Questions for the ladies

[Johnny Depth]

So I still very amateur in regards to the hobby. I have been married a long while and the misses and I don't see much action. Everything is great but the sex. However every time I see a provider I am nervous and sometimes it makes it hard for me to perform. It really isn't the girl and I know that condoms can sometimes desensitize men but this has been really bothering me. I am sure the ladies see it a lot but what can I do? I have seen some smoking hot women but the butterflies just keep me from being myself. I am kind of an overweight guy and I am constantly worried that the providers are like gross! It would be nice to get some honest feedback from some of the providers and any tips that may help me. I am always respectful to all women and I really hold all the providers in high regard for what they do. I know that they are providing a service but I stil wonder when I leave, what does she really think?

[Britttany_love]

This is way more common than you may think. Things that have worked for me are cock rings, toys and vibrators, ball and nipple play on the guy and last option is cialis or viagra. I love all types of guys so being a bigger guy doesnt bother me. Some girls dont like to see bigger guys and typically will put that in their showcase. Do your research and im sure you will find the perfect girl that will take their time and make you comfortable.

[Stewie griffen]

You gotta get out of your head dude, youre thinking too much.

[Johnny Depth]

Easier said than done. But thanks for the advice

[Stewie griffen]

True, it is easier said, try to focus on the provider and the moment.
I still get intimidated myself, so i understand your point, and like most of us i suffer the same body shame stuff, but just realize she is pretty much a sure thing.

[Johnny Depth]

True. The hard part is over once you show up as long as you are a gentleman I guess. Gonna try and work on that.

[ztonk]

Many guys fall into the same physical category as you and are having a lot of fun with all types of ladies here. Look for the GFE providers with lots of positive reviews. A lady offering a good girlfriend experience (GFE) will make you feel like you're the king of the world regardless of your body type as long as you are respectful and a gentleman.

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[russellevans]

Go with an overweight provider and you don't have to feel bad! Or really old. Some of the younger spinners are definitely picky because they can be. Stay in your lane and you'll be fine.

[Britttany_love]

Originally Posted by russellevans

Go with an overweight provider and you don't have to feel bad! Or really old. Some of the younger spinners are definitely picky because they can be. Stay in your lane and you'll be fine.

Blah blah a huge percent of my clients are younger and in good shape.. some even a little older and in perfect shape. Size and age dont matter when ur having fun!!

[RICKDOG8]

This may come across a little mean but certainly not intended to be. I know this is easier said then done but...lose a little weight. Working out and lifting weights will help boost your testosterone and obviously make you a little healthier. Outside of that use cialis or viagra to take the edge off.

[Groovy Johnson]

When I have a "sleepy johnson" I'm totally happy just to snuggle,spoon, and chat. Just being naked and caressing a pretty gal makes me happy.But some gals are better than others at handing my situation.I'm loyal to the gals who can.And if they can, my second visit often goes way better. So sometimes it's just first visit jitters.
Also,if you attend a social,you can meet numerous gals without making a commitment.It's alot less of a gamble that way.And I promise you'll see numerous guys physically similar to you.
Finally I get some assistance by taking L-Arganine. It widens blood vessels and is good for the heart.
Hope this helps.
Happy hunting.

ps : ztonk's advice is very good.

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by russellevans

Go with an overweight provider and you don't have to feel bad! Or really old. Some of the younger spinners are definitely picky because they can be. Stay in your lane and you'll be fine.

I'm old and round and I do not find young spinners to be very picky. Cash is cash. None of the whore want anything to do with us if there is no cash but cash is the equalizer....

[Guest010218]

Cash is King and you should work on getting YOUR best Bang for the Buck.

Most GFE ladies here enjoy seeing hobbyists who are respectful and courteous; these ladies will often lend a helping hand or whatever is needed to make sure you enjoy your session. To paraphrase what GJ said above, relax with the lady and let nature take its course.

Check reviews and posts to find the right GFE provider who will provide the services you desire; also attend some of the local socials to first meet providers who you may wish to later meet BCD.

As an old and not so skinny hobbyist, I have found most ladies appreciate Hobbyists who:

1. Show up on time,
2. Leave on time,
3. Are clean and fresh or take a shower upon arrival,
4. Have and present the proper donation up front,
5. Treat the lady with courtesy and kindness,
6. Respect the ladies boundaries, and most importantly,
7. Communicate any special needs or desires ahead of time.

That said, communicate with your provider and most sessions will be enjoyable...

[playingnthedark]

Its some pretty hairy providers on this thread

[Guest010218]

Originally Posted by playingnthedark

Its some pretty hairy providers on this thread

Well, he did manage to get one provider to respond.

Frankly, I most likely don't want to hear the "real answer" to his question from some providers. Most treat us all very well in the hobby for the right reasons (cash, its their business) and most likely they sublimate their true feelings. Just as well.