"What do you like to do?"

[TheBizzer]

Every now and then,while visiting with a lady for the first time, I get asked, "so what do like to do?", or some variation of it.

While I appreciate the lady making an effort to find out how to make me happy, it shatters the natural flow and illusion of passion for me. It brings the "professional" aspect of the encounter right to the forefront, and makes it seem as though I am purchasing services a la carte rather than just spending time with a gorgeous woman in a mutually beneficial relationship.

I also never know how to answer. I'm fairly vanilla in my sessions, usually just looking for standard foreplay and great sex. If things happen to get kinky, I enjoy it, but I don't go in to sessions looking to do specific things past the standard stuff. Perhaps if I did I would feel differently. As it stands, I usually say "everything" and smile sheepishly, or ask her to start with a BJ and say we can take it from there.

Anyways, I'm curious if this is just me or if other guys share this opinion. Ladies, I'd love to hear your perspective as well

[Lauren Lane]

Haaa. I always find it a bit humorous and I have mentioned to a few clients that it must be written in the Guys Locker room that the first time you visit with a lady you are to ask "So what do you enjoy". Hands down that question is asked on every single new appt. Now, I completely understand the reason, you guys are trying to find out the particular ladies do's and don'ts. I just find it amusing that after the small chatter is done and both parties are nekkid (in the fantasy writing of my story nekkid, not saying in real time anyone is nekkid ;-). LOL) that is always the first question.

Personally, with me different things work with different people.

[Gonzo DFW]

It helps to know. It really does.

[AgoodMess]

I think it's more of a trick/social nicety question where it doesnt really matter what you say, the lady has planned the session already ahead of time and it's better to just go along. I get asked that too and I always stammer out something half-legible. Would like to know if the lady appreciates a direct answer, like "I want u to be comfortable (2), me to be comfortable (1), hugs and DFK (5), shower together (6), dry up/get ready (2), BBBJ (3), DATY (5), F1 session (7), FBSM (8), F2 if you get to raise me (5), cuddle and gossip (4), solo shower (5), count your roses (2), I get ready and take off (3)". That's 58 mins, give or take 2 for any of the above. The clock starts now!

Once I did blurt out a variation of that at an AMP in Plano, and she said, "Wow, you are so direct"! She goes out of the room, the lady at the front desk walks in, and I am shown out of the door politely. So I am not sure whether to speak up or not. There is obviously an ice breaker involved, since we are both suspicious of each other in the beginning.

[Lauren Lane]

I usually try to take the cue from the guy. You guys read our reviews, etc so you can somewhat know our "style" or what you maybe in for which is why you contacted that particular lady. We on the other hand, read your p411 profile which is not always fully filled out or maybe filled out months ago and your preferences have changed ( I have had that happen recently) so we sometimes ( I am speaking for myself and generally) take our cues from you.

If a guy is nervous sitting on the edge of the bed and not getting "comfortable" after small talk and kissing, petting is over. That makes me somewhat nervous to which I will usually ask" Are you nervous?" kind of a feel out but also an ice breaker.

[Shackleton]

I basically feel the same, but "shatters the illusion" is probably too strong. More of a slight annoyance. Along the same lines, but more of a pet peeve for me is an escort who immediately takes all her clothes off at the first kiss or touch or worse, even before.

I have a fairly detailed p411 profile of my likes and dislikes. I always ask a new friend to please read my profile before we meet for the first time. The better ones do and can shape the session to meet your particular preferred style.