Ladies and Gents who do you expect to bring what in a session?

[Cpalmson]

I expect the lady to have the protection, but I always bring some just in case.

[Guest011914-1]

I always have a variety of supplies and when setting up appt. I will ask if there are any special request

[Guest011914-1]

I also travel with my toys...lol..it a .

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I expect providers to have the raincoats. Because I ran into one lady that said, "oh I didn't have time to stop and get some," (and inferred I could have it bareback), I always have my own (like I did that time).

I've discovered that providers who have toys don't travel with them unless there is a special request. That means the guys should make this request in a timely fashion. It should also be noted that not all ladies have toys.

[coven]

I always carry my own with me. I have a sensitivity to latex and not all providers carry non-latex condoms with them. I love the looks I get when I tell a new friend that I don't want to use her condoms, then the smile I get when I pull out my own.

[gimme_that]

I usually bring my own tupperware and condiments because most ladies don't carry magnum condoms to suit me.

I also think ladies should be the ones carrying lube if its needed. I always have a fresh pack availiable...but I don't really ever expect to use it as most ladies bring their own. And if she isn't stimulated enough from foreplay prior to us having sex Id think she was sort of jaded or just really was dry.

[Memory757]

Thanks for the responses everyone. I just ask because with all the things going on now if I am meeting someone for the first time I dont carry them. One for safety reasons. (If it is a set up and condoms are found on you dont you think thats an automatic on going to jail?) Second because you never no what to expect from a guy. Ex. what brand he likes, size he needs and latex or non latex. So I ask that all my gentlemen have their own to avoid any confusion.

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by Memory757

Thanks for the responses everyone. I just ask because with all the things going on now if I am meeting someone for the first time I dont carry them. One for safety reasons. (If it is a set up and condoms are found on you dont you think thats an automatic on going to jail?) Second because you never no what to expect from a guy. Ex. what brand he likes, size he needs and latex or non latex. So I ask that all my gentlemen have their own to avoid any confusion.

No, I don't think possessing condoms is an automatic that you'll go to jail. They are perfectly legal to own and possess, and it would be hard for them to prove intent just from the mere possession. In this case, it is NOT similar to possessing paraphernalia.

If you screen well, you shouldn't be afraid of being set up. Now, if you're newbie friendly, that might be a problem b/c a newbie has no history you can check. And since P411 has been infiltrated by LE in the past (it is rare, but has happened), you should at least try and get a description of the hobbyist from someone who has seen him previously.

And, from what I read, the ladies tend to bring them for a couple of reasons: they can be sure that the integrity hasn't been compromised by purchasing themselves, and they feel like they are expected to have them (probably b/c they use many more than the guys do, and order in bulk).

No problems if you want the guy to carry, but you should clearly communicate this prior to the session. The only guys I know that carry their own are ones that have a definite preference for a specific kind for a particular reason.

[Naomi4u]

Personally I don't want my clients carrying condoms. I do understand that most of these men are married or have SOs and I don't want to get them in trouble. If you're paying me $300 and up an hour .. I will always come prepared. If I were paying someone such amount I'd expect them to come prepared for the date and with more than one condom LOL. I never ask the client to make stops before the appointment.. As long as you have my donation and working equipment .. I'm all smiles

[Sweet N Little]

Agreed, It should be SOP to have all the "tools" of the trade.
Note to self, buy eveybrand of comdoms made

[ilsjs]

+1

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Personally I don't want my clients carrying condoms. I do understand that most of these men are married or have SOs and I don't want to get them in trouble. If you're paying me $300 and up an hour .. I will always come prepared. If I were paying someone such amount I'd expect them to come prepared for the date and with more than one condom LOL. I never ask the client to make stops before the appointment.. As long as you have my donation and working equipment .. I'm all smiles

[ANONONE]

I think both parties should bring protection. You can never be too safe or prepared. I usually do outcall and have plenty of supplies on hand. When I do an incall, I will bring a smaller scale of the BFE I provide when it is my room.

I have a little road bag with toiletries, condoms, massage oils, chocolate, two bottles of water, a few candle tins and an I-pod and mini speaker system with a couple of playlists marked at about an hour (helps watch the clock without watching the clock). I started doing this about a couple of decades ago when I was cash and dashed by the old, "I am out of condoms scam."

Now I just do it to have a better session if the lady is into massage and candles and the BFE scene. If she isn't, or if she is uncomfortable with a gent bringing a small toiletry bag or if she has her place well outfitted and I don't need any of those supplies, the bag stays in the car or zipped and on the chair with my folded clothes. Better to have it and not need any of it, than to wish you had it.

Also, just a little hobby hint here: I have found that when going to an incall if you have a small bag slung on your shoulder and breeze right past the front desk, they think you are just another guest. If the lady feels awkward and communicates to me that she wants me to not bring anything, I still put an extra condom in my pocket just in case. I may also ask if they want something from Starbucks or something like that so I can carry something in. It may seem silly, but even after all these years, I am a bit skittish to go into a hotel I am not staying at without something as a prop in my hands to give me a perceived purpose, just on the off chance I was ever querried during one of those LEO consensual encounter moments. Keep in mind when I first started hobbying, many hotels still had house detectives.

[Lacey Companion]

Hi again Memory and again glad to see you made it. I am sure you will do as well here as you did on e.com

You know I agree with you completely and use to have "bring whatever you need to satisfy your experience to the fullest" on my ad there.

Charles, I do agree with you to a degree that we all have the right to carry things that are not illegal. However, gloves and a flashlight found on a robber are brought up as "supporting evidence" at trial and so are things such as condoms and toys in the hobby. If you watch the details of news reports on busts, it is easily noticed that the first things usually mentioned are a large supply of condoms, sexual enhancements and a stack of cash. It's best to stay prepared with a few on you and keep everything else somewhere besides in your business office or supply kit; especially when meeting someone for the first time. Why build the case against you. Appearances are everything. However Memory, you should watch how you word things too. Tell them to "bring everything they need to satisfy their experience to their fullest" rather than "bring your own condoms or tools". Then have a few on hand in case they don't get your meaning. Most will bring a pack of 3 and therefore will leave the remainder so they are not carrying them home. If you use all 3, you still have a few more. Then also, you can remember what they prefer for next time and be prepared fir them with their preference/s.

I would suggest not bringing toys with you on first dates in Alabama and Mississippi. As odd as it sounds, it is a felony to possess those tools without a doctor's prescription stating that they are marital enhancements. I personally believe this to be a discriminatory law against lesbians but it can and will be applied to those being arrested for violating sex laws.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by ANONONE

Keep in mind when I first started hobbying, many hotels still had house detectives.

And they still do...the staff lol

[Lacey Companion]

I have been trying out some alternatives to hotels. It's a nice break from that lifestyle too.

Anon, you are a brilliant hobbyist Baby. Makes me wanna come home early I like to check in as 2 or more guests and bring a gift bag with Plum wine, a happy birthday balloon and a card as if it's a special occasion. It's also good for the perception of employees to have lunch or dinner with a date.

[ANONONE]

Originally Posted by Lacey Companion

Anon, you are a brilliant hobbyist Baby.

Nearly everything I have learned was taught to me by exceptional providers over the years. I can't take credit for it beyond being an apt pupil.