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viviantonight · 09-01-2011, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by jokacz

Hey Viv, is your thing still working. If so maybe you can share your take! Don't mean to call you out, only if you're comfortable. I've seen a couple relationships work for a while when both were in the biz doing duos MMF FMF. I know one that drags on, but I don't think it's healthy. Kinda like a battered wife syndrome where she just won't leave. I couldn't do it with an SP that was active. Retired, yes.

working..yes ...healthy well I don't know about that lol jk we have our issues just like any other couple but some how it works.

"Ed" likes some different stuff...he actually loves it when I go out and play. He is a bit of a cuckold so from a provider standpoint it's great! I get to do whatever I want as long as I tell him all the juicy details!

We found a untapped market and have learned how to have fun and profit together with the voyeur, cuckold and group stuff so that's been amazing!

There is one lil issue and that is my jealousy...I am very territorial, jealous, possessive and a bit nuts when it comes to him! Ed is a very good looking guy...6'4 220 tan bald and hung!!! he is the ideal playmate for most women...and a lot of guys lol. Despite my freedom, he has NONE. The thought of him with another woman makes me physically ill. He is ok with it for now...I can see it getting old down the road but for now I will keep him on the leash! If i keep yanking at it maybe he'll choke and die before it breaks and he slips away!! ahahaha JK (seriously that was a joke)

all that being said if I wasn't with ed I would not be in a relationship..in order to do that I would have to be honest about what I am doing ...and I would NEVER trust ANYONE with that info....

thanks for asking

NormalBob · 09-01-2011, 11:17 PM

I tried the dating scene.

Total disaster for me.

I told my wife a year ago about this and invited her in. Not her lifestyle.

Recently we revisited this.

I wish I wasn't so addicted to being with women who are assertive sexually.

offshoredrilling · 09-02-2011, 01:43 AM

sometimes it works. Other times it does not.

Guest120615-3 · 09-02-2011, 03:50 AM

I would imagine that the largest obstacles to any provider/civilian relationship would be jealousy and honesty. For any relationship to succeed, full disclosure would be necessary. A man would either accept a provider's choice to earn living or not.

Jealousy is the hazard to any relationship, more likely here from both sides. Sure a man could feel deprived that his woman has a choice of lovers but he must remain "monogamous," unless granted certain allowances. Conversely, a provider may lack the necessary trust for a relationship to succeed. How many of her clients are married men?

Personally, jealousy would not be an issue. My SO could be banging the guy in the cubicle next to her's and/or her old boyfriends from Facebook (fucking Facebook!) and I wouldn't know about it. I would just need the full-disclosure deal. My issue would be that I'm the protective-type. I would worry about a woman's safety in this profession and the potential bad clients. If I found out that a client was too rough with my woman, I would need to rip out his throat! But that's me

Justin Heranus · 09-02-2011, 01:05 PM

I have to agree with mwebber that my only issue would i would be worried about their safety. That is some thing that can't be helped. When you care for some one you are always going to worry if they are alirght. The rest of it wouldn't bother me at all. As long as the person was honest and upfront with me from the start. If they hid it and it came out later. Then that would be a different story. I wouldn't be mad I would be more disappointed in them for not being upfront with me. If it was the right person I think we could work through it but I know it could be stressful for a while to both parties. So best is to be upfront. I agree with lynn if you tell them upfront and they accept, then they made their bed and need to accept it or get out. If you ask me what I am looking for in a female. The only answer I would give you is that she is female. If I want to be with that person, I will accept her for the good, bad and indifferent.
OK sorry got a little side track. I tend to write books that's why i don't respond much lol. Main thing is find out what type of person he is. As you can see by the post some people can live with it and some can't. The important thing is don't feel like you have to change who you are or what you do for a person. If you do, down the line it is going to fail. Plain fact is eventually subconsciously you will end up resenting the person because you had to change yourself for them. It will lead to a lot of arguments and stress. Sorry I could go on but don't want to bore you to death lol. I hope every thing works out for you and you find happiness

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naughtyfun · 09-02-2011, 01:31 PM

I have dated dancers and providers and didnt mind what they did for money at all. I actually preferred it and we would do MFM 3some all the time it is an untapped market (like Viv and her man). It does take a a certain amount of understanding, but thats the case with all relationships. Any provider that truly enjoys her job has a certain attitude about her, and she should find a guy that is as open minded as her. If not, your job will be only one more thing that the two of you do not agree apon. This is just my opinion and not meant to offend anyone.

Doove · 09-02-2011, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by naughtyfun

I have dated dancers and providers and didnt mind what they did for money at all. I actually preferred it and we would do MFM 3some all the time it is an untapped market (like Viv and her man).

Fair enough. But i would suggest that if a girl finds someone who can accept her being a provider without his having a sense of "what's in it for him", then she should realize that she's found someone who truly adores her.

offshoredrilling · 09-02-2011, 02:38 PM

Kinda like a friend in need, is a friend indeed.

Lostboy13 · 09-02-2011, 06:06 PM

M,
I tend to agree with you! Honesty is the key and like you and others have said her safety would be key for me and the prospect of her being hurt would be hard/painful for me!

but she would have to know that! and personally the fact of the matter is that if we agreed my intimate attentions would be focused only on her!

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Originally Posted by mwebber

I would imagine that the largest obstacles to any provider/civilian relationship would be jealousy and honesty. For any relationship to succeed, full disclosure would be necessary. A man would either accept a provider's choice to earn living or not.

Jealousy is the hazard to any relationship, more likely here from both sides. Sure a man could feel deprived that his woman has a choice of lovers but he must remain "monogamous," unless granted certain allowances. Conversely, a provider may lack the necessary trust for a relationship to succeed. How many of her clients are married men?

Personally, jealousy would not be an issue. My SO could be banging the guy in the cubicle next to her's and/or her old boyfriends from Facebook (fucking Facebook!) and I wouldn't know about it. I would just need the full-disclosure deal. My issue would be that I'm the protective-type. I would worry about a woman's safety in this profession and the potential bad clients. If I found out that a client was too rough with my woman, I would need to rip out his throat! But that's me

Lostboy13 · 09-02-2011, 06:07 PM

I couldn't agree with you more Doove!!!!

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Originally Posted by Doove

Fair enough. But i would suggest that if a girl finds someone who can accept her being a provider without his having a sense of "what's in it for him", then she should realize that she's found someone who truly adores her.

Guest091813 · 09-04-2011, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Doove

Fair enough. But i would suggest that if a girl finds someone who can accept her being a provider without his having a sense of "what's in it for him", then she should realize that she's found someone who truly adores her.

i second that doove...

I also believe that being honest is the best thing when dating..the very last time I mixed the two..I was honest and he was cool.. he didn't have any issues with it..if he did..he kept it so himself...at least give him the op to make a choice if he wants to date you or not.. knowing this..I thinks it shows him alot about who you are in general...honest..and strong..

its nice if you can find a man that can understand why your in the biz and he then understands its a way to take care of your family..especially in this day and age..

Guest120615-3 · 09-04-2011, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by anita germane

its nice if you can find a man that can understand why your in the biz and he then understands its a way to take care of your family..especially in this day and age..

Anita, you are absolutely right! For any successful relationship (and in life,) never accept tolerance. Always strive for understanding for who we are as people!

Justin Heranus · 09-04-2011, 10:29 AM

Very well put doove.

This might sound weird but if i had to choose between dating a provider or a female I just started to get to know. I would choose provider first. No not because of the sex

. The way I look at it is now days statistically the chances of the person you are with is going to cheat on you is very high. Then if they do, they don't say anything. You end up with a whole lot of undue stress and drama. With a provider at least you know where you stand and what to expect. Yes there will be some stress like i said before about worrying about there safety. I feel it would be a more open relationship where there isn't alot of secrets and stress about worrying about telling the other person things.
I don't know i have always tried to look at things from both sides when it comes up. Then make a decision more on the logical side than the emotional. Honestly if I was a hot female like many providers here. Would I be a provider? Hell ya with out a second thought. So how could I hold something against them that I would do if I were in their shoes. I don't know those are my thoughts rather they are right, wrong or indifferent.

NYGman · 09-09-2011, 10:02 AM

I can't believe I'm the first one but Anita, I'll be your boyfriend! I won't get jealous about what you do, but I'll ask if I can hide in the closet and watch.

rooster · 09-09-2011, 10:39 AM

Damn! NYGman beat me to it!

But I'll one-up him.... I won't ask to watch! Let's leave work at work!