Make some noise

[heidilynnla]

I'm going to admit something here that I might get backlash for. I'm sure this goes both ways.

Every guy is different and has his own stimuli. Some like soft, some like friction, some like kissing massage, etc. I react to his body language and or verbalization to cater to his particular needs. Every once in a while I run into a very quiet, completely non-reactive client. Since I don't like to rush anyone, I react to a gentleman's body language or "moans". If he is totally quiet, no body reactions then suddenly asks me to stop because he is about to cum...I get stumped.

It's so hard to move forward at this point. I realize I am supposed to be the "pro" here, but I am not psychic either. I am sure some hobbyists have occassionaly had similar reactions during DATY.

I welcome opinions and hope someone may find this informative from a provider's POV. Any quiet hobbyists have feedback for me?

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

..... Any quiet hobbyists have feedback for me?

Geez Heidi, that's a tough one....if you can't get anything out of them while you're pleasuring them, I doubt you're gonna get anything from them here.

[Pink Floyd]

I am kinda quiet vocally, but there is no mistaking my physical reactions, and I don't know how any guy could hide that. BBBJ is what drives me to hobby because latex just kills me.

Ed, you Madcap, did you have a nice visit with U know Who. I loved your response to Body Beautiful on the other forum.

[heidilynnla]

It's very rare, but when it happens, it's totally awkward. If they didn't stop me, I would just say I'm lacking some "skills". But the non-reaction combined with a "slow down, I'm going to cum" just stumps me!!

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

Geez Heidi, that's a tough one....if you can't get anything out of them while you're pleasuring them, I doubt you're gonna get anything from them here.

[Satyrrical]

I definitely fall into the shy, quiet catagory but have learned over the years if I don't give some sort of feedback then it can be only my fault I do not get satisfied. Being somewhat of a difficult client, I do my best to give the lady what she needs to make it happen. This is sometimes made easier when the lady herself is overly responsive. I then do not feel as self-conscious.

Also, the nessecary restrictions during initial contact sometimes leave me wondering when it is appropriate to discuss what I specifically desire. At least during the first meet, I am often hypersensitive to offending the lady to the point of alienation.

Too much single malt, rambling. Sorry.

[Satyrrical]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

But the non-reaction combined with a "slow down, I'm going to cum" just stumps me!!

Guess I am missing something. Being a multipopper, "slow down - yadda yadda" stumps me too.

Back to the single malt.

[Southernarmyboy]

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

Geez Heidi, that's a tough one....if you can't get anything out of them while you're pleasuring them, I doubt you're gonna get anything from them here.

Good point Ed.

The only two things that pop to mind are 1) they really are just not responsive or 2)they feel some sort of awkwardness prohibiting them from acting in a more normal fashion.

[heidilynnla]

Cheers Satyrrical! Thanks for the input. I'm always game for multi-pops too, but here is where communication is key. I'm here for your pleasure, just tell me what you want if it is out of the ordinary!!

[Pink Floyd]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

It's very rare, but when it happens, it's totally awkward. If they didn't stop me, I would just say I'm lacking some "skills". But the non-reaction combined with a "slow down, I'm going to cum" just stumps me!!

OK, why do they want you to slow down? Just keep going and I will catch up

[Southernarmyboy]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

then suddenly asks me to stop because he is about to cum...

Maybe he is simply worried about going early, thus ending the session?

[Bull149]

This works both ways. A fair percentage of providers do not communicate what they like. Recently I had a lady tell me when I enquired, "you have to figure it out." This lady is very quiet until almost the moment of orgasim. A little more communication on both sides would help a lot.

[heidilynnla]

I guess that is kind of my point.

I'm not a guy, so I don't know. Can you feel awkward, non-reactive, but on the verge of an orgasm to where you have to ask a provider to slow down?

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Originally Posted by Southernarmyboy

Good point Ed.

The only two things that pop to mind are 1) they really are just not responsive or 2)they feel some sort of awkwardness prohibiting them from acting in a more normal fashion.

[Southernarmyboy]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

I guess that is kind of my point.

I'm not a guy, so I don't know. Can you feel awkward, non-reactive, but on the verge of an orgasm to where you have to ask a provider to slow down?

l

Haha, um no. You, I, and maybe the people next door will know what is about to happen. That's just weird I agree.

[Fillerup]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

I'm going to admit something here that I might get backlash for. I'm sure this goes both ways.

Every guy is different and has his own stimuli. Some like soft, some like friction, some like kissing massage, etc. I react to his body language and or verbalization to cater to his particular needs. Every once in a while I run into a very quiet, completely non-reactive client. Since I don't like to rush anyone, I react to a gentleman's body language or "moans". If he is totally quiet, no body reactions then suddenly asks me to stop because he is about to cum...I get stumped.

It's so hard to move forward at this point. I realize I am supposed to be the "pro" here, but I am not psychic either. I am sure some hobbyists have occassionaly had similar reactions during DATY.

I welcome opinions and hope someone may find this informative from a provider's POV. Any quiet hobbyists have feedback for me?

I make sure I'm quiet cause I have Tourette's syndrome and don't want to scare the @#$^%$#&*^$%*& out of the provider... lol j/k

[heidilynnla]

Omg, fillerup! You are a mess! Ladies? Any input here?