When outlook changes in RL, does it normally change your posting style in the hobby?

[cowboyfan2745]

I'm not defending anyone, just making an observation that ever since the recent tragic loss of a fellow member there has been a change in the posting style of some of us. FYI, I'm one of them. In my view, while one of us may have lost a close friend from the board I happen to lose a family member. These occurred around the same timeframe, so I believe I can relate in a very small way but I'm not in the other person's shoes so this is just an educated guess.The only reason I even brought this up is we all deal with grief in different ways.*

I think that I've become more reflective about life what really matters but I can see the other side and lashing out at everyone and everything because they feel emotions they can't overcome for the time being. I can see signs of everyone about to verbally gang up on the offending party.*

What had been posted is regrettable and unwarranted, shouldn't have been written or said. I can only hope that the offending party will realize that someday. Public decorum and common courtesy should be observed. I may be way off base with my observation and if I am I deeply regret bringing up the subject.*

Again, I'm not defending the actions of anyone just asking for some understanding. BTW, I would have preferred not to bring up my loss and grieve alone but I guess I needed to so that you'd see the ongoing situation from another point of view.

[newguy1970]

If you are referring to Clark Kent, I see no change in his posting style. He belittled women, service members and thought himself above it all. His posting style is similar to his Daily Planet sports column.

Arrogance. Perhaps compensating for something on top of a low self esteem?

I agree with your points about

Originally Posted by CowboyFan2745

What had been posted is regrettable and unwarranted, shouldn't have been written or said.

Especially true for a PROFESSIONAL WRITER. There is no excuse. While the loss is tragic, the disprespect and condescending attitudes have been present for quite the while. Case in point (and before the tragedy)

Originally Posted by ClarkKent

The great thing about this country is I an say anything I want! Just because you have a Mod tag doesn't give you the right to keep my opinions to myself and shut up. I am at a point where I am doing being silent and nice.

The only ongoing situation I see is that he didn't care who he hurt with his opinions before and he doesn't care now.

Just sayin

[Ranchhand]

We have all had terrible losses in our life. I, probably more than most, but that does not give me an excuse to be rude and disrespectful of others. If we live long enough we will all have these type of losses. If everyone that has had a loss were take that loss out on others, then the whole world would be that way. I personally will show my respect for everyone that doesnt disrespect me. Hell, I even show respect for some folks that dont respect me. As the old saying goes, that just my two cents. Ranch

[Buckskin]

If you have lived and loved in this life, you will or have lost people in your life. We all grieve differently but purposely hurting other doesn't help and is unacceptable.
It is a common occurrence and easy to place ones finger on the reason why but it is still wrong. We can try to justify it by many ways but it is still unacceptable.

[Guest042015]

I wish everyone would just be nice & play fair... Who wants to join me in my fantasy world?

[cowboyfan2745]

Guys,

Can't condone what he did or should anybody, maybe I was just relating it to my set of circumstances and how I'm dealing with my loss. I probably overanalyzed the situation relating to other members of my own family and how we are each handling this differently. Just read the most recent post and y'all are more then likely right with your assessment. Kinda wish I hadn't posted this thread. Some people just don't get it I guess.

[Ranchhand]

Thread closed at the request of the OP. Ranch