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01-07-2019, 01:56 PM
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User ID: 462443
Join Date: Aug 19, 2018
Location: South Houston Area
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Ghosting Issue
This question is for both hobbyists and providers: How much ghosting do you experience? Does it upset you or do you just get used to it?
I don't know if it's because I'm a Type A personality or because of the mistrust on both sides because of past experiences, but I find it to be very frustrating and time wasting.
On the providers' end, I can see how we can come off as blunt or rude especially when texting or emailing can be easily misinterpreted, but I become less open to chatting with you when I get ghosted and you don't even grant me a few seconds of your time to me saying you can't make it. I believe I don't ask for much but I begin to feel like I did something wrong. As a provider, I do believe in providing a good service and experience.
On the hobbyists' end, I've heard the horror stories (ie, catfishing), and I'm sorry that there are a few bad apples that spoil it for the rest of the providers that are decent. Some hobbyists have stated they've experienced the same thing but turn right around and ghost me.
I just wanted to know since I don't do this often and I am a newbie.
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01-07-2019, 02:16 PM
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Join Date: Aug 20, 2011
Location: Houston
Posts: 235
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It just goes with the industry underground.
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01-07-2019, 02:21 PM
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Join Date: Jun 13, 2016
Location: Houston
Posts: 865
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I am sure I have ghosted a provider or two in my time. Never once a time or location has been confirmed but I have been in the process of scheduling an appointment and went silent due to something popping up at work. I have been ghosted and ncns'd so I dont worry too much about it. Part of the business.
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01-07-2019, 04:18 PM
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Account Disabled
Join Date: Mar 28, 2009
Location: Houston
Posts: 10,105
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I don't believe I have ever ghosted anyone. I may have missed one or 2 appointments but I let them know at the last minute and paid for the time I missed the next time I saw them. It only takes a minute to let the other person know what's going on. Everyone has an extra minute.
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01-07-2019, 06:18 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2, 2009
Location: Houston
Posts: 3,944
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Originally Posted by tbone2u
I don't believe I have ever ghosted anyone. I may have missed one or 2 appointments but I let them know at the last minute and paid for the time I missed the next time I saw them. It only takes a minute to let the other person know what's going on. Everyone has an extra minute.
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Agree 100%.
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01-07-2019, 07:08 PM
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Originally Posted by tbone2u
It only takes a minute to let the other person know what's going on. Everyone has an extra minute.
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I completely agree!
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01-07-2019, 10:50 PM
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Join Date: Aug 11, 2016
Location: Harmaston
Posts: 4,716
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Ghosting around here ? Say it isn't so ! Lol, yes it happens & it is frustrating but it comes with the territory. Put them on your DNS list as I do & just move on.
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01-08-2019, 03:13 AM
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Thanks! I'll do just that.
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01-08-2019, 01:38 PM
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Join Date: Aug 5, 2010
Location: Houston Area
Posts: 5,956
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"Ghosting"?
I'm an older guy and not so current with new dating terms or trends.
Whisky-Tango-Foxtrot interrogative (Emphatic)
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01-08-2019, 03:09 PM
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Join Date: Apr 1, 2013
Location: Sacramento, ca
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I have said this vefire ok, and will say it again, I look at Flakes differently. I look at them as an opportunity to get out of the house.
Flakes are great! Yes they are a waste of time, but look at the bright side....you still have your $250! Instead of her showing, taking your $250, and given lack luster service, you had a drive which got you out of the house.
Instead find a new restaurant you have never eaten at, have a beer, then send her a picture of the money,food, beer,on the bar saying this could of been yours... instead you flaked.
Flakes are not necessarily a bad thing, as they show you the real soul of the person.
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01-08-2019, 03:09 PM
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Join Date: Apr 1, 2013
Location: Sacramento, ca
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I have said this before, and will say it again, I look at Flakes differently. I look at them as an opportunity to get out of the house.
Flakes are great! Yes they are a waste of time, but look at the bright side....you still have your $250! She did not have the courtesy to send you a three second text advising something came up! What kind of service do you think you would have received if she had shown up?
Instead,you got out of the house, had a drive somewhere new, find a new restaurant you have never eaten at, have a beer, then send her a picture of the money,food, beer,on the bar saying this could of been yours... instead you flaked.
Flakes are not necessarily a bad thing, as they show you the real soul of the person.
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01-08-2019, 07:42 PM
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Your Dream In Reality
User ID: 450736
Join Date: Jun 17, 2018
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 166
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I have never had anyone flake on me but I pay close attention when I'm booking an appointment. Like if someone ask too many questions about little things or seem too picky. I look at them as someone who is looking for phone sex or just a convo and I usually don't give them the opportunity to book. Another red flag is someone who is complaining about where you are located, they might ghost or make up an excuse last minute. Basically, I only talk to people who seem eager and serious about meeting.
A little more advice, I am serious during booking but I also make sure that I sound inviting. I think men feel discouraged to book when we just are cut & dry or just say "yes" and "no". I get that some guys ask a lot of questions and yes, it can be annoying, but as I said, I usually look at them as time wasters. Also, if a guy ask about services, I usually don't take them serious. But what I learned in the beginning, a guy who ask for a service that knows from reviews that you don't offer it or you tell them you don't offer it & they seem bummed out, they might be a flake. But also, you shouldn't talk services anyways because talking services for compensation is illegal. They should know what this is about already.
I hope this helps you hun & if you have questions or need a little advice I am just a PM away.
Nice body!
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01-09-2019, 10:25 AM
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Join Date: Aug 5, 2010
Location: Houston Area
Posts: 5,956
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So . . is "Ghosting" like being a no-show?
Is it committing to multiple providers and only showing for one of them?
Help an old 'Boomer generation hobbyist get this right.
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01-09-2019, 10:32 AM
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Valued Poster
Join Date: Dec 24, 2009
Location: Houston
Posts: 1,649
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I don't take it personally. To me a non-response is the same as someone responding and saying no. I also don't have a problem with it. To me it's even understandable. People generally don't like conflict. Sure, I'm curious and would like to know the reason but I just move on. You certainly don't want to turn into a stalker and blow up her PMs/texts. Because if she had any doubts about seeing you or not, you've just put them to rest.
edit: I'm referring to where no firm date and time has been scheduled and you were just exchanging texts/PMs. Once something is scheduled and if there is no cancellation, then that's just NC/NS.
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01-09-2019, 10:37 AM
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Account Disabled
Join Date: Aug 14, 2014
Location: Houston
Posts: 43
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I understand life happens, maybe some of you will make an exception to an ATF doing it or someone that gives a good excuse but I definitely would just ignore completely if they do it to me once. It’s kind of a given if you ghost a provider they likely will never talk to you again or upcharge you for a missed appointment.
Maybe I’m just naturally cautious.
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