the clam with a soft slow rhythm.

A couple ladies even told me that some guys like to bite the clam curtains and even the clam doorbell. Wow, what the hell? Technique is everything!

Key points - Soft flat tongue, with sensual licks.

This method works about 99% of the time for me. I've only met one lady that liked it really hard and fast. My only other modification would be "the bearded clam". When you are twerking with a bearded clam, I find it helpful to caress the clam with your hand first a few times. This will help remove the stray pubes that could be lodged in the back of your throat. Next, I ever so gently run my middle finger down the split of the clam to encourage the clam to open and show me that nice pearl.

After that, all you have to do is use both index fingers to spread the beard and, viola; the pearl is present for your dining pleasure.

Key Points - No biting, don't dive straight into the bearded clam or you may choke. Take a little time for prep work so the bearded clam will reveal her glorious pearl.

[spaceneedle]

Good instruction, esp. using the clam analogy. There are lots of instructions online about proper dining etiquette that will achieve great results. Some event offer pictures.

At first, I had two not-so-great-response when i came to Dallas, figuring I am losing my touch. Later on , I found many more ladies who totally love it, so it must be the two ladies (both are massage gals). Most ladies love it; those who don't aren't too uptight or just haven't gotten a good one.

[Jasser]

There are also some women that can only climax through penetration and prefer that over DATY.

[Sleepy363]

Too skeered. I hear it causes cancer.

[Guest071613-2]

I am a big fan of the clam licking

Some thoughts:

Don't just head straight for the 'pearl', in keeping with Jasser's theme. Run your tongue along the inside, between the inner and outer lips...there are a ton of nerve endings there. Take your time with the clam. Circle all around it, everywhere BUT the clit, occasionally running your tongue across it only momentarily. Do it just long enough to make her crave more, before returning to gentle licking and sucking of the other clam parts, and there are many! Keep teasing the clit, brushing against it from time to time but no all-out licking just yet. When she is finally begging you to give her clit your full attention, start off slowly and gradually increase the intensity/speed/pressure. Gently slide two fingers inside her while you are doing this, and make a 'come hither' motion with your fingers inside her, massaging her g-spot while you suck on her 'pearl'. No need to ram it in and out, that's shit they do for the movies. Just keep them in there, and give the sweet spot a nice rubbing.

..Just a few pointers that came to mind

[steverino50]

sounds like great guidance. Ask Fawn. She has a PhD in teaching DATY.

[m5552009]

I love doing DATY. I could spend a whole hour doing nothing but DATY, but I have not found any ladies that can last that long. The "O's" wear them out and make them too sensitive.

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[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by piquant2009

Reviews show some like it and some don't. DATY is where I like to start.
Nothing like watching and feeling the Lady's when doing this to them.
So maybe I can be better educated from the Lovely Lady's of this board.

So Lady's,please enlighten me.

I have found that "hands on", or in this case, "mouth on" is one of the best ways to learn.

Personally, I like to be teased, some light kissing and licking on inner thighs while occasionally and very softly brushing across the "Hot Spot", followed by slow and sensual kissing of the clam, with a slow build up to a little more demanding pursuit.... stay in rhythm as the body/lady responds and is getting closer, please don't stop ......O deprivation at the height can be achy/painful at times.

Please don't dive in with a vengeance. Please don't bite, or chew on my very sensitive and intimate areas. Think of it as a slow and easy make-out session.

[lisa.lisa0302]

I have had too many biters, so DATY, has slowly lost its flavor with me. :-( .

[Gonzo DFW]

Caress the inner thighs, then slowly work your way to the prize. Softly sucking like a peach works pretty well too.

[daty/o]

Originally Posted by still-asleep

Too skeered. I hear it causes cancer.

Wow, you too?

[Tara Evans]

Big plus 1 on daty.

[txcwby6]

Guys seem to relish time with a woman that knows how to perform a BJ because it feels so damned good. I haven't run across too many ladies that don't relish the same attention being paid to their parts too. Just like there is such a thing as a bad blowjob there can also be bad DATY so it's a learned talent. I've been fortunate to be with women that are vocal and want to share with me what feels good for them. It's a good thing to be able to make your partner climax by oral stimulation. It makes the next stage that much more enjoyable.

[rachet3375]

Originally Posted by Jasser

I'm not a lady (anymore, ha!), but I've been told by some of the ladies I've met that they like it, but a lot of guys don't know what they are doing. To quote, "a lot of guys watch too much porn and think that we like it like the guys do it in pornos".

The hard, pointy tongue moving 100mph doesn't really work with most women. I've found that a soft, flat tongue works best. I like to think of it as french kissing the clam with a soft slow rhythm.

A couple ladies even told me that some guys like to bite the clam curtains and even the clam doorbell. Wow, what the hell? Technique is everything!

Key points - Soft flat tongue, with sensual licks.

This method works about 99% of the time for me. I've only met one lady that liked it really hard and fast. My only other modification would be "the bearded clam". When you are twerking with a bearded clam, I find it helpful to caress the clam with your hand first a few times. This will help remove the stray pubes that could be lodged in the back of your throat. Next, I ever so gently run my middle finger down the split of the clam to encourage the clam to open and show me that nice pearl.

After that, all you have to do is use both index fingers to spread the beard and, viola; the pearl is present for your dining pleasure.

Key Points - No biting, don't dive straight into the bearded clam or you may choke. Take a little time for prep work so the bearded clam will reveal her glorious pearl.

Good instructions from a guys POV. Dannies post is excellent too, always good to pay attention to what the ladies have to say about this. I love to service the clam. Key point is to not stay in just one spot or be apprehensive about being down there. Work all over that booger give her your full and undivided attention. A great DATY session will make the rest of your visit exceptional. I really like the spot where her leg joins her torso, there is this tendon that really likes to be lightly chewed on and kissed. Working these will start the juices flowing and then you can work your way to her lips. Being gentle and not staying in just one spot is always good. When you start working the clit and she is hitting her rythym, STAY ON THE CLIT! Hang on and don't let go. This is just my .02 worth as a DATY lover. Practice makes perfect