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Originally Posted by Alfred456
This is a story of a friendship that I had with a dancer at BD’s Dallas. I know that most of you will not be interested in this, but I am sharing my experience because it was a scheme that I am not familiar with. She works days. She is tall, thin, older, attractive.
I know the types of gals at BD’s. The dance churners, the HJ queens, the VIP and give you nothing, the VIP and give you all, the FS in the chairs upstairs. She presents herself well, better than most Cuban girls. She had a story of a tough life in Cuba, of her crossing into the US during Covid and getting stuck for 2 years, her desire to earn money here and send back to help family. She was single and said no to Cuban guys. She comes across as very open and always says she has nothing to hide. I thought she was a strong, independent Latina. Our relationship grew as we spent a significant amount of time together. Including her house. Texting and talking, seeing each other inside and outside the club.
The next step was serious, she indicated she would sign a prenup as it was not about the money. I know that there is a certain financial support that comes with a dancer from Cuba.
I hired someone to check her out. I found out she crossed the border with a man and has lived with him since arriving. I found out so many other details.
The information i found out shows they were working together as a team to deceive me. He has no work permit or history here.
I have no idea what their master plan was with me. I’d love to hear some insight if any of you have have similar experience or knowledge.
I consider it the best 10k I’ve ever spent to hire a PI, and very fortunate to get out of it as I did. But I’m not signing up for some douchebag to tag along.
Pimp/manager/boyfriend? I’ll never know.
PM me for her name or more details.
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I could write a book on this. Alfred, this is
reputedly the modus operandi of the Cuban stripper. And for the majority it's probably true. I say that because that's what strippers, Cuban and non Cuban, tell me. Also, I've gone to some parties and get togethers with Cuban strippers, and most of the women are paired up. The most common occupation of the husbands and boyfriends is Uber driver. I suspect some are busting their asses, and more are sitting on their asses. You can do either if you drive for Uber!
One Cuban stripper I know is fat almost to the point of being obese. But she still pulls down $1000 to $1500 a night at a bar in New Mexico, because she bangs five or so men a day. Her husband and father of her child spends a lot of time in their hometown back in Cuba. He's the richest person there. He's built the nicest house in town and drives the nicest car.
If you visit Cuba, you'll find it's desperately poor. Doctors make around $50 a month, mechanics $20. People hustle to survive. There's a Cuban word for people like your girlfriend and her boyfriend. She's a jinitera and he's a jinitero, meaning she's a sex worker and he's probably a hustler. Deception is par for the course for the jinitera. She's out to make a buck, anyway she can. It's part of the culture. And that doesn't reflect negatively on Cubans. If you or I were in the same situation, we'd probably do the same.
Landing a gringo or American of Latin descent as a husband in the USA actually is the goal of many of these women. This applies to the ones who aren't married and living with the fathers of their children. Many will dump their boyfriends and take up with the gringo if he offers her a better, easier life. Initially, yes, she will deceive you. But the Cuban boyfriend may just come out the loser in the longer term.
The chances of making it with a Cuban stripper are better if,
a. She's alone in the USA, without family or a support network
b. She's new to stripping and didn't do a lot of sex work in Cuba.
c. She doesn't have kids and a husband back in Cuba. Although she may be very open to a relationship even if she does.
d. You speak reasonably good Spanish and her English sucks
e. She's not ambitious or smart.
Please note that a gringo who can pave her way in the USA is a very attractive proposition for women who meet criteria "a", "d" and "e". You might not have to supply her with lots of cash if you can just help her get a driver's license, pay for her utility bill by linking it with her debit card, help her find an apartment and a decent immigration attorney, etc. Do that and you've got a leg up on the Cuban boyfriend! And you too can tell her you're an Uber driver working the night shift and sit on your ass instead!
In other words Alfred, it's possible that her boyfriend had no master plan. But she did. Dump him and marry you.
One other thing to watch out for with the Cubanas, as well as other strippers, is that many consume a lot of alcohol and worse. If that's the case it's going to make a relationship all the more difficult.
Anyway, sorry for your experience, and hope the next one turns out much better.
