What drives men to see escorts? Poll

[Bebe Le Strange]

Originally Posted by smiley

Good poll. At the risk of speaking for all hobbyists, I think the highest response rate would be to the question:

"Do you see escorts as a relatively safe way to add variety to your sex life, without the numerous pitfalls that come with real-life relationships".

There are so many negative repercussions that can come with having an affair. Divorce and unplanned extramarital pregnancies are two. If you have an affair at the workplace, not only could you lose your wife, and time with your family, but also your job. It's just a much safer transaction to have an anonymous liason every now and then, than having one that could wander outside the confines of a bedroom.

Thank you for sharing! I would think that a hobbyist still has the same pitfalls with an escort in the fact that it could come back to bite him somehow. After reading so many posts over the years on these escort boards about the hobbyists whose wife / girlfriend found out, or an escort getting pregnant, getting caught in a sting, or an escort blackmailing, anything along those lines.

But I do see that it may seem less of a danger. Albeit most escorts are very careful and most do treat client privacy with utmost regard.

[smiley]

Of course there are some risks inherent with the hobby, discovery being one of the biggest. I think we all try not be cavalier about the risks, and minimize them as much as possible.

After reading so many posts over the years on these escort boards about the hobbyists whose wife / girlfriend found out, or an escort getting pregnant, getting caught in a sting, or an escort blackmailing, anything along those lines.

I'm not saying it's never happened, but I've never heard of an escort confronting one of her former clients because she got pregnant. Most of the hobbyists on this board with SO's would not dream of having unprotected sex with an escort. Still pregancies could happen, but without taking all her clients to the Jerry Springer show for DNA testing, how would she know who the father is?

As far as stings go, by choosing well-reviewed providers, and staying away from the SW scene, the chances of being involved in one of those is considerably less than 1%, which I find within my tolerance level.

For an escort to start blackmailing a client would be vocational suicide, but I agree it happens. By keeping the relationship anonymous, and dealing with established providers, I believe the threat of blackmail drops considerably below what it would be in a civie relationship.

Again, good poll. I'll be interested to see how it goes as more people take it.

[TX.TnA]

Missing catagories, IMHO:
"Is a current bad relationship driving you to see escorts?" X
"Are just plain not getting any from your SO?" X

[charlestudor2005]

What drives men to see escorts?

A sure thing. Or at least to a sure thing as you can get thru an ad.

You can wine, dine and entertain a lady for the evening in the hopes that spending the money necessary to do so is going to pay off at the end of the evening.

Or, you can skip the risk.

[BTW, although it's never happened to me, I've always wondered what would happen if all she really offered was companionship. How would that shake out?]

[NorthWood]

You missed this:

Many older guys like younger women, and this is, practically speaking, the only venue where, for instance, a horny 57-year old guy can arrange to be with very beautiful young women who will be intimate. It can happen here in "our thing" as often as one likes/can afford/can arrange; in real life not so much.

[tia travels]

Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

What drives men to see escorts?

I thought it was their cars. LOL j/k Bebe....interesting poll!

[rrabbit6926]

Originally Posted by tia travels

I thought it was their cars. LOL j/k Bebe....interesting poll!

[Bebe Le Strange]

With regard to how I put this poll together, I agree it's lacking. I put down questions and as one person pointed out I should have made them more in the form of statements. My bad on that.. lol

Just check what ever questions you feel apply to you. By the way wonderful feedback! Keep it coming! You guys are great! =)

[TR8368]

One missing question is living in a sexless marriage...its very painnful, but seeing someone else occasionally really helps.
Good poll.
Tom

[Satyrrical]

BJs

[djdude]

BBBJs without having to hear boring stories about the pottery barn or other mundane trivialities that most of my ex-GFs used to beat me down with.

[Bebe Le Strange]

Originally Posted by TR8368

One missing question is living in a sexless marriage...its very painnful, but seeing someone else occasionally really helps.
Good poll.
Tom

I think this is indeed a missing component. So glad you bring it up. I guess there are many reasons for a sexless marriage. Could be anything from years of poor communication and built up resentment leading to the wife to no longer desire sex with her current partner, or... an ailing wife, one who physically can no longer have sex due to some illness. Then there is the ever present problem of menopause and the effect it has on a woman depleting her libido and causing a host of physical symptoms. I would hope in all of these cases or the ones I have missed, that couples with these problems try all means to find solutions to them. I think in the end though a very candid discussion is needed between both.

I do empathize with those in the above referenced. I empathize with both the woman and the man in these cases. Too bad that we as a society have "drummed" into the head of so many women that there should be nothing but absolute loyalty with regard to sex. If some of these women could open their mind to the concept of allowing outside sexual partners for their significant other in such cases.

I'd love more feedback on this definitely.

[Bebe Le Strange]

Originally Posted by djdude

BBBJs without having to hear boring stories about the pottery barn or other mundane trivialities that most of my ex-GFs used to beat me down with.

LMAO,

They actually try talking with your dick in their mouth?

[charlestudor2005]

To the OP:

I'm just curious: why did you start this thread? It seems to me that you are doing research for an article or a scholarly paper based on anecdotal evidence.

Are we the white rats in your maze?

[Tracey P]

Originally Posted by smiley

Most of the hobbyists on this board with SO's would not dream of having unprotected sex with an escort.

You'd be shocked how many ask!! ("Ive been fixed for 20 years", "Please, Im clean", "Just for a minute" etc, etc...) Im always dumdfounded by the sheer number of men, married and single, who want to take that extra risk.

As for the poll, I think men just have an inherent biological urge to be with a variety of women. They can make all the excuses they want (GF talks about pottery too much, wife only wants mish, etc) but I think its way more simple than everyone is making it out to be