When to negotiate

[Deepthroatlover55]

When do you negotiate for what extras and price? Before you get up to walk with her to the dance area/ chair, or wait until once you’ve settled in to the chair with them (but before she starts dancing )
I would Perfer to know they will do what I want before I even get out of my chair at the bar, but never done it

[futbolhead]

I think a lot of the pro mongers will say to have it lined out before the first dance. However, that doesn’t work well for me because even the sluttiest have ‘some’ trepidation that you’re vice. So I think there is a two dance tryout. If everything seems green lighted then break for a drink and negotiation. If red flags appear like hands being brushed away, junior remaining untouched, lack of IOP, or no real advancement from dance 1 to dance 2, then you thank her for her time and go back to the bar.

[Financeman22]

I’m a firm believer Have all the wanted spelled out upfront at the table, she will tell u what she will & won’t Do!! Never & I repeat Never pay up front!!! Only after the deeds have
been done!!!

[phmzee]

Originally Posted by Financeman22

I’m a firm believer Have all the wanted spelled out upfront at the table, she will tell u what she will & won’t Do!! Never & I repeat Never pay up front!!! Only after the deeds have
been done!!!

1000% agree! Contract is signed and agreed before fun is started!

[onlyAMPs4menow]

If she is hot enough I figure it's only $20 to find out if she is a player. That means if she hasn't either reached in my shorts and grabbed my cock, or I haven't just pulled it out and she took to it, then I bail after one song. Don't worry about offending her, if she ain't a player, she is used to one and done's based on that fact.

[jajake56]

I once took a dancer without any negotiation. Song 2 she asks if I want a bj with no discussion of price. OF Course! I busted in her mouth and she spit on the floor behind the chair. I gave her what I had on me which was 60$. She was pissed but I said that's all I have on me, which was true. She searched me for more cash or an ATM card, which I would not be stupid enough to bring in with me. She finally accepted the cash.

I did go back to see her several more times and it was always the same routine. But on subsequent visits I always gave her a ben.

[phmzee]

Originally Posted by jajake56

I once took a dancer without any negotiation. Song 2 she asks if I want a bj with no discussion of price. OF Course! I busted in her mouth and she spit on the floor behind the chair. I gave her what I had on me which was 60$. She was pissed but I said that's all I have on me, which was true. She searched me for more cash or an ATM card, which I would not be stupid enough to bring in with me. She finally accepted the cash.

I did go back to see her several more times and it was always the same routine. But on subsequent visits I always gave her a ben.

We all have our own approach! If it works then more power to ya! I have seen to many dancers go fucking ape shit on guys that did not work out the deal before the activity started! I much rather cut the deal before to save the dancer drama!

[rcusa]

A reason strip clubs may be most entertaining is the illusion (fantasy) of a spontaneous mutual connection. That's eliminated by up-front negotiations, so I recommend taking a risk sometimes. On those rare occasions when it feels spontaneous, that's a great encounter.

[Deepthroatlover55]

Wow…. Well put. And true

[KFB]

Originally Posted by rcusa

A reason strip clubs may be most entertaining is the illusion (fantasy) of a spontaneous mutual connection. That's eliminated by up-front negotiations, so I recommend taking a risk sometimes. On those rare occasions when it feels spontaneous, that's a great encounter.

I agree but you have to be able to build that connection with the dancer. Unfortunately not everyone can do that, that's where the strip club game and ymmv comes into to play. That's why I recommended to other people do it upfront even though I dont always follow that advice.

On phmzee's point about dancers going bsc because you didn't negotiate up front. If youre not comfortable dealing with dancer drama and not able to de-escalate the situation than yes save yourself the problems and again do it upfront. I have experience dealing with the dancer crazy and can shutdown the bs pretty quickly but not everyone can or wants to deal with it in the first place. Theres more than one way to do things and decide for yourself what approach makes sense for you.

[phmzee]

All very good points! Before I talk “extra “ that term has different meaning for many but will not go there ! I take them for a test drive and that normally will tell me how I proceed with questions. If they get very friendly I stop them and ask the questions of their expectations for the friendliness! This saves any drama! There is no 100% play book just relax and have fun