laloverboy,
  
 Try visiting a provider that is newbie friendly to help build up your references.  I think we all go thru this first starting out in the hobby.  I remember back when I wanted to see a certain provider but had to build up my references first.  Once I contacted her with my references it wasn't a problem.  Getting on P411 also helps as some girls will use it as a quick references.  It doesn't hurt to have a board presence with some reviews backing you.  Happy hunting and it is also fun getting those references 

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 Rrabbit6926