Newbie To The Lifestyle (Stupid Question Of The Day)

[Rsmitty]

Ok. I'm a complete newbie to the lifestyle and have a question that's probably been answered before, but I can't find it.

So, all of the providers on here have been verified and the review process adds to the credibility and the feeling that all is safe, fun and just down right perfect.

But, most, if not all of the providers require some form of reference. How the hell does one get a reference without a reference?

Trust me, I completely understand the need and requirement to have references. The providers are put in much more danger than we are and they should feel 100% comfortable with the situation they are walking into.

Maybe I missed something, maybe there is a simple answer, I just don't want to attempt to make a connection which is doomed to fail since I have no references....

So that's my question.

[LucadeJure]

Read the ads & showcases ... the ladies will mention if they are "Newbie Friendly" ... you have to read all the way to the bottom of the ad ... not just drool over their pics.

Their P411 profile will state: "Willing To See" followed by their reference requirements. You do have P411, right?

Or ... send a PM and ask ... if your manhood is pointing to a particular lady and you don't impress her as being creepy ... she may say yes ... or refer you to a newbie friendly lady friend.

[HoneyRose]

I agree that you should just write to the ladies and ask.

There are dozens of ways ladies screen. Provider references is just one option.

I personally have EIGHT different options for screening. I won't list them all here, and not all ladies use all of my methods anyway. And some use methods I don't. And some only use provider references.

Just write and find out.

[VIP Mya Michelle]

Hunny you should sign up for p411(Preferred411.com), that is the easiest way.

Other wise youre going to have to go through a lot of phone calls, emails and time. Before you find someone who is willing to see you... Or you are going to have to give up your personal information to be screened, say like by a provider like me who does have her own screening methods. Which are not too far off from what p411 would do...


But I mean if you are going to give up all your personal info might as well give it to p411 and then you are on a one way ticket to be able to see whatever provider you want... given the circumstances allow it. I see p411 guys with 0 OK's, and so do ALOT of other girls.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Just an fyi. The Lifestyle is commonly used to refer to swinging not escorts. Those in the lifestyle as a whole do not like being compaired to the hobby or escorts at all. Be careful to use the proper terms especially around swingers.