Common Respect

[Crystal West]

I am starting this thread for the newbies and for the hobbyist that if the boot fits. I know that we are not Doctors or Lawyers or what the world as a whole deems as "professionals" however just like any "professional" who's living is based on appointments so is that of an escort. When you make appointments with these "professionals" if you no call no show or do not bother to cancel then they charge you a fee. We can ask for a fee however to my knowledge it is rarely if ever paid to the provider SO when you do not bother to cancel or show up for an appointment with us we loose out. I am not talking about the donation for your session I am speaking about we miss out on the gentlemen asking for appointments at the same time who show the respect and fully intend to show up for their appointment.. This might be a news flash for some however hold on to your boot straps we are not all sitting around waiting for ONLY you to contact us and see us ..... Shocking I know it. Now there are always good reasons for someone not canceling or being a NC/NS such as emergence reasons... NOT a good reason is when a lady can see you are on the system and contacts you 30 mins prior to the appointment you set and you choose not to respond and NC/NS the lady. Your excuse 90 mins after the appointment time is "time got away from me" and you have an attitude when a lady informs you that your lack of (here it comes) COMMON RESPECT cost her money. The million dollar question is "How did I cost you money" please refer back to bold text for the answer to this question.

For the newbies this is a quick actually one of the quickest ways to get a bad reputation.....

Am I mad nope not at all can not change what happens it is in the past. My option is making sure the risk of it happening becomes less. I've been asked why I don't do short notice or last minute appointments and just as this has with newbies it bit me in the ass one time and that was all it took.

I am a total sweetheart and easy going to a point ... Lack of (here's it comes again) COMMON RESPECT is a line I don't like being crossed....

It is not tolerated when a provider does it actually have seen hobbyist blow up about it when providers do it.

Food 4 Thought......

[124816]

Well said -

While true emergencies can always occur - cars really do break down, meetings can run late, cell phones do break, and someone can oversleep it is the lack of consideration of not notifying the other person - Hobbyist or Provider that clearly demonstrates the lack of respect as you point out.

Sorry you had to experience it in St Louis.

[LadiesMan]

Great Post!!!

[MWCompanions]

Well said.

Sorry this happened on your trip to St Louis. You put time and money into coming here - hotel, food, supplies, transportation, etc. That is how you lose out if just one person cancels. Most ladies will only book X amount of appointments, a lower number not to draw attention yet enough to make a slight profit.

The same goes for local girls - we have expenses as well. Bills to pay. I had someone cancel this weekend last minute after I told someone else that I was busy that day. Now I am slight short on my bills this week. I get your frustration trust me.

I hope you are able to make up for the guy that was inconsiderate. Emergencies happen but not paying attention to time is no excuse. Had you done that to him - what would the result have been? Sometimes its such a double standard.

Hang in there and if you need anything let me know. I hope the rest of your trip is fabulous.

Nikki

[JustJodi]

Life happens. Every GOOD provider understands that. Im not fast food so I rarely do short notice unless you are a trusted reg or have convinced me because of your individual situation that you're worth the risk. This is a supplement to my income & Ive got a life & family outside of the biz & they are my first priority so when I can't make an appointment I always call, explain, apologize & offer an alternate date & time. We are all in this together & as my website states-professional respect is non-negotiable. That's a two way street. All of our time is valuable.

[Pilot Pete]

Outstanding post, calling it what it is about; simple respect for others and yourself. I keep all my appointments and would be ashamed to be more than 5 minutes late without calling.

It is as basic as standing up to greet someone, holding a door open, and using your turn signal. They call it "common courtesy" because we are all expected to know this. It's a damn shame people have to be reminded.

[MrTim2]

Very good post. Well said.

[Monica13]

exactly, nicely put.

[Mizzou82]

The most important thing I learned in my short time in the hobby is to respect the ladies. Show up on time, be freshly showered and treat the lady well. I am an older guy with average looks who gets to have sex with beautiful young women. Why in the world would you mess that up by being and ass hole?

[DallasRain]

Originally Posted by Mizzou82

The most important thing I learned in my short time in the hobby is to respect the ladies. Show up on time, be freshly showered and treat the lady well. I am an older guy with average looks who gets to have sex with beautiful young women. Why in the world would you mess that up by being and ass hole?

I think I luv ya!!!!

[Nal0py]

Isn't this just common decency ...and common sense.
Apparrntly not ....today I contact a massage provder to schedule a massahe in the middle of 40 mile bike ride ( the only way to take a break ) and I said " You must have a shower, so we can both be comfortable "
Well , she immediately commented Wow I really want to meet you I'm not use to cliemts eho are that considerate .!!!!!. Amazing ! I guess mutual respect is not that common an occurrence.

[jcmizzou]

I can't say that I have ever been late for an appointment, or shown up unwashed, etc. Unfortunately, I can not say the same about the ladies that I have asked to join me. This common courtesy is a two way street. I 100% agree with the original poster and her frustrations when manners are not utilized by those she chooses to meet. However, I would also point out ( I am sure to the frustration of some who read this) that we as hobbyists need to also do more to let others know of ladies who seem perfectly unable to tell time until the session starts. If you say you will be ready in a half an hour, and that turns into an hour an fifteen minutes, I am generally OK with that. the few times I have had to reschedule I have caught some grief over it, because I could not wait that particular day. But, when the hour session starts, suddenly I am reminded at 56 minutes that an additional charge will be incurred. Bottom line is this: the hobby is much more enjoyable when your companion is someone that respects you and treats you with decency--It's a two way street.

And ladies--if I don't treat you right during a visit, please let me know---how else can I do better in the future?

Rant over.

[Nal0py]

Right on !!!!!

[RoxyParker]

Great post! Being punctual and giving appropriate advanced notice to changes or cancellations is just common courtesy.

[BridgetteKelly]

Can I just add this...

We are NOT selling t-shirts off the clearance rack... this is not the PRICELINE of hobbying and donations are not "SET BY HOBBYISTS". I read an UGLY reply on a review that was recently posted. I couldn't believe the bs I was seeing...

We are LADIES and we provide a service that is not OWED to anybody. NOBODY can tell me what my body is worth but ME and I want to throw up in my mouth when I see a guy post some shit saying THEY are the reason we do this and we'd pretty much be nothing without them and that we charge what they "let" us charge. No sir... you're quite lucky a hot young lady is willing to do the things you're obviously not getting enough of in your personal life. There is ALWAYS the option of grabbing the Jergens if you're having a hard time with being a GENTLEMAN

If you want me to dry up like the sahara, then by all means, keep on with the ugly posts on reviews haggling ladies about their donations. Or you can just move on to the next ad and save face, because I promise... I'm adding gents to my DNS list left and right based on the crap they post on these boards and I guarantee I'm not the only one...

We are PROVIDING A SERVICE strictly by choice. We are not in a 3rd world country and I don't owe anybody shit but some bill money maybe! What would a hobbyist be without providers?? AN ANGRY MAN!!!