1 question for hobbiest and 2 for the ladies

[Laz]

Originally Posted by Likinikki

Just a question...what if a provider offers a *come look first* for a set donation. If you like what you see...it gets applied to your date...if not, you basically pay a cancellation fee. Would any of you be willing to do that?

I would never want anyone to sit through a date with me, if they're not wanting to be there; however, is it fair to the provider to have her time wasted?

If the pics online are accurate then the only question is personality and that is not a quick thing to determine. If the pics are inaccurate ( not even close or years old) she does not deserve a cancellation fee.

Leaving after a quick greeting is a difficult thing for me since I would have a hard time rejecting someone like that. It just seems so cold and I would hate to be discarded that casually. I know this is simply supposed to be about a fuck but I can't treat it that casually when there is, I hope, a caring feeling person there.

I think the providers that do not take advantage of the meet and greets are missing out. It is a great way for guys to meet and find people they want to see again.

[Altbier]

Originally Posted by Laz

I think the providers that do not take advantage of the meet and greets are missing out.

Couldn't agree more! There's no substitute for face time.

[Chuck12]

Socials are great for guys that like going to them. Don't get me wrong, but I thought about going to a social before, but thought better of it. I like the privacy that doing everything through the site provides. Only the providers i've seen know what i look like. So for me, i rely on photos, reviews, comments, etc to decide who to see.

Research is the answer and thankfully there is only one time i can remember that when the door opened, i thought about backing out because the pics did not resemble what I got. I was polite and just asked to cut my session to 1/2 hour. Told her something had come up.

It would have to be a major major difference in the looks from what i thought a provider looked like to what she looked like when she opened the door, in order for me to ask to cancel the session.

[black5uperman]

I agree with everyone in there statements...

Research helps but beauty is hard put in words and most providers don't show faces which I understand the reasons not too but for me that's the biggest for me I love the kissing and eye contact. So i would love a meet and greet with providers for the first time.

Maybe dinner/lunch dates before an upcoming appointment before anything is scheduled. Idk the current way works some what. Just trying to see what could be done seeing from the poll so far 80% of fuys that responsed feel the same. Easier to say the true when no one can see you say it.

Like I doubt no guy would be like its happened to me recently then any girl they seen will think they menqt them and guys would look at the most recent review and think they meant that one. I think its funny.

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Answer to OP's Q:
I havent had anyone leave or walk out. I have had people who needed to leave just after they arrived due to a spouse or work calling- they usually offer a cancellation fee all on their own and profusely apologize- then reschedule when they can.

I offer more photo views (pin access) if someone wants/needs to see more of me to make a decision. Or I set up a webcam view live for a few short minutes. Depends on the person, etc.

I have no problem with someone leaving if they feel I have misrepresented myself- because then the fault lies with me and not them.

On the Socials Topic:
I stopped going to socials because alot of the people I met (and didnt even have to meet) acted stuck up and rude. It was so obvious and apparently nothing new- because people were talking about it during and after as they do constantly.


And they say Im mean! LOL Not even close! Dont care anyway.

Except for a select few nice people at the socials- it was an unpleasant experience, very uncomfortable and extremely unwelcoming. Ive had a better time going to private parties, etc with hobbyists and providers outside of the social domains.

Not trying to chap anyones ass, just stating opinionated fact. lol

KKA
XOXO

[black5uperman]

Ha a ladies finally was honest and said yes..... I wonder the reason she wanted to cancel. Oh well we will never know.


What about a meet and greet how much would you think a fair donation for the time invovled me and any ideas on how to make it work? Just curious here

[raedy4funn45]

I have met providers for dinner before a date, which I guess was a way of screening me. I have no problem buying a lady dinner before a date (or even after).

If you stay with the eccie ladies, bait and switch probably isn't a common issue. Some pictures may be older, or taken to hide certain features, and some hide their faces. That is what the reviews are for. I do my research, and so far have been lucky in choosing ladies that have a great personality, which is important to me. Read their posts! And since I am drawn to mature providers, I don't expect a super model body and looks. I expect a lady, who probably had a child, may have a wrinkle or 2, but also knows how to make my visit a memorable one.

I only had 1 bad experience so far, and that was a BP girl. I could have sent her away, but that little head of mine said no.

Stick with the reviewed ladies from eccie, and you shouldn't have problems.

[black5uperman]

I hope ladies don't get to upset about this but im shallow if I'm spending money on a donation I want someone I think is hot and a great personality. For the most part research and pics get you so far but pics can hide a lot and like i have say countless times not every guy has the same taste. I have one girl that I hear guys say how hot she is and how great her smile is, I checked her out and couldn't even finish. This site has tons of beautiful women by my standards but what i like someone might not...

Face to face is the best way to see if your interested even webcam works somewhat like the very smart woman said in this thread. I guess I'm just a horrible person for caring what people look like on the outside as while.

Again I just gotta say to each his own. Research only goes so far. And i would love a lady to offer meet and greets maybe dinner dates. Ladies am I wrong for my statements here? Sorry doing this from work on my cell phone.

[Laz]

A meet and greet for lunch or dinner is something I would like as an option. I am a little less excited about having to pay for her time on top of paying for the meal. I realize that the response is that a ladies time has value that should be compensated. However, for a public only meeting to find out if there is an opportunity for a business relationship I think that is simply a marketing expense. All businesses spend a lot of money to acquire customers and here we are talking about time only.

I know that this is a very simple perspective and there are many more issues that a provider has to consider but this would work for me. Fortunately, this is no longer a big issue for me since I have met a handful of ladies through the meet and greets that can keep me very satisfied.

[PennyLane]

Since I have no pics anywhere, I always meet for a drink somewhere - usually somewhere half way - that way if either of us runs for the hills - it's not too far to go! I've only had one person not see me as a result. After some conversation, I ended up giving him the name of someone who was more his type.

I'm with Nikki - I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I would also like to second FL's advice - socials are a great way to meet people. Looks are a part of it - but attitude and personality are a big part of it for me.

[black5uperman]

Pennylane where are you anywaw never seen you before

[FootLong]

Originally Posted by black5uperman

I guess I'm just a horrible person for caring what people look like on the outside as while.

News Flash: You are not a horrible person for being shallow on this site.

We are not exactly looking here to have discussions about Jungian archetypes or boson quantum states.

Revel in the shallow waters. You won't drown, and they leave you feeling wonderfully fresh and renewed.



Philosophy is the talk on a cereal box
Religion is the smile on a dog

Choke me in the shallow waters
Before I get too deep

- Edie Brickell & the New Bohemians

[RickO'shayRabbitt]

I've turned around and left so many times--always with a full cancellation fee--that I rarely play anymore. I'm picky--not that I have a right to be--but messy incalls, poor hygiene, slightly misrepresentative photos seem to be more the norm than not these days. Not to mention a lack of intelligence and personality.

[black5uperman]

Lol look 30 guys feel the same and 2 ladies stepped up and were honest

[Guest072013]

hmmm.. want honesty? ok...
as i see it and in my experiences as of late...

I am all for getting a cancellation fee, but most hobbyists cant even pay for a regular session and look for "rebates and or specials" so to add yet another fee is not feasible.Then to some of those hobbyists that pull up and want you to open the door as they are in the car then just drive off... what do you about that? lol.. and yes there are MANY that do this.
Or having someone cancel on you 5 minutes before the session because of "family matters" then never call again?
I have had some hobbyists i did not "click" with but ended well. I dont think I have ever not liked someone to just not do my thang. lol.


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