HOW THINGS HAVE CHANGED

[heinz5710]

Originally Posted by Honey of Longview

Just my thoughts on the topic. Since I've moved to Northeast Texas, I have never met so many gentlemen. I have been offered a relationship with being well taken care of and spoiled, along with just going on a date. I've never accepted the offer since I am business type female. The asshole men are the ones who don't want to pay, who can't really afford you just doesn't want to admit it so when you turn then down they get upset and began calling you out your name. That's a typical broke asshole for you. Also you have some gentlemen who think because their respectful ect. that they can overstay their visit. So the point is you need to just be you, don't express your wants to need a type of guy that in the end you may not want. Most men i've met, they are respectful if you are. Most men are busy but offer the option of showering with you or afterwards. Offer a body rubb before to make your client feel relaxed. There's so many ways to gain respect. One thing i know men dislike is a woman to rush him, be disrespectful r have no interest in what she does during the appointment.

You seem to be quite the business woman. Try to understand the problem men face. There are many men out there desiring a woman's company. There are very few women offering company for the enjoyment of it. Most of the ladies desire the unattached big spenders. By the hour or longer there are many escorts out there IF you can afford them. They don't care if you are attached. If the money is on the table, the body is yours. If the men don't desire to be rushed, it might have something to do with the fact that they are paying by the hour. They also want a GFE. It is my opinion that most provide that fantasy. However, some gentlemen forget that it is a fantasy until the hour is up and they are reminded. Go ahead and be the business woman. Just remember that many of the gentlemen are in it for your femininity and not your business skills. Sugar babes are lovers not escorts. I was always delighted to pay for a real woman but unhappy to pay for business women. I was surrounded by those . Most dropped their mouth open if you thought of something physical and the paid ladies just dropped their mouth open and often didn't have a clue why the man was there. When I was hobbying, I desired only 'real' women. If you couldn't forget that the money was there and enjoy yourself, you never saw me again. That group included the ones who demanded I shower and gargle before, never went a few minutes over, and laid there like a log as if to say "Are you done yet?" It wasn't just an act to me. It is a good thing I have money.

[Guest062114-5]

"I was always delighted to pay for a real woman but unhappy to pay for business women."

This is something I hear from my guy friends. Guys who hobby. Guys who just go to strip clubs. Even guys who don't hobby.

They aren't cheap. They are quite generous, but the "all business" attitude really turns them off. Just mentioning anything about money turns then completely off.

A good example is a couple of weeks ago I was at a strip club with a guy friend. He LOVES the ladies, but HATES the hustle. Girls came up...acted nicely, sat down had a drink, then started the hustle...one way or another, we'd get rid of them for $20-40.

Then one girl came, sat on his lap and just talked. She was there for about 45 min. until we got ready to leave. As we left, she jumped up, hugged him and thanked him for hanging out and for the drinks. Said, I'm usually here (whatever) days, I hope you come back. Then he slipped $300 in her g-string. I'm sure she thought it was less and was happily surprised when she counted it, AFTER we left.

Guys give me money all the time because it makes them happy to do it. It turns me on, because I don't ask for it. Some people here don't believe that's how it works in my life, but I read your post and I'm reminded that there are plenty of guys that see it my way.

I really appreciate your post and your honesty. Thank you.

xoxo,
LMx

[myprototype]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

"I was always delighted to pay for a real woman but unhappy to pay for business women."

This is something I hear from my guy friends. Guys who hobby. Guys who just go to strip clubs. Even guys who don't hobby.

They aren't cheap. They are quite generous, but the "all business" attitude really turns them off. Just mentioning anything about money turns then completely off.

A good example is a couple of weeks ago I was at a strip club with a guy friend. He LOVES the ladies, but HATES the hustle. Girls came up...acted nicely, sat down had a drink, then started the hustle...one way or another, we'd get rid of them for $20-40.

Then one girl came, sat on his lap and just talked. She was there for about 45 min. until we got ready to leave. As we left, she jumped up, hugged him and thanked him for hanging out and for the drinks. Said, I'm usually here (whatever) days, I hope you come back. Then he slipped $300 in her g-string. I'm sure she thought it was less and was happily surprised when she counted it, AFTER we left.

Guys give me money all the time because it makes them happy to do it. It turns me on, because I don't ask for it. Some people here don't believe that's how it works in my life, but I read your post and I'm reminded that there are plenty of guys that see it my way.

I really appreciate your post and your honesty. Thank you.

xoxo,
LMx

+1

[dreamvacationdates]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Waxing nostalgic at 23 is a peculiar sport. Do tell us more about "back in the day."

LOL, I got a Kirby Vacuum cleaner older then her, back in the day yeah 2010, she missed the party back in the 70's, before, AIDS and crack, heck back then even the SW's dressed up and looked nice.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

"I was always delighted to pay for a real woman but unhappy to pay for business women."

This is something I hear from my guy friends. Guys who hobby. Guys who just go to strip clubs. Even guys who don't hobby.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

"I was always delighted to pay for a real woman but unhappy to pay for business women."
This is something I hear from my guy friends. Guys who hobby.
xoxo,
LMx

Exactly. And also why some guys have ATF's, which relationships can sometimes run for years, and, omg, even end up as friends.

[fine dimes21]

LMx reassuring comments on how I am not the only one that feels that way. I used to be a strip club visitor quite frequently. I have noticed there were hustle gals and all the guys knew that but likewise it seems more and more of them having that type attitude, the business aspect "hustle" as you stated.
I understand they are there to make money but what happened to socializing to get to know someone a little bit, it doesn't have to be the life story of person but a little connection goes a long way. I hardly go because frankly it isn't worth the trouble anymore and wasting time and not having a good time. Even a typical scenario that other guys on this board have discussed, it baffles me how you ask for dances while she is on stage, and point to where you are sitting, how they leave off stage and go try to solicit other guys that have no interest whatsoever. Back then, while it happened not much, but now, the girls would hardly try to find you. Makes no sense to me.

As some of the other gals stated the hobby has changed, quickies are more prevalent, which I noticed that too. I see more ads on it than back then it seems. Back then, you could carry on some pretty decent conversations and now with one pm if anymore I would say gals think you are time waster is my opinion.


I think it is all how a gal markets herself as a bng gal or a gal that prefers multis. I have seen gals that market themselves as both though.
I see cons and pros, but the multi has long term benefits of repeat clients for longer times not to say b n g doesn't have its benefits. It really is more fun. I have to agree the times have changed but I had a blast back in the days. Not to say I don't have fun anymore just not as often now. Seems much harder regardless of where you go.

[NTFunGuy]

Originally Posted by jframe2

Well, the sentiments expressed by the OP work both ways.

As a hobbiest (and in my civilian world) -
I am tired of text-speak;
I am tired of misuse of grammar;
I am tired of lack of spell checking before one hits send.

Personally, how a person presents themselves in their ads or board threads is the thing that I remember and would determine whether I move on.

Just my 2 cents worth ........

Hey jframe I couldn't agree with you more. You hit the nail on the head with this one.