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Hooker, Provider, Whore, Prostitute, etc. - What's the difference?
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I like this way
Use prostitute when you talk in general of the profession,
Use Provider when setting things up.
Use whore, dirty whore,little slut between the sheets.
Use hooker when you are done with her and just bragging online.
And the winner for best response in this thread goes to Foxychica!!!
Responses such as WU's have a fair amount of horseshit as well, if he's trying to imply there aren't common inferences attached to various titles. If it makes any chest thumpers feel better about themselves to use certain titles... so be it... but don't try to be so chickenshit as to not admit it.
Titles used usually say more about the (john, trick, wallet, client) than they do the (whore, prostitute, hooker, provider).
I have used all of the above... but usually use "playmate" for the femme... just me, sayin...
You called me a playmate once...a lifetime ago. Xoxo
Playmate just seems to be more apt for the way I choose to approach the whole hobby... it's all about fun for me.
I don't mind a bit if it's just a job for the femmes!
Your JOB is to provide FUN for me... the more fun you provide, the more value I place on your product/service...plain & simple!
Hooker sounds so 1970s.
Prostitute sounds too legal
Whore sounds too degrading
Escort sounds so 1990s
Call Girl sounds so 1980s
Provider sounds too professional
John sounds too impersonal
Trick sounds so 1970s
Wallet sounds too businesslike
Client sounds too professional/clinical
Daddy sounds too weird
I prefer calling a girl babe, playmate or mistress (as in having an affair).
I don't really care what a gal calls me-- most seem to call me babe or honey.
To be honest the only difference between them is the length of the letters so there isno reason to ever get offended if this is your profession. How you treat your clients will determine what they call you and how they treat you. My .02 cents
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Originally Posted by MrTim2
Same goes for the Clients, Johns, Tricks, etc. I know it may sound more legitimate or professional to use he terms Provider & Client, but when it gets down to brass tacks, everyone knows what's really going on.
Do the ladies get offended if they are referred to as a Hooker, Prostitute or Whore instead of Provider? Same goes for the men; do you get offended if you're referred to as a John or Trick?
I brought this up to a lady and she laughed, and said that anyone who gets offended by using terms to describe the relationship other than Provider/Client is just kidding themselves.
Everyone knows what's really going on, so why sugarcoat it? Just curious.
Obviously they all refer to the same thing, some are more charged than others. Some ladies seem to feel empowered by fully embracing the "Madonna-Whore" dichotomy and others dislike the more negatively connotated words and find them distasteful.
I agree with Caroline though, ultimately it's all about the intent and the context in which the words are used. Almost any of them can be used to either denigrate or merely describe depending on the context.
I tend to be more formal and professional in my communication style so I stick to "Provider" as that's the universally agreed upon PC term on the boards. BCD though in a more PSE type session I like to talk dirty and do use the word "whore" from time to time. It's got little to do with her profession though and more to do with what she's doing for me at that moment and the fact that the word isn't acceptable in polite society as a whole so it's sexy to me. I use it with freaky civie girls too. Most ladies understand this as well and don't take any offense to it in the heat of the moment, to the contrary actually.
I'm unconcerned with the terms used to describe me as a client. Frankly none of those words have much negative connotation in my mind. Even if they did I could care less, it's not going to hurt my feelings any.
The attitude and approach is what's important. CarolineDavenport stated it best when she said, "Just don't say it with derision and judgment". Words such as ho, hooker, prostitute, whore, coochie-mama, etc....all carry negative overtones. It signals a poor attitude or a lower level of respect by the person using such a term, possibly a disdain for women. It might even offer a signal of a person that may not know better for whatever reasons.
Had a very well known provider in my area call herself a prostitute once and I took 8 minutes of our play time to explain why she should not look at herself that way. You ladies provide an important service to me and the other gentlemen of ECCIE and I for one express that appreciation by using the right term, provider. I hold you in high regard and don't want you to think otherwise...until you demonstrate to me otherwise...i.e. NCNS, clock watching, etc.
Had a very well known provider in my area call herself a prostitute once and I took 8 minutes of our play time to explain why she should not look at herself that way.
While I appreciate and agree with the sentiment of your post, the part I quoted I have an idealistic problem with, and I'll explain why.
While it is very sweet of you to think of us in a positive light and want to use terms that you consider positive, it is actually very arrogant and condescending of you to lecture her about what she chooses to call her profession. Maybe for her prostitute is just a word. No negative connotation whatsoever. Just the word she likes the sound of that is appropriate to describe her profession. Maybe "provider" sounds too much like "healthcare provider" to her and brings to mind images of bedpans and sponge baths. My point is this: You would not go to your dentist's office and tell him/her "Oh, you shouldn't call yourself a dentist; that sounds so generic. Call yourself an oral hygiene provider." Your dentist would smile politely and think to themselves how much of an arrogant prick you are to try to tell them their business. Or you wouldn't go to the carpenter installing your new cabinets and tell him "don't call yourself a carpenter, call yourself a woodworking specialist." It's super condescending. Just because you have a problem with the word "prostitute" doesn't mean she does, or even that you should. It is just a word.
I'm not trying to vilify you. I'm just offering a different perspective. Men often don't realize when you are being SUPER condescending to us ladies. You think it is sweet and you are being helpful, but really you're just making us feel like you consider us inferior and incapable of using our own minds competently. If a lady ASKS for your advice, that's one thing and she'll be happy to receive it. But lecturing a lady unprompted about anything that isn't directly affecting you is rude.
They are all just labels but I believe the word(s) you choose to use also define you as a person such as or your attitude toward people or groups of people.
I would never use derogatory names other than provider, but normally always use lady, woman, and such. Other names may not bother the woman, but it does cut deep with me. I wasn't raised like that.
yup.
