Subspace

[justabloke]

Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

This:

Most folks simply can't let go.
Either a trust thing, or an always has to be in control thing, etc.

I guess my next thought would be what exactly do you mean by 'letting go'? What exactly am I letting go of? Sorry for over analyzing; that's kind of my problem perhaps?

[Lena Duvall]

Subspace is akin to catching the holy spirit. It is psychic-sexual rapture. I'm grateful for all the times I have traversed subspace. And I appreciate reading through other folks' recollections. Though I'm personally scarce on words to describe such a blessed state of being..

Also, Elisabeth shared a useful tip: let go.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by justabloke

I guess my next thought would be what exactly do you mean by 'letting go'? What exactly am I letting go of? Sorry for over analyzing; that's kind of my problem perhaps?

There's a handful of concepts here:
Let go of full control (to another person), folks frequently can't. And it doesn't matter if that person is an alpha, beta, zeta, etc. I would think it rare that a small business owner, who's always in control of everything (in their world) could actually let go.

Key is:
Let go of your mindset (yes a control) so that your mind can go into a "dreamstate". Most folks can't do this either. Frankly you do have to train yourself, which others above have also mentioned and have also provided good examples of.
It's more than a daydream state. And more than the waking dream thing some folks have while waking up.

And yes, if you keep analyzing, you are maintaing control.

[Kinky Boy]

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[The Big Kahuna]

Spice is Nice gave the best description I have heard. When I get there it is almost like an out of body experience. When the finality of orgasm ends, I feel drained, dizzy, floating and there are a plethora of sensations as the body begins to come back to reality. For me there is no way to walk or much less drive for some time. These sessions for me either have to have a 1 hour buffer at the end for recovery or better yet be at my place so that I can just drift off.

[houston_switch]

That is just the reason why i like to be submissive in this hobby... to be able (forced) to let go. It requires a couple of trips to the same provider to establish our trust and chemistry.

[*GoddessDallas*]

Only a seasoned Domme with many years of experience can take you where you need to go in your head to experience "subspace."
It is where all of the broken pieces of a fragmented life in the BDSM lifestyle comes together and the sub experiences a gentle mindset of calm, sensuality, :fullness" and rapture.
It does not necessarily have to do with intercourse...it depends on the sub and what his needs and desires are.
Many Dommes have no idea how to make this happen for a sub...it takes a sincere willingness and an educated mind...and total honesty of desires.