relationship with a provider

[o63]

anyone heard of this and can it work?

[Grizzly]

Yes, but in my experience not very successfully.

Better to look for a relationship elsewhere

[i'va biggen]

It will be a one way relationship......

[pyramider]

The ladies tend to fall for my charms and 1.3" of dangling death.

[o63]

yeah it has been one way and very hard we have been seeing each other for 6 years 4 of them as a couple.i now all her friends and family and she knows mine but its been hard

[jwood]

As long as she brings home the money and more women.

[ChantalStoneNYC]

Sometimes you fall for 'em. Might be especially hard, but it can work!

[chipjeep]

Three of my favorite providers in my 10 years or so in the hobby are currently married to guys they met in the hobby. Two of them are still providing and all seem to be somewhat happily married (though I think that may be a contradictory statement). I still see one of them on occasion.

I sometimes have a difficult time dealing with the notion that the lady I am seeing has a boyfriend or husband she goes home to at the end of the day. I could not fathom being said husband or boyfriend knowing what my girl did for a living.

[o63]

thanks so it can work.yeah she still in the hobby and I accepted that a long time ago cause that's how we met

[Nicky Wayne]

It is hard enough in the real world to make a marriage work but it could work with trust respect & love. If they are honest with each other they stand a better than most. Think about what most men in the hobby are doing. Myself I have seen & heard some stories from providers about pissed off SO calling & texting not very nice.

[o63]

lol! I used to do that alot but it would piss her off she would say "IM WORKING!!" But I got better and gave her space. I'm trying my best to make it work

[Solitaire]

Originally Posted by o63

... she still in the hobby and I accepted that a long time ago cause that's how we met

Obviously you have *some* issue with it, or doubts at least, or you wouldn't have posted about it.

Of course it can work, you can make anything work if you contort yourself enough.

The main question is, "should you?"

[albundy]

I've never been in that situation, but I do know a couple of swinger couples. Of course, in that situation the guy's banging other women too. Usually at the same time. It turns them on to see each other having sex with someone else. For some people they enjoy that and they still have strong relationships. For me, I couldn't do that.

Can you also have other women or does she feed you the bullsh-t line "It's just work, I don't make love with them. WE make love". Whatever. Personally, for me to be in a serious relationship with a provider, she would have to "retire". Not only because the thought of her going to some stranger's house or room to f-ck and get jizzed on would bother me. But I wouldn't want her to get caught. Imagine the call. "Hi, it's mom, I saw the news. Isn't that my daughter-in-law's mugshot?" Try going about your normal business then. "Hey, man, I saw the news about your wife. So....she's still working?"

It might sound hypocritical, but it's not. I understand that it was what she was doing when you met her. I would be fine with that in her PAST. I don't believe in dredging up the past (unless it's something you NEED to know. Diseases, serious crimes, etc.). But from the moment we are a serious couple, half-hour bbj's with cum in mouth with strangers in a hotel room would have to cease.

[o63]

ain't gonna lie it does bother me that she is still working but as they say sometimes you don't choose who you fall in love with

[Poppa_Viagra]

You can have a successful relationship with a provider so long as it's a business relationship.

I have a problem. If a provider doesn't laugh at my short dick, shows some IOP ,drops me a thank-you PM or text, I start to fall in love. Puppy love. Like with a mad dog.

Along the way I like to kid myself that maybe one or two of them really did like me. Operative word, kid.