Have any providers/hobbiyists visited swinger's clubs?

[terrier16973479]

As one who participated in threesomes, moresomes, and orgies when I was younger, I find myself interested in that again. So I wanted to ask if any providers if they've ever gone to a swinger's club with a client, or if any hobbyists have taken a provider to one?

[papadee]

I've been to clubs, but not with a provider. It has been discussed here before. A few things though.

1. The 2 lifestyles sometimes clash. Swingers are wary of P4P. So if you do take a provider, don't announce it to the club. Have better aliases than Trixxi, LustyLina, etc. Something normal like Bob & Sue. And a cover/background story cause they'll ask questions/want to make conversation.

2. Discuss in advance how you want to play. Is she free to roam the club, or is she there for you only? Do you want to see her with other men?

3. Condom use with swingers is less prevalent than in the hobby. Be prepared for that.

4. Discuss these things and work out the details in advance.

[DallasRain]

ditto with Papa....mixing swinging and hobbying is a slippery slope..........I used to be in the swinger scene and was outed and ostercized............women in the swingerlifestyle look at "escorts" in a negative way...........It CAN be done,but needs to be done with 100% discretion.

[bobwhite]

Good advice from DR and Papadee. Use search to find more.
See my review Apr 2015. Be discreet and take a classy lady who does not look like a provider, stripper or cheap. I took a very classy lady. Take someone you have had experience with and discuss all "what if" situations in advance.

[StaceyMay]

I attended what was suppose to have been a swinger type "member" only place- with a good "lover" friend- only to be disappointed by there only being 4 or 5 other people. I am interested in going to something like that- but don't know if going with a hobbyist for the first time is a good idea- My previous lifestyle with my "ex" included extra people- but I'd prefer to have the x-tra people come to us(we can control the condom thing and other "issues" bc we are in our own "comfort zone" It made it much more comfortable for us. I wouldn't feel comfortable unless it was a p2p thing honestly- atleast not yet haha

[Lena Duvall]

One's experience at a swingers club may vary based on different factors. I've been more than a dozen times in a few different cities. One of my all time favorite swingers club experiences was at a huge NYE party at Colette in New Orleans. A great time can be had when there is a smaller crowd. But in this case it was definitely a the more the merrier scenario. I had a wonderful time playing with two partnered folks who made a super cute couple. But even before the wife approached me, I was elated from voyeuring as there were at least a hundred plus folks in attendance.

[terrier16973479]

I appreciate the posts, great info, andon line with what I've gathered since I got divorced - my ex was not into it, which was fine. Sounds like a job for an SO or FWB. There plenty of ways to add excitement to hobbying without trying to get into a swinger's club! I'll keep reading, and enjoying the hobby, and meeting as many of you beautiful women as I can!

[Golpacha]

I want to go to a swingers club with a provider. It would be so much fun.

[Red Max]

Originally Posted by papadee

I've been to clubs, but not with a provider. It has been discussed here before. A few things though.

1. The 2 lifestyles sometimes clash. Swingers are wary of P4P. So if you do take a provider, don't announce it to the club. Have better aliases than Trixxi, LustyLina, etc. Something normal like Bob & Sue. And a cover/background story cause they'll ask questions/want to make conversation.

2. Discuss in advance how you want to play. Is she free to roam the club, or is she there for you only? Do you want to see her with other men?

3. Condom use with swingers is less prevalent than in the hobby. Be prepared for that.

4. Discuss these things and work out the details in advance.

From what I've read, single guys using a hooker as a ticket into a swingers club is frowned upon. Your suggestion of having a cover story ready is a great idea. Looks like the same problem our hobby has with the general public, a perception that we're a bunch of drug-addled HIV-positive streetwalkers, lowlife johns, and violent pimps.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by Golpacha

I want to go to a swingers club with a provider. It would be so much fun.

there's doing things for the sake of checking it off a list.
and there's doing things w/ some idea of what you want to get out of it.

going to a swingers club (or any kind of public, semi-private or private event) and NOT knowing the provider well & vice-versa (likes/dislikes, liquor consumption & tolerance, etc) and NOT having a game plan (who can do what), cover story, and timeframe, it could really blow up in your face, getting one or both of you banned from the place.

before jumping headfirst into the pool, might want to figure how deep it is and know where the stairs and ladders are.

good luck!!

[Kinsey Pink]

Last summer my ATF and I traveled to Amsterdam for a weekend to enjoy the red light district together, smoke marijuana with our morning coffees and also to spend a night at the ultra lux club Fun for Two http://www.fun4two.nl/en/ (which is outside of Amsterdam about 45 minutes by car).

This place seemed to be a beacon for swingers, three stories of converted farmhouse plus private meticulously cared-for garden grounds w/a pool and patio (please do check that site to get an idea of how well-maintained and well-designed of a haven they created).

The main floor is a traditional disco with a buffet and open bar, the second story had locker rooms set up next to each other with some secret passage ways between the gendered areas. It was campy and made for locker room scenes. The other half of the second floor included a bathhouse style maze with lots of nooks and crannies and glory holes and benches and mirrors... all brimming with adventuresome couples and singles. The top floor was designed to look like a cobblestone courtyard with lots of shops and houses around the perimeter, which each individually opened up to reveal a private play room and some kind of kinky furniture (one had a paddling bench, one had a swing, one had a St. Andrew's cross and that's all I saw...). And of course there were benches and street lights in the courtyard around which to cruise and congregate.

It was epic - now I've been to amazing parties in the states that had very little infrastructural atmosphere but it didn't matter because of the people. And I would never say that you need all this jazz to have a great time, because you simply don't! At the end of the day, its the people who make the party. And I haven't even discussed the specifics of the party. But rest assured that yes, Fun for Two was a super experience.

[Theo.Guderian]

Took a provider to one the other night. We a very interesting experience!

[RoxanneReynolds]

i have been to several, but never found anyone I wanted to play with..... swingers aren't so selective. I've always ended up putting on a show with my partner.

[Madame X]

I've had clients bring me to swing clubs before, but of course it was by men that I knew well. I've been to both smaller parties and large raucous clubs - I love the whole range! I've also been to quite a few on my own time, but in my personal life I tend to gravitate toward female only events.

There are a few reasons that I've wandered away from that scene though - as mentioned, *this* aspect of the lifestyle is looked down upon by a lot of people there, and I just really don't like hanging around with people who disapprove of things that they have no business caring about anyway, whether or not they know that their judgements apply to me. Also as mentioned, there are some people who are very loose with safety, which is a little off putting considering just how much anonymous sex is going on in that setting. Lastly, the boundaries between personal life and playtime can get a bit blurry, and one unstable person can make an entire party *very* uncomfortable *very* quickly.

While I do make occasional peeks back into the clubs, lately I've been indulging my cravings for orgies by throwing parties for the members of this lifestyle... So much fun!

~Mme X~

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

Originally Posted by terrier16973479

As one who participated in threesomes, moresomes, and orgies when I was younger, I find myself interested in that again. So I wanted to ask if any providers if they've ever gone to a swinger's club with a client, or if any hobbyists have taken a provider to one?

I've been to a few in my civvie life ..... not in P4P but not opposed to the idea .