Moral Hazards of Hobby

[Aonegonexx]

The other day, met a well known lady with good reviews. This was my first date with her. Session started fine, but somewhere after 15 mins she got distracted with phone calls. Her boyfriend started calling her non-stop. She got quite upset as boyfriend was apparently still not a good boyfriend, and hobby was meant to provide her means for living....meaning cutting the session short would impact her business.

She was looking visibly upset so we ended the date with her crying and walking out with me to her car to leave. She hugged me and refunded me part of the donation as session was cut short. Kinda pinched me somewhere.

The moral hazards of hobby...

[Lovie Luxx]

That's very nice of you to not get upset, but my phone goes on Do Not Disturb during sessions. Hate that your session was cut short.

[trey32]

It doesn't sound like a moral question to me. It sounds like a nasty pimp that she calles a BF

[Bald Bryan]

If it is really the boyfriend calling....

I think a lot of guys will tell the ladies that they are "cool" with what the gal does for a living, at least in the early days. But when things settle in, the guy can become controlling, insecure, jealous etc and then start to go.......psycho.

But I've had this happen before with a lady friend I was with. I didn't mind her having her phone on as we were friends, comfortable, not in a rush, etc. The calls were repetitive and carried out over a good amount of time. From the start, I knew it was bad vibes as I could hear his escalated tone. As it went on, she just put his ass on speaker as we hung out and listened to him rant. Most of the world knows I'm sober but this guy wanted to act like I was just trying to get her high so that I could keep her around all night or some shit. Then he was yelling about how she was with me for over the "scheduled hour". But in truth, we were only still together because his ass was blowing her phone up. We just kinda giggled as he went on and on about it. But whatever, he's in jail, again, for awhile and last I heard she was preggo in Austin...

But I think it sucks a lot for the ladies. I feel like they think they find a guy who is accepting of her work but then as it plays out, he's not really cool and becomes unpredictable and abusive in multiple ways along the way as he was never really cool with it like he claimed in the first place.

[Aonegonexx]

Originally Posted by Lovie Luxx

That's very nice of you to not get upset, but my phone goes on Do Not Disturb during sessions. Hate that your session was cut short.

Yes, my advise would be same. If hobby is the a business, then it should be run as business.

Originally Posted by trey32

It doesn't sound like a moral question to me. It sounds like a nasty pimp that she calls a BF

I didn't get that vibe. I have had cash and dash in the past, but this one didn't feel like it, but who knows. Plus she is well reviewed.

Originally Posted by Bald Bryan

If it is really the boyfriend calling....
I feel like they think they find a guy who is accepting of her work but then as it plays out, he's not really cool and becomes unpredictable and abusive in multiple ways along the way as he was never really cool with it like he claimed in the first place.

It starts off with it being cool and then the OCD takes over. Especially if guy thinks that it gives him license to fool around too, soon to discover that he doesn't get as many dates as his girlfriend gets.