Need Advice!

[TX]

So I posted this in the national thread and wanted to get some more local advice..

So the other day my SO said she wants another woman to join us in bed!

Naturally I was excited!

She has always talked about being attracted to women and when we are out we check out women together. So the idea of her wanting a woman isn’t that shocking.

We sat down and talked about it and we decided asking a friend is out of the question. And I didn’t mention it but I am pretty sure a provider is out of the picture also. (Since she does not know I am on here)

So that now leads me to the reason I am posting this here.

Ladies and gents what advice do you have in finding a single lady to join us.If any of you local folks have any specific advice please shares that with me on here or in a message.Thanks in advance!

[darter]

I once dated a girl who wanted to try out a threesome with another woman and we decided to go to some strip clubs and find someone she was attracted to. It worked REAL well. It's much easier to take a stripper home when you have a lady that is doing the asking. It also didn't cost anymore than a few drinks and dances while we were in the club to get "warmed up".

[SofaKingFun]

Cool deal, TX. Having never participated in a 3-some, (heh!), I'd like to offer a little advice that, uhhh...my friend, once offered me. He said that since this is your SO as well as your first time together, you'd probably be best served letting your SO take the lead. Never, ever take your focus off of her and never let her feel left out; regardless the temptation. If you do, then it's all on you my friend 'cuz ain't but a handful of things, that I can thinck of that will turn one of these deals sour quicker than a butthurt SO. So just keep this experience about your SO and her enjoyment and you'll reap the rewards in the end.

...either that or she'll end up leaving you for some chick, but at least you tried being cool and made it a positive experience for her. At least that's what my friend says. Heh!

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[Keyzer Soze]

SFK sounds like good advice, I'll have to remember it,if I ever find myself in a similar situation. TX hope you have a great time and happy hunting for that "yet to be named player"

[Crispy1969]

There is a Starter Kit for Couples wanting a 3some. You Need a lot of Alcohol & 1 Blowup Doll!!! Have Fun!!!!

[atxdream]

Why is a provider "out"? I have done a total of 3 appts with my regs and their SO. On 2 occasions the SO knew I was a provider and on the 3rd, she did not. You are prob way better off with a provider and she can be discreet. We ARE professionals. Don't you want your SO's first time to be an experience she enjoys rather than some sloppy inexperienced girl from a bar?

For the 2 that knew I was a provider, they had NO idea I had seen their husbands before. They both agreed to a provider bc they knew their husbands wouldn't run off with me or develop a relationship.

For the 1 that didn't know I was a provider, we set it up in advance. I posted a "looking for a couple" in the personals sect of CL. They (plus hundreds of people) replied to the ad. I replied only to their email address and I talked with her in advance and flirted with her. I have a nonhobby generic email addy I use, so she couldn't find out anything about my hobby life with a google search. We set it up and had a great experience. I left my purse in the bathroom and while the SO and I were "occupied", he slipped an envelope in my purse.

With careful planning and an experienced lady, this can become a wonderful, bonding experience for you and your SO.

[Doglegg]

Well done ATX. The CL does help make it 'random'.

Had thought about trying to set something up in a bar that would be 'random' but too much at chance.

The CL let's the SO have more control if control is her thing. And it normally is.

[Doc_rob]

I would try this - ask a local provider to meet you and the SO at a local bar. Chances are after a few drinks both will loosen up some. Then ask the SO to invite her home for some play time. It appears that the SO called all the shots and everyone wins. Good Luck

[Mojojo]

Originally Posted by Doc_rob

I would try this - ask a local provider to meet you and the SO at a local bar. Chances are after a few drinks both will loosen up some. Then ask the SO to invite her home for some play time. It appears that the SO called all the shots and everyone wins. Good Luck

Exactly what I was thinking

[TX]

Thanks for everyones input!!