SCREENING...Why So Much Info? REALLY?

[Likinikki]

This RANT doesn't apply to everyone...so, please bear with me! I don't mean any disrespect to anyone...especially, to the gents that understand and appreciate conscientious providers.

This week has been the last straw for me...it's ridiculous to be questioned and harrassed...for something as simple as asking for screening information!

My ads have always listed my screening requirements, to help expedite the screening process...it's been that way for years! My ads state, "NEWBIES PLEASE READ CAREFULLY," and even with that posted...I'm constantly getting harrassed:

1. You ask way too many questions
2. My information other than my handle and name is none of your business
3. Geez, I've never been asked for this much information by anyone
4. I expected my references would be more than enough, since I've seen them so many times
5. Wow, you must think you're something special, you're not even high dollar
6. Why do I have to tell you how much I weigh? If you don't like fat guys then get out of the business
7. I'm not gonna tell you my nationality...are you racist?
8. What does having facial hair or tats got to do with getting laid?
9. You're gonna lose business by asking so many dumb questions
10. You want my blood type while you're at it
.............................. .on, and on, and on.............................. ....

Apparently, there are MANY providers that nilly willy their screening. And, because of the sheer number of those who do...hobbyists, are beginning to think, that providers who ask for more than a handle and one reference...is asking for *way too much information!*

The reason I require specific information is...to VERIFY the IDENTITY of the hobbyist. I'm going to make damn sure, of who I'm screening...and, what he's supposed to look like...when I open the door.

I'm not sure if anyone remembers when someone *spoofed* handles off ECCIE...but, I do...and, as far as i know, they may still be doing it.

Besides that...if I don't care about my safety and security...shouldn't you, as a hobbyist, be concerned of what you may be walking into?

At the VERY LEAST...PLEASE READ my screening requirements FIRST, so you know what to expect. If you don't take the time to read my requirements...then, why even ask for a date...and give me grief???

From this point on...I refuse to make anymore explanations and apologies...for my screening requirements. You may think it's all easy and simple...but, if you can't even be considerate enough to offer answers, to a few simple questions...you wouldn't make it one day...being a provider!

End of rant!

[Guest083013]

[Missy Mariposa]

I understand why you ask for a detailed description (and think it's great policy) but asking for specific numbers may be a little much. If a guy tells you he's 6'2'' and portly, is that not enough? You'll be expecting a heavy guy. I only mention this because a lot of people are very sensitive about their weight.

[redrum]

Do what ever you need to do to be safe.is someone has a problem .....f- ck them, better yet don't .

Fellas it is a courtesy to spend time with these ladies. If you can't follow or are u willing to follow their request , move on.

[Laz]

Your life, your business. Run it how you want. If someone does not like it, tough.

[Justa_guy]

In a free market, you may ask for anything you want as a requirement. And, those whose choose to answer, do so of their own free will....

[Ramos]

Why complain about the screening process when the provider is eventually going to know more about us then our mothers?
She/he is going know our weight, height, eye color, shaved, unshaved, the noise we make when we cum. Cheap, generous. She/he will know how big we are, birthmarks, rough ,gentle etc etc. And with a little effort, and the car license number, a hell of a lot more.
Ask away ladies, I, for one, will tell you just about anything. You eccie ladies are probably more discreet then the parish priest. God only knows the secrets you keep.

[BuxomBrown]

Everyone has their own way of screening...shoot, I've even been screened by providers to make sure I'm real!
Ha!
What I really don't understand is....
If you're not a bad guy up to no good, then why not answer a few questions?
You shouldn't worry about a provider trying to blow your cover...seriously, we just want to make sure you're not the boogie man!

The funny part is when it's all over, and after he's caught his breath, he'll tell you everything you never wanted to know anyway!

[Likinikki]

Missy, I don't care about exact weight...they could say, "5'6...170 give or take a few pounds...or 6' and *pudgy,* *portly,* *heavyset," or whatever. I do ask for specific types of questions, like height/hair & eye color/age/ethnicity/identifying features...to narrow down the chances of someone STEALING or even USING Someone's handle and identity.

How many times have providers asked for a handle/name/references...but, have no idea what the hobbyist is supposed to look like. Anyone could show up...it could even be a verified hobbyist's brother, best friend, business associate, etc...how would they know?

And, if a hobbyist says, "hispanic...average height...could lose a few pounds." What does that tell you?? That describes about 33% or more of the SA community! (lol) Remember...we don't just screen for leos...we should be screening to make sure we're SAFE from predators!

If a hobbyist is sensitive about his weight (let's say he's obese)...then, wouldn't it make more sense...for him to let the provider know beforehand? What if a provider doesn't ask those types of questions...and he shows up at her door...only to be turned away due to his size?

That would be awful...and I know it happens a lot. Just like AA members get turned away from providers who don't specify NBA...on their websites/ads.

I'll share something with you...all this is from learning experiences. I was assaulted once, and I've had a client visit me...who was given his office manager's handle and reference information, to pass screening. That was many years ago when I first got into the hobby. Back then, I knew NADA about safe screening practices, pepper spray, wasp spray, tasers, what body parts to hit to bring an opponent down, or how to use a gun...to keep myself safe! I've come a long way since those days!! (lol)

Lucky for me...the guy who saw me using his office manager's handle was nice enough, but freaked me out so much that I wouldn't see him after that. Once you lose that TRUST...it's very difficult to get back!

[bistraight69]

Why sex workers must screen:http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/6695...ker-v-hobbyist

[bamatide]

As a client I feel more secure when the provider actually does her screening. Nikki do what you have to do for your safety. If the client objects to the questions they should move on.

[Likinikki]

That hillarious bistraight! All in the life of a sex kitten! I kinda like chili dogs though...

[Love Your Zoo]

Originally Posted by bamatide

As a client I feel more secure when the provider actually does her screening. Nikki do what you have to do for your safety. If the client objects to the questions they should move on.

I agree with bamatide, I fell more secure when I feel like I actually have been screened. Keep doing it Nikki.

[BoomShakaLaka]

I look at it like this --- YOU are the provider -- you are the one providing --- if they dont like the way you provide they can move along to the next,

[Guest122913]

I am still relatively new to the hobby and have been asked all those questions and more. If you truly want to see the provider, why not answer the questions? I understand why it has to be done and will always answer them, even if an answer about my age disqualifies me for being too young for a provider's range. To be perfectly honest, although I hope they reconsider, I can't blame them and respect their decision. After all, I screen through showcases and reviews before I call or message a lady. Ladies, be safe out there and do what you must.