Doubles Question - Last Minute Change Up

[sw4fun]

So I have a question for both hobbyest and providers about last minute changes in doubles sessions. Here is the scenario, a doubles session is set up through one provider who has a regular partner for that sort of thing. If the partner becomes unavailable the day of what is the best course of action:

A. Go it alone, apologizing for the change in plans

B. Call a different provider and have her fill in for the missing planned partner

or, time and situation permitting

C. Mention the situation to the hobbyest when they call to confirm the appointment a few hours ahead of time and get their thoughts

I ask this because that is precisely what happened to me today and I am... a little miffed. I made an appointment with a provider last week for today and over the weekend had a little extra cash free up and decided to make it a doubles session based on several reviews I had seen of these two providers together. Upon making the request, I think on Friday, was told no problem and thus spent all weekend thinking about the fun that was to be had this afternoon. Over the course of the weekend also traded a few short IMs and emails with the first lady talking about things and never a hint that anything might change.

So come today I call around 1:30 to confirm the 3:30 appointment and am told that we are still on and everything will be ready when I get there. Show up and one lady is there and the other is not, which is actually part of a little role playing we had discussed, and so we get things rolling. Second lady shows up and she is not the planned partner. Things progress because they have already started.

All in all it wasn't a bad time but it was not the good time it should have been. Both ladies were nice enough but the change up was for someone that I would never pick for a session on my own because as nice as she is she just isn't my body type preference. She is also, I think, a smoker which I really don't like. I honestly feel a little taken by the entire thing because if there was enough time to reschedule there was enough time to talk with me on any of the 3 phone calls (confirmation, directions, final directions) or when I got there before the other lady showed up to ask if the change up would be ok with me.

Aside from the specifics of this situation I would say if there isn't the time/ability to clear a change up with the hobbyest the safer bet is to go it alone and make the apology. So much of this hobby is about the physical attraction making a change where the body type is radically different really jeopardizes the entire experience.

Guys, what do you think? Ladies what would you do?

Also before you ask who the providers were/suggest doing a review I am keeping their names out of it for the time being specifically because I am annoyed. I don't think I would write a fair review at the moment and if I am not willing to do a review then I am not going to out them here.

[JMcB]

One would hope that if things are to be changed, the other party would be informed ahead and either new arrangements or a reconfiguring of plans would be done. If the rolls were reversed, you would've called and let her know that something had happened and you couldn't make it, not sent your brother or best friend -- BUT if you EVER decide to send someone else in your place, just shoot me a PM and I'll try to do you proud.

Personally I'd try to talk about this with the provider and tell her how you feel or point her to this thread. Try to talk it out with open minds and adult attitudes, and not hurt feelings. Hopefully it will be resolved to both parties satisfaction.

I am glad that you are not putting either of the providers on blast here.

[MsPrittiKitti]

sorry this happened.
i persnally would have handled it differently.
if the other couldnt make it, i would give you the option to cancel completely/reschedule, or see if i/you can find another girl.

i had a double scheduled once, the other had to cancel. well when we did get together- i like to think "we" more than made up for it

hope they make good on it, if you allow them.

[Mature Companion]

A lady is NOT responsible for the others actions. If the 2nd lady choose to back out of the double or didn't keep in touch with lady A, up to the day of the doubles date. Then lady A with whom you've been conversing with. Should of notified you and said *hey, this is what's up. Want me to find another gal or would you rather just keep the date as planned and see me alone?*

Lady A at fault for not making you aware that lady B is not the original one you wanted to join in.

You can't miffed IF you chose to STAY knowing lady B was not the lady you were originally suppose to meet.

Next time you call & confirm for a doubles, make sure you communicate with BOTH ladies up to the moment/ hour you're to get together. That way, you know the shiznel of the deal and can back out if all parties are not going to show up. (as pre-planned)





The scenario, a doubles session is set up through one provider who has a regular partner for that sort of thing. If the partner becomes unavailable the day of what is the best course of action:

A. Go it alone, apologizing for the change in plans

B. Call a different provider and have her fill in for the missing planned partner

or, time and situation permitting

C. Mention the situation to the hobbyest when they call to confirm the appointment a few hours ahead of time and get their thoughts

I ask this because that is precisely what happened to me today and I am... a little miffed. I made an appointment with a provider last week for today and over the weekend had a little extra cash free up and decided to make it a doubles session based on several reviews I had seen of these two providers together. Upon making the request, I think on Friday, was told no problem and thus spent all weekend thinking about the fun that was to be had this afternoon. Over the course of the weekend also traded a few short IMs and emails with the first lady talking about things and never a hint that anything might change.

So come today I call around 1:30 to confirm the 3:30 appointment and am told that we are still on and everything will be ready when I get there. Show up and one lady is there and the other is not, which is actually part of a little role playing we had discussed, and so we get things rolling. Second lady shows up and she is not the planned partner. Things progress because they have already started.

All in all it wasn't a bad time but it was not the good time it should have been. Both ladies were nice enough but the change up was for someone that I would never pick for a session on my own because as nice as she is she just isn't my body type preference. She is also, I think, a smoker which I really don't like. I honestly feel a little taken by the entire thing because if there was enough time to reschedule there was enough time to talk with me on any of the 3 phone calls (confirmation, directions, final directions) or when I got there before the other lady showed up to ask if the change up would be ok with me.

Aside from the specifics of this situation I would say if there isn't the time/ability to clear a change up with the hobbyest the safer bet is to go it alone and make the apology. So much of this hobby is about the physical attraction making a change where the body type is radically different really jeopardizes the entire experience.

Guys, what do you think? Ladies what would you do?

Also before you ask who the providers were/suggest doing a review I am keeping their names out of it for the time being specifically because I am annoyed. I don't think I would write a fair review at the moment and if I am not willing to do a review then I am not going to out them here.[/quote]

[sw4fun]

WickedMilf I understand your point about my responsibilities in confirming with both lady's and the need to leave should things go array. I would present these two things for your consideration. First if I have been coordinating the entire encounter through lady A and when I call and ask if everything is still on for the appointed time and arrangements and am told yes have I at that point done my due diligence? Second when lady B (or I suppose C in this case) shows up and things have already started (as pre-planned for the RP part of the session) how does one gracefully get up and leave? Shall I stand there and negotiate how much of the donation should be returned, walk away from the entire amount of cash with a case of blue balls, or perhaps grab the cash and run out the door? How would you react to a hobbyiest doing any one of those three things?

[Radio]

I think you were really done wrong here. I am very superficial and specific when it comes to sexual attraction and if you don't have the right look/body, nothing else (like best BJ ever, etc) is going to make up for it.

When she waits until the session has already started to inform you of the switch it puts you in a really awkward situation of having to act like an asshole and get blue balls or just go with it unsatisfied. It is basically a bait and switch whether it was intended to be or not.

[Mature Companion]

Doubles is no different than any other date a hobbyists has.
And it's been said many times over. If you men don't like what you see or she is NOT the woman you were suppose to meet. Then YOU have the choice to stay or leave.
If you stay, you've made a choice you can't be too miffed about it.

I already stated lady A was at fault for NOT making you aware of the change in doubles partner. I didn't discount that. She should have let you know when SHE found out.
However, she's NOT responsible for lady B not showing up. So you as the hobbyists. Ought to be in contact with BOTH ladies up to the moment you have your date. That way YOU have full hand knowledge of whether or not both will be there or 1 will flake out.
In which you then have the option to cancel or ask lady A if she can find someone else (which in this case, Lady A knew you wanted a double. And the other lady flaked, so lady A did what she thought was best and she found another lady willing to do the double.) Yes, she should of told you prior to. Yes, you should of dealt with it once it was present to you.

There's always a way of getting up and gracefully leaving.
As for negotiating the donation. There's a polite way of addressing the issue of the whole situation. That includes the donation you give and or leave with.

You stayed, you played and your miffed about it.


Next time make sure you communicate with both ladies.

Originally Posted by sw4fun

WickedMilf I understand your point about my responsibilities in confirming with both lady's and the need to leave should things go array. I would present these two things for your consideration. First if I have been coordinating the entire encounter through lady A and when I call and ask if everything is still on for the appointed time and arrangements and am told yes have I at that point done my due diligence? Second when lady B (or I suppose C in this case) shows up and things have already started (as pre-planned for the RP part of the session) how does one gracefully get up and leave? Shall I stand there and negotiate how much of the donation should be returned, walk away from the entire amount of cash with a case of blue balls, or perhaps grab the cash and run out the door? How would you react to a hobbyiest doing any one of those three things?

[sw4fun]

Milf I am asking you as a provider if it came to it how do you see that conversation going with grace and class? I am not asking to be difficult but cannot actually see a way for it to play out well.