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Originally Posted by Tiffani
What has helped me Lauren, is acceptance of the changes that happen to me without definition. Just bending and yielding to the change allows you to put words to what you've experienced when it's time to
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A wonderful thing to read, thank you Tiffani. I'm a bit upset I hadn't come to this conclusion, but seeing it now, you are absolutely correct.
I have a strong philosophy of not labeling human relationships. It seems stupid and trite and useless. Whether it be platonic or romantic, each relationship we share is unique, and when we try and throw labels on things, it complicates what could otherwise be a beautiful and organic experience.
I see what you mean about change being organic and nameless as well.
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Being from a traditional background, and having the deeply nontraditional feelings I have (which I have yet to express to my mother. She would think I don't believe in God anymore.) about people, relationships, humility, pride, and sex, this industry allows me to be free in every aspect. So I would like to think I am the change in attitude towards this industry and not the other way around. Honestly, to everyone in my family's horror, I was never this pure-of-mind kid who got sucked into this 'lifestyle' who changed.
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We share this as well. I come from a very strict traditionally religious family. Interestingly, nothing about my life is traditional, save for my belief in faith based ritual. They feel I don't believe in God because of the way I life my life. Oddly, I feel we believe in the same core elements, but come to different conclusions about that means about the way we should interact with those in our lives and the world we live in.
And like you, the greatest gift this life has to offer is the freedom to be myself in every aspect of my life - I personally feel my lovers don't "pay" me, they choose to give me the greatest gift there is: freedom. In return, I do my best to make them happy in as many ways as they will give me permission to
My family learned of my lifestyle - at first the business, then my bisexuality and lastly my firm belief in ployamory and refusal to marry or have children. They thought I was having a mental breakdown and needed to be medicated
Thank you so much for posting Tiffany. That was most therapeutic.