Thanks for all the responses. I really do enjoy reading everyone's point of view. Its kind of why I like this place, no one is ever scared to say exactly what they think or how they feel about certain topics that may or may not pertain to them.
I do agree with Sexy Katrina, it is pretty cunty to withhold references, but citizen44 I wouldn't feel comfortable blasting the cunts on the public form just because their provider work ethic is amateur like and behavior seems as if they are either insecure or just unaware of how things work in this world. In a perfect world all men who hobby would have P411. But here we are. Its fine no one has to out the simple minded people publicly. Like anita stated earlier ulterior screening methods do exist and are also becoming even more necessary. Though it is a bit frustrating, no one will stop me or stand in the way of me making my money.
Its so funny because some clients occasionally ask what did their references say about them. So when they ask I do tell them. Usually not details if any, but I do say "they had nothing but good things to say about you". Or I will point blank say "______ and _____ didn't bother responding to me". Just so they know who not to use as a reference in the future.
Just like the men have a TDL, most providers have a DNS list, I invented a FTCL.(Fuck that cunt list). If I reached out to any lady who decides to ignore a screening pm then it is noted. If a potential client uses me as a reference on a list of 3 or more I hope the other ladies will be helpful.
Typically I am very helpful when it comes to people playing safe. Mainly because no one helped me out when I started and to many unfortunate things came to pass.
My point is when getting an email or pm for screening and verifying a client I treat it just as I would an appointment request. I answer as fast as life allows. If I'm busy it might take an hour or two but usually within 10 -20 min. Anyone who has tried to schedule with me knows that my TCB skill are anything but nonexistent. It just sucks that not everyone has that same common courtesy.
HINT: for the insecure providers who don't answer references for whatever your reason. You can and should make some sort of rule that says if your past clients haven't seen you in ___amount of time period they can't use you as a reference.
what does that do you ask?
#1 Your clients know for a fact they can count on you for a reference when needed. (clients love consistency)
#2 when that time period expires they know they have to make an appointment with you again to be able to benefit from your consistency. (Win Win)
