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Skout · 03-05-2014, 02:59 PM

Glad to hear he was nice about it. While the situation would understandably upset the client, he should extend a level of understanding as well. You notified him as soon as you were aware and didn't try to fake your way through a session. Your offer was most gracious and commendable. Anyone who would hold a grudge and refuse to follow up on your offer is probably not a client worthy of your time anyway.

IMAPACKIN · 03-05-2014, 03:09 PM

Maybe offer a BNG at a significantly reduced rate? The poor bastard's balls are already loaded, and trying to book a plan B on such short notice and "pressure" could prove very frustrating.

mtabsw · 03-05-2014, 04:36 PM

1. Show respect as you did by letting him know at the earliest you knew. Nothing frosts me more than a multi hour delay to take 1 minute and email or txt
2. Show some more respect by showing you understand time is money to us as well, and put a dollar number on it. I have taken vacation or at a minimum lost time I could have been making money. At my age an extra hour isn't as valuable as a discount. The amount of course is up to you and when it happened should be factored in - if it's the night before I'm not out anything except juggling my schedule. I haven't drive 1+ hours each way.

Sir Lancehernot · 03-05-2014, 05:43 PM

I'd be upset, for the reasons previously enumerated. I have very little time for which I can be unaccounted for. I try to plan my encounters in advance, which means I'm really pumped up (mentally, at least) for the meeting. A cancellation is a real letdown.

I was recently NCNSed; when she told me she would make it up to me, I got really excited, for I had visions of a session that would have been even better than the previous one. Unfortunately, "I'll make it up to you" meant same price, same time constraints, and a session of slightly reduced quality. At least she showed up next tine; I've had two NCNSes in a row before.

From where I sit, therefore, where merely showing up next time qualifies as "meeting expectations," actually doing something to make up for the inconvenience exceeds expectations.

Tsmokies · 03-05-2014, 06:38 PM

Maybe a reduced rate bj session would have made it more believable in his situation

OklahomaSooner · 03-05-2014, 08:30 PM

1/2 off is nice, but how about 1 free Hr with 1 hr....just my nickel's worth...but has happened to me in the past when a 3-some was planned and was more then made up to me at another time.

Gentlemen Rendezvous · 03-05-2014, 08:51 PM

Shit happens,

I would suggest going thru with the appointment and alter the activities accordingly. I would explain in person what happened and give him the choice of,

1. Going thru with altered activities, or
2. Rescheduling at a reduced date

I think you handled it about as well as you could.
Stuff happens

Spikebaby · 03-06-2014, 07:52 AM

This has happened to me before...as I am sure it has to many other ladies.
I let the gentleman know and offered him to still get together but minus a few activities at a reduced rate. I also offered him the option of a make-up session with a little extra added time. It worked out great!

However, if gentleman got so upset with me because of something that was out of my control and I tried my best to make the situation work.....I don't want him as someone I would see.

Communication goes a long way

Spikebaby

Chevalier · 03-06-2014, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

For the record. He was upset but NICE and understanding about it.

This thread is more about what can a provider do to help show respect and appreciation that your time is valuable when she has to cancel at the last moment.

Sometimes I've been disappointed; sometimes I've been upset. There is a difference. It tends to be a question of whether I see it as something outside her control (I'm disappointed with circumstances, but it doesn't affect my feelings about her) or a case of lack of professionalism, i.e., not respectful and considerate of my time. And how I see it may depend on her reputation, my history with her, and how she expresses herself in that situation. There was one lady who was late the first three times I saw her, once by more than an hour. But I never doubted her sincerity or her appreciation of her clients.

How to show respect and appreciation that my time was valuable? I never ask for anything. Some ladies have offered, of their own volition, a discount or extra time. Some have not. But showing respect and appreciation is something that is best established well before the event arises, and offering something to make up for the problem may not convince me of her respect and appreciation.

If I'm already convinced of her respect and appreciation, a discount or extra time may be a nice bonus but I'll likely continue seeing her without any hint of resentment even if she doesn't offer anything to make up for the last minute cancellation.

If I'm not already convinced of her respect and appreciation, a discount or extra time may not be sufficient to see her again.

corona · 03-06-2014, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

For the record. He was upset but NICE and understanding about it.

This thread is more about what can a provider do to help show respect and appreciation that your time is valuable when she has to cancel at the last moment.

Your offer was more than appropriate and very generous IMO. I would be a little bummed, but excited at the makeup session as well. It's not like it was personal.

Guest112814 · 03-06-2014, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Spikebaby

This has happened to me before...as I am sure it has to many other ladies.
I let the gentleman know and offered him to still get together but minus a few activities at a reduced rate. I also offered him the option of a make-up session with a little extra added time. It worked out great!

However, if gentleman got so upset with me because of something that was out of my control and I tried my best to make the situation work.....I don't want him as someone I would see.

Communication goes a long way

Spikebaby

BINGO -act like a jerk and still want the lady to see you??? Want a good session? Ladies enjoy IOP too.

If it'd been me and Kaylee didn't feel comfortable playing due to the circumstances and based on her attitude and personality I would have taken her to lunch - the make-up session would be better for both of us.

Hobby is meant to be fun, be an ass to her and expecting the meeting to be enjoyable is ridiculous.

Spikebaby · 03-06-2014, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by EasyLover214

BINGO -act like a jerk and still want the lady to see you??? Want a good session? Ladies enjoy IOP too.

If it'd been me and Kaylee didn't feel comfortable playing due to the circumstances and based on her attitude and personality I would have taken her to lunch - the make-up session would be better for both of us.

Hobby is meant to be fun, be an ass to her and expecting the meeting to be enjoyable is ridiculous.

completely agree!!!!!

Spikebaby

Sami · 03-06-2014, 01:37 PM

I would have offered him a FBSM L2, at the rate that matches this. 1 he is here, 2 he was expecting some relief, 3 it's going to be 50/50 chance he can get a plan B. At the very least it would relieve the blue balls, and some of the disappointment.

If he was okay with the above, I would also offer him extra time on the makeup visit.

Barrymccockinner · 03-06-2014, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Sami

I would have offered him a FBSM L2, at the rate that matches this. 1 he is here, 2 he was expecting some relief, 3 it's going to be 50/50 chance he can get a plan B. At the very least it would relieve the blue balls, and some of the disappointment.

If he was okay with the above, I would also offer him extra time on the makeup visit.

That's the best answer. For many of the guys here (who typically have disposable income to be able to hobby), it's not about the rate, but the time we spend with you. It's hard to find unaccounted for time, so a BnG may have been OK with him at the time (I would have politely declined, I prefer the passion of a GFE session). And rather than a discount, additional extra time with you ladies is much more valuable to me.

dallaswill · 03-06-2014, 09:22 PM

LOL. Cancel at last minute. I have been with providers who started their monthly 5 min after I walked into the room. I was asked to run to CVS for tampons. This has happened 3 times. Another time I had to tell the lady she had just started. You just roll with it. Real men know how to handle it. If not, then dump the guy.