what are your thoughts about dating a provider?

[David Hasselhoff]

Forget dating the provider. Been there done that.

I am currently DATING one of the mms. She can cook and good helping me stay on track of my schedules. We both play games on our phones and like the same movies. It works and I never been happier

[Gentleman2hobby]

This is a very helpful and educational thread indeed. And it has one good denominator, these girls are damaged goods, some more than others. In 2012 I met this Thai girl from the old Blue Ángel spa, really hot and young. We became friends with benefits, we used to see each other a few times a year on average , in which I always tried to date her seriously but she responded that she had a sugar daddy so it wasn’t an option at the time. Come the year 2018 we started dating more seriously, I used to spend 2 nights a week at her place minimum, she cooked for me and paid for dates sometimes, and after a few a months she asked me help her get a green card through marriage. I really thought about it, she seemed like she had really abandoned the escorting business.
But she had a problem, she was an alcoholic. I strung her along the longer I could because she gave me great sex, but I noticed she drank hard liquor every day and acted really crazy as a result of it, adding some borderline personality disorder traits in the mix.
For months she told me she had quit for good the AMP and escorting until I went through her phone and saw lots of messages from dudes wanting to see her and/or post sessions. We dated for a full year until she moved up in apartment (Luxury apartment of course), her mom came from Thailand to visit for a month and I saw how she mistreated her own mother, and the alcohol problems (and possibly drugs) didn’t stop.
I came to my senses and said fuck this, I’m out. Glad I never got her pregnant.

Like someone else said, there may be exceptions to the rule, and it may work if stars and planets align, but the vast majority of these gals have a self destructive demeanor, and they know it. They know they are undeserving of a good man, whether it’s true or perceptual. In conclusion, it’s way cheaper to rent than own if you know what I mean.

[Chung Tran]

wow.. your stories are frightening. I knew a few guys had dated or tried to date an AMP girl, but apparently more than I would have imagined.

I never have, never had even a slight interest. I already know it would be nothing but toxic, but if I didn't, I surely would after reading these posts. maybe my different background makes it easier to recognize that there is no such thing as a good and lasting relationship with an AMP girl? I don't know, but I'm honestly shocked to see how many of you have tried it, and how deep you got.

[hellotherekitty]

Here is what I find interesting. Almost all of the experiences and the comments on them speak from the perspective of the man/customer/john/trick. The main view is that there is something wrong with only the women. The man/john/trick/customer does not seem to consider that he may have significant defects that led him to meet the woman in the first place and then to write about it publicly in a forum like this. Seems like it takes two to dance these dances.

[tire-chucker]

Dating an AMP girl might be a fun ride if you have nothing to lose. At the vey least it will give you interesting life experiences. Not for the faint of heart though!

[deadman]

I to have dated some providers it has never worked out for the good . IT is like petting a two headed KING COBRA you are going to get bit sooner or later.

[BobbyC50]

Nope, uh uh, no way.

[AriGoldUSA]

You can make a housewife a hooker, but it’s rare to make a hooker a housewife.
You odds are better taking a nail salon girl and turning her into your woman then you do one these damaged ladies.

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by hellotherekitty

Here is what I find interesting. Almost all of the experiences and the comments on them speak from the perspective of the man/customer/john/trick. The main view is that there is something wrong with only the women. The man/john/trick/customer does not seem to consider that he may have significant defects that led him to meet the woman in the first place and then to write about it publicly in a forum like this. Seems like it takes two to dance these dances.

Great point.. Extremely interesting. and I notice since my post, it has all been ''no how, no way''!

Maybe that's the nature of a thread like this? Confessors/ blamers, first, and the never-not-on-your-life crowd second. That last group, the did-it-and-I-am-mostly-to-blame group, is not likely to show itself. Hell, that first group is brave enough, it would take Sam Houston bravery to post you are part of group #3, LOL

[yellowfever567]

It goes much deeper than what has been stated here so far. In my case, the lies were u bearable and humiliating to the point I questioned myself. She had many men whose numbers were camouflaged in her phone. Constantly missing for hours at a time....after she retired ...lol and I got tired of hearing A”Your money is my money and my money is my money”. Like Tina turner says...”what’s love got to do with it” I apologize for venting yet there is so much more.

[lebrouge]

A while back I had a wild affair with a Thai massage girl. She was going to college and supplementing her income doing HJs and occasionally FS with the clients both in and out of the amp.

We hit it off, started to go out and have feelings for each other, but she made it very clear that she wasn't gonna stop providing, not unless I met her needs to the tune of $2k a month. When I said I could only afford 400 a month, she asked me to become her "SuperMan", meaning that if I wanted the relationship to continue, I wasn't to get jealous when she fucked clients.

I have to admit it was super-hard to get used to being cuckolded on the regular, but she was so wild and so much fun to be with (we had sex in the bushes in Memorial Park, in a public toilet in a mall, in her truck at a Starbucks parking lot, etc..), that I gradually trained myself to accept the situation.

The affair ended when she married one of her clients to get her green card... we're still friends to this day, but strictly platonic, and she's still married to hubby...

AFAIK she isn't damaged in any way, she just loves to dress up, eat, travel, seek new experiences, and if the only way to do all this is to sell her pussy, so what? That was her philosophy...

In retrospect, a mixed bag of an experience, but one that left me with very fond memories...

[yellowfever567]

Let’s be honest in the beginning the sex is great and exciting. Then reality sets in and the magic pussy syndrome wears off. Then all you are left with is a working girl you no longer want to have sex with due to the number of guys that were there earlier in the day. You get sick of seeing soiled panties, sick of the lies, sick of her friends whom by the way are all pros, and sick of her family. Once the narcissist has used you enough they move on. I’m much happier now being divorced and no longer dealing with the constant turmoil. Btw when I said I filed for divorce, her reply.....ok. Enough said

[Chung Tran]

I think yellowfever's instruction is sticky-worthy. Read his posts before you ever consider an AMP girl relationship. By the way, when he says ''your money is my money, my money is my money'', that is an Asian female position, not just AMP females.

To the thread example a couple of posts up (lebrouge).. That is a damaged girl, the nature of her activities confirms that. Not understanding what damage really is, will tempt you to ignore the signs that can save you from later trouble.

[yellowfever567]

Thanks Chung. I do not post much or review...I’m done with that scene. Gents just be mindful. It ends in misery every time. I will never know what goes thru the minds of eastern women., For what it is worth my ex told me she will always seek western men. She had two before me, and two after. All her relationships crashed and burned.
So I guess time for the next one. Oh btw, she told each how she was mis treated by the former bf, husband. I know this because after me she hooked up with another and we fought for a long time until she dumped him...now we r friends. Go figure.

[Hank3fan]

You’ve got to remember that they are people just like we are people who have chosen to indulge in this lifestyle. Them from the monetary aspect, us from the pleasure aspect. Also A lot of them do derive pleasure from their activities. And some of them do it just for the money and don’t really care for what they do. It does take a certain mindset to work in that industry.

And if you choose to start seeing an amp girl you have to be able to disassociate her work life from her home life. Not an easy thing to do. So you have to really be a strong minded individual to not let it eat you up inside.

Granted there are some predators out there that will start seeing you just for your money. But there are also girls that can genuinely fall in love or some version of love/friendship with a man outside of her workplace. They are after all people with genuine feeling and longings for affection also.

I’ve had relationships outside of the spa with a few girls here and there. And I guess I’m just careful with my judgment because I’ve never been screwed over by any of them. And I don’t let my own petty jealousies get in the way. And as a matter of fact I still have Lasting friendships with them. I knew what they did going into it (hell that’s how I met them for Christ sake) so I don’t let that get in the way of genuine feelings for a person once they’ve opened up that personal door to me.

On a side note you will have to deal with when they get jealous of you seeing other spa ladies. They all know each other or work with each other at some point and they will remember you and drop dime on you to the one you’re seeing. And you have to remind them that they just banged 5 other guys that afternoon lol.

Good and bad aspects to it just like all relationships. Like I said earlier you have to be very mentally strong to not get your mind twisted. Not for the faint of heart on either side of the coin because if they really like you they can feel conflicted also.