Providers with husbands or boyfriends

[fiooowner]

I will admit that we all probably know somewhere in the back of our minds that most providers probably have a boyfriend or a husband. As long as they don't complain or talk about their significant other it doesn't bother me. But once I do know of their significant other I guess it kind of ruins the fantasy for me! Am I the only one that feels this way! Ladies and gentlemen what are your opinions on this?

[doug_dfw]

No way it troubles me. I know the experienced will write volumes on this thread. You hobby for your reasons. They provide for their reasons. Having said that, I do my research to assure they are independant and not managed. Any hint of management before or during, I am on to the next. Being managed to me is a dude is living off what she earns. That is my policy. Not meant as one for all like Obamacare .

[Guest070818-1]

There's been debate over that in a couple of threads. If I was a guy, I can see where that would potentially kill the fantasy. At least BCD, you and her are the only thing that matters. When you two depart, well, personal lives take over.

Many providers have husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends and etc. just like the hobbyists. I've even met a hobbyist who had a wife, girlfriend, and a sugarbaby, lol. I'd imagine that women could easily do the same thing if they have really good kegel muscles!

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

It seems odd to me for it to ruin the fantasy having a boyfriend or SO, but not ruining it knowing she sees other dudes on a regular basis.

Unless of course the fantasy is that she is your girlfriend or SO. And then shouldn't it make you mad that she's cheating on you?

The only fantasy I have is that I'm getting my pee pee sucked on again. I don't care who she goes home and kisses good night. I just hope he doesn't mind how I taste.

[crazy4lisalove]

Originally Posted by fiooowner

I will admit that we all probably know somewhere in the back of our minds that most providers probably have a boyfriend or a husband. As long as they don't complain or talk about their significant other it doesn't bother me. But once I do know of their significant other I guess it kind of ruins the fantasy for me! Am I the only one that feels this way! Ladies and gentlemen what are your opinions on this?

okay so your saying you have a problem with the provider having an SO ...but we know you guys do and we still provide your service no problem..i dont get it ...yes majority if not all do..we have a life...so your pretty much up shit creek..or maybe get over it and just have some fun ....????

[whitechocolate]

In my experience most providers have a SO and I personally find it a turn on making passionate love to them particularly if they are married

[lily blake]

i would not be a provider if i was in a relationship, but bravo to the girls who can provide to clients and still have enough energy left for a thier SO, that woman is superwoman.

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by fiooowner

I will admit that we all probably know somewhere in the back of our minds that most providers probably have a boyfriend or a husband. As long as they don't complain or talk about their significant other it doesn't bother me. But once I do know of their significant other I guess it kind of ruins the fantasy for me! Am I the only one that feels this way! Ladies and gentlemen what are your opinions on this?

Hmmm? Ruins the fantasy of what? That the provider is your soul mate, and she wants you and you only, that she doesn't see other guys, and she's all yours mind, body and soul?
I don't get it. Why does it matter? Just because we are 'providers', it doesn't mean we are not real women with feelings and emotion. We, too, have the right and ability to love and be loved and live a normal life just like everyone else. Treat us like real people and you will have a much better time in the hobby.

[crazy4lisalove]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

Hmmm? Ruins the fantasy of what? That the provider is your soul mate, and she wants you and you only, that she doesn't see other guys, and she's all yours mind, body and soul?
I don't get it. Why does it matter? Just because we are 'providers', it doesn't mean we are not real women with feelings and emotion. We, too, have the right and ability to love and be loved and live a normal life just like everyone else. Treat us like real people and you will have a much better time in the hobby.

So true and we all do need love ..and as most guys complain about providers attaching and calling ..well I would not like it happening to me ... a real provider keeps hearts at distance during your time together thats called respect..saying this a woman needs to be wanted all the time so when our job is done we go home and need to be wanted there too..BUT BESIDES THAT WE ARE ALLOWED THE LUXERY OF A LOVED ONE ALSO ...so advice guy is to get a new fetish lmao ...the thought of her doing another hahaha.....and oh yes you can call me superwoman ..I will wear my s on my breast proud lmao ...no its a difficult task im sure if you cant leave your job in its place ...cause I go home n my job is the last thing on my mind
Its the only way to have a relationship n be in the business ...my opinion

[verygood69]

Originally Posted by crazy4lisalove

So true and we all do need love ..and as most guys complain about providers attaching and calling ..well I would not like it happening to me ... a real provider keeps hearts at distance during your time together thats called respect..saying this a woman needs to be wanted all the time so when our job is done we go home and need to be wanted there too..BUT BESIDES THAT WE ARE ALLOWED THE LUXERY OF A LOVED ONE ALSO ...so advice guy is to get a new fetish lmao ...the thought of her doing another hahaha.....and oh yes you can call me superwoman ..I will wear my s on my breast proud lmao ...no its a difficult task im sure if you cant leave your job in its place ...cause I go home n my job is the last thing on my mind
Its the only way to have a relationship n be in the business ...my opinion

YEP!!!!!!!!

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by fiooowner

I will admit that we all probably know somewhere in the back of our minds that most providers probably have a boyfriend or a husband. As long as they don't complain or talk about their significant other it doesn't bother me. But once I do know of their significant other I guess it kind of ruins the fantasy for me! Am I the only one that feels this way! Ladies and gentlemen what are your opinions on this?

bolded text = the main point. for me, unless i ask [and i rarely do] i dont want to know about their real lfe relationships, their finances problems, their kids' problems, their car problem, their real life world problems.

i have discussed w/ providers things about their real life, but it's usually things we have in common or might, like music, art, the arboretum, restaurants, travel, etc.


the underlined text = like samantha thom asked, what fantasy??
you know that the provider is seeing other guys. and probably has a significant other or husband.
what fantasy of yours is being ruined?

and she probably knows you are seeing other providers. i imagine that most providers dont have a fantasy being ruined like yours might be.


like samantha thom wrote, providers are people, just like you and me, w/ all the ups/downs, head screwed on straight/crooked, likes/dislikes, laughs/cries, etc.
i say - treat em with respect and compassion and they'll probably treat you the same way.

[Guest022315]

I just go ahead assume a provider has somebody.

[Doc2078]

+1 TD!

[Guest022315]

If i was dating a provider, no way I would be cool with her still providing and I would leave the hobby as well. Not knocking those gents who are in rlships with providers but that is just me.

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by Thatdude

If i was dating a provider, no way I would be cool with her still providing and I would leave the hobby as well. Not knocking those gents who are in rlships with providers but that is just me.

What if she made a decent amount of money and was able to help with the bills around the house? What if her only job was to provide? (Assuming she has a lengthy criminal background, or lack of education)

What can you do with a woman who has (any) profession in the sex industry?

The same is to be said for strippers and porn stars as well.