Goodbye... I'm Just Saying...

[guest031012]

Originally Posted by Shayla

I don't know. I guess if something like this happened to me I would just suck it up and move on. I wouldn't feel the need to put it on blast for everyone to see and get all this "moral support". It's not going to change anything.
Regardless, I DO feel bad for her and wish her the best. I can imagine it would be difficult to deal with.

I respectfully disagree. I think her post serves as a good reminder that you can NEVER be too private or too careful. Whether it's blurring your face in pics, or not trusting someone you met from eccie with your real name, or any real world info, I think it's important to remember that some of us have SO much to lose, and we need to take the steps to protect ourselves so we don't run into a similiar situation. I personally HAVE been in a similar situation so I know the emotional rollercoaster that she is feeling.

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Jamieyoung

I respectfully disagree. I think her post serves as a good reminder that you can NEVER be too private or too careful. Whether it's blurring your face in pics, or not trusting someone you met from eccie with your real name, or any real world info, I think it's important to remember that some of us have SO much to lose, and we need to take the steps to protect ourselves so we don't run into a similiar situation. I personally HAVE been in a similar situation so I know the emotional rollercoaster that she is feeling.

Not to say that this matter isn't serious - because it definitely is and can take a huge emotional toll on someone. However, it's the risk you take when getting into this. Getting outed or hurt in some way is not uncommon in this industry and no matter how much trust you have for someone, there is always that potential to get hurt. I'm not saying it's right but it won't change anyone with an ulterior motive.

[coefficient]

Hey Blonde Ambition,

this is just a rarity. Be careful with what you do. don't incall out of your house, don't tell too much of yourself during "pillow talk" if anything make up a whole new alias to tell clients during pillow talk. If you have a job in insurance claims just lie and say you work for a small business that does advertising..

keep 'em off your trail, get your money and be about your way.

[Rigin]

Here's to hoping karma reaches out and evens the score with this douchebag.

Good luck.

[tia travels]

Originally Posted by Rigin

Here's to hoping karma reaches out and evens the score with this douchebag.

Good luck.

I was just thinking of the same thing.

[Guest052912]

I am very sorry you are going through this. I know from experience how it feels and what it does to a person. I will hope and pray that you and your family are able to move past this very bad time in your life.
I do not wish this on anyone, It is hell. It is very easy to make assumptions on what you would do. Until you are going through it YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT'S LIKE.

[Guest052912]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMYz5...e_gdata_player

[Doc Holliday]

Is there not a way to weed this guy out? I'm not comfortable with a member of this, or any board for that matter, threatening another member with impunity. Threats and emotions are a part of the Internet, with it's vast anonymity. But, message boards are also suppose to be like fraternities which support it's members in that vast wasteland of chaos! So when one of our own turn on us, we need to take care of them. Otherwise, the group as a whole loses it's strength.

[Anita Lay]

Don't give in and don't give up.. You giving the fucker what he wants.. damn.
THE MODERAOTS WILL HELP YOU..
THEY HELPED ME IN A SIMILAR SITUATION AND IT WORKED OUT FOR THE BEST...

[charlestudor2005]

Aiden, although we have never met I have admired you from afar for more than three years. I am sorry it has come to this, but I wish you nothing but the best in the future. I sincerely hope you can turn a clean page into a new business of your choosing; one that is stable and profitable and, in the end, gives you what you need monetarily, physically and emotionally.

Godspeed.

[Guest041913]

Originally Posted by Rigin

Here's to hoping karma reaches out and evens the score with this douchebag. Good luck.

I had the pleasure of meeting you twice, briefly, at socials. I know there are a lot of mean, evil people here and in our every day life. I don't think anyone truly understands how much real pain they cause someone until they experience it themselves. I'm sincerely sorry that this is happening Aidan. I personally know what it's like to be unjustly attacked when all you want to is do is be happy and get through each day with as little headache and heartache as possible.
I honestly believe that the man upstairs doesn't allow us to treat each other so terribly. There are consequences for our actions.
I hope things get better for you love!
Hugs and Kisses,
Maria of DFW

[Brooke Wilde]

Please stay safe Aidan. I really hate the rude back lash that other people are giving you about the way you handled this. You did the right thing.

Originally Posted by Blonde Ambition

I have a wonderful, good paying real life job that I would never want to lose!

Then why in Gods name are you considering doing this? I have been in this industry for almost 5 years and I cannot count all the providers who have been outted and because of it lost their job. You would not believe the devils who post among us. If you have a good paying real life job I would think long and hard before risking it.

[coefficient]

Originally Posted by Brooke Wild

Then why in Gods name are you considering doing this? I have been in this industry for almost 5 years and I cannot count all the providers who have been outted and because of it lost their job. You would not believe the devils who post among us. If you have a good paying real life job I would think long and hard before risking it.

I've already advised her on what to do no need for your input

[Brooke Wilde]

Originally Posted by coefficient

I've already advised her on what to do no need for your input

Yeah right. You are just looking to fuck something, while I on the other hand, care about her life, soul, and well being. A search of your handle will show her how much you respect the ladies around here.

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by Doc Holliday

Is there not a way to weed this guy out? I'm not comfortable with a member of this, or any board for that matter, threatening another member with impunity. Threats and emotions are a part of the Internet, with it's vast anonymity. But, message boards are also suppose to be like fraternities which support it's members in that vast wasteland of chaos! So when one of our own turn on us, we need to take care of them. Otherwise, the group as a whole loses it's strength.

I would like to agree with what you are saying. On a philisophical level I completely do. The problem is this is world filled with practical realities.

I do not know Aidan or her situation, but I do know too many cases where members of our community have turned on another member, outed them, threatened them and their children, and made life a complete hell for them. In too many cases the legal system does little to help and the lady attacked is left to fend for herself. If the bad men/women have gotten personal info through "befriending" the person, or because they have a real-life job that allows then access to personal data (LE, real estate, banker, etc), they can put the lady in a very, very vulnerable situation.

An annonymous letter with web site photoes sent to parents, an e-mail to an employer, a drive-by shooting out of car windows, etc., can be very threatening when the victim is leary of going to LE. Add in slashed tires, a poisoned dog, a photo of the children taken on a school playground mailed to the lady.

This is very real and very serious stuff. I don't know anyone who was victim to ALL these, but I do know ladies who have been victim to EACH of them. I hope the mods can apply enough pressure to resolve this and get the person/people to stop. It's a s ad world when we do this to our own.