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Originally Posted by fiooowner
I will admit that we all probably know somewhere in the back of our minds that most providers probably have a boyfriend or a husband. As long as they don't complain or talk about their significant other it doesn't bother me. But once I do know of their significant other I guess it kind of ruins the fantasy for me! Am I the only one that feels this way! Ladies and gentlemen what are your opinions on this?
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bolded text = the main point. for me, unless i ask [and i rarely do] i dont want to know about their real lfe relationships, their finances problems, their kids' problems, their car problem, their real life world problems.
i have discussed w/ providers things about their real life, but it's usually things we have in common or might, like music, art, the arboretum, restaurants, travel, etc.
the underlined text = like samantha thom asked, what fantasy??
you know that the provider is seeing other guys. and probably has a significant other or husband.
what fantasy of yours is being
ruined?
and she probably knows you are seeing other providers. i imagine that most providers dont have a fantasy being
ruined like yours might be.
like samantha thom wrote, providers are people, just like you and me, w/ all the ups/downs, head screwed on straight/crooked, likes/dislikes, laughs/cries, etc.
i say - treat em with respect and compassion and they'll probably treat you the same way.