Mila, I appreciate your comments. The first part of the title was the most important part of this thread for me. I didn't want to exclude anyone who may have something to say so I put what I did in the title for a reason.
Now just to be clear. There were no threats made. Unfortunately I can't share my PM. However I feel that if anyone else who received it would done one of three things, respond in a PM, not respond at all, respond in the open. You can see what I did

. She is mote than welcome to respond to all of this, both threads but so far neither her or anyone that knows her has. Maybe, just maybe, she sees who was right.
I appreciate anyone that has commented on this so far and anyone that still feels compelled to do so. But really and truly this is behind me. I had my say..... This is a New Day and a New Year so let's get the party started