Does sex dry up in all ltr?

[dickofgold]

I see all these articles about married female teachers fucking students and wife's cheating. Obviously older women are still horny so wtf does sex go away in a late or at the very best maybe every 5 to 6 weeks u can get some.

Even a gf I had that always wanted to fuck or just suck my dick alot the sex dried up after moving in together.

I would not need to pay for it if I got it at least once a week. Oh back to the question has anybody had a ltr where the women still wanted to fuck and it was not like a pray and I hope she doesn't reject the dick for the 6th time this week.

[merz28]

I think it’s caused by the libido and zero testosterone of women.
Maybe we could influence our ladies by cash? Oh wait we do, it’s called a mortgage and daily living.

I have no answers, sorry bro.

[OmahaUser]

My thoughts (this is not complete as I haven't put much work into weaving the threads into something coherent):

Relationships are complicated and there can be a number of reasons.

These days, a lot of women straight up don't understand men and don't understand that a guy will ALWAYS be interested in sex.

There's a lot of narcissistic self-centerness in society these days (the "I got mine, screw you" mentality), and people treat everything as a zero-sum game.

ALL women are driven by an inherent desire to feel safe (whether they want to admit it or not), but aren't interested in what it takes to maintain a healthy romantic relationship with a guy... which means sex.

Another idea: something is wrong with one or both of you. Not physically, but your brain chemistry. Relationship coaching can help quite a lot, but it requires that both parties recognize there is a problem AND desire fixing it. Therapists aren't necessarily the answer either - a lot of therapists are geared towards women's emotions, where guys do better with coaching.

The pharmaceuticals people use these days - particularly SSRIs - can kill their sex drive.

[Mamiya645]

As OmahaUser said, “ These days, a lot of women straight up don't understand men and don't understand that a guy will ALWAYS be interested in sex.”
I agree and think this is a fundamental difference between men and women. Women just aren’t “programmed” biologically to understand this. Being wired this way, I think we need regular sex to be the best us we can be.

[OmahaUser]

SO MUCH of the problem in relationships comes from the basic lack of understanding of the differences in how men's & women's brains are wired, and where that comes from: the level of testosterone a boy is exposed to in the womb & the first years of his life is absolutely insane... it might even be higher than a horny teenager.

Same thing with estrogen in girls in the womb and the first years of her life.

Those levels of hormones don't just cause cause the physical differences (breasts, genitals, etc) but it affects how you think and how you process the world around you.

So many relationship problems come from women expecting men to think like women... but that is literally impossible.

Hence the need for relationship coaching.

[NewOutlook]

Always exceptions, but women tend to not be able to separate other emotions when it comes to sex. If they're stressed, sad, angry, had a bad day at work, ect... that usually takes them out of the mood. Men tend to want sex even more in those situations to take our mind of the shit, or just to feel better. It's not as important to them often too because it's been drilled into them that they shouldn't want or enjoy sex. It's only meant to create babies & please men.

[OmahaUser]

Originally Posted by NewOutlook

Always exceptions, but women tend to not be able to separate other emotions when it comes to sex. If they're stressed, sad, angry, had a bad day at work, ect... that usually takes them out of the mood.

In my lay opinion, a lot of people (men and women alike) have very badly disregulated nervous systems, and - because of the different brain wiring - men and women handle those things differently.

Further, some women aren't necessarily taught to self regulate and self soothe. Some women go so far as to believe their partner should be their EVERYTHING... best friend... lover... therapist. It puts too much pressure on the relationship partner.

Originally Posted by NewOutlook

It's not as important to them often too because it's been drilled into them that they shouldn't want or enjoy sex. It's only meant to create babies & please men.

That's part of it, but women get stuck in their head quite a lot and make things far more complicated than it needs to be.

[dickofgold]

A good compromise would be that they pay for the escort for us to fuck when they are not in the mood lol

[CrimsonDynamo]

As my attorney told me once, in Nebraska, the only woman you can pay for sex without breaking the law is your wife.

"Ah but I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now."