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buck14pt · 04-14-2013, 04:32 PM

Take her out to lunch, be respectful and nice, then tell her the truth.

sean rider · 04-15-2013, 02:44 AM

I think that's about right, but it can be a little awkward telling her at the start of lunch and then having to eat and all, and it's a bit weird to do it at the end because she will resent that you sat their the whole time knowing what was about to happen.

Better to meet at a coffee spot or a park or going for a walk or right after work for a drink etc. Then there is flexibility for her to beat it out of there or stay and talk or whatever.

rockerrick · 04-15-2013, 06:43 AM

She's been gone a month , you're probably already broken up , she just didn't tell you .
(the silent method .......)
NEXT !

blueball5 · 04-15-2013, 06:54 AM

Have her come over. Have sex. Than tell her it was fun but you dont have time for a girlfriend in your life right now. But if she needs anything you will still be her friend. Have sex again. And Goodby, Works evey time.

harkontume · 04-15-2013, 09:20 AM

Step One: Put on your Man Pants.. ( full length with baggy inseam.)

Step Two: Stop texting, blogging, and gaming for one whole day. This will help you with your language skills.

Step Three: Meet her face to face. If you cant break up face to face then maybe you don't WANT to break up.

Step Four: Do Not Smile, it is serious and she needs to be taken serious.

Step Five: Be prepared for her to speak first and tell you its over.

Step Six: Now you can smile.

purtybaby · 04-15-2013, 09:22 AM

Why do you want to break up with her ? If there is something she is doing that has turned you off then I suggest telling her the truth. You can soften the blow if you are clever and thoughtful with your words. If you care enough about this girl to put thought into this then care enough about her to bring flaws of hers to light so she can improve herself and possibly be more successful in her next relationship. We will come in contact with so many people before our eyelids fail on this earth and so few will be honest with you for fear of hurting you. Go deeper then that. In the grand scheme it will hurt her more to continue undesired behaviors. If this is the case ... do the girl a favor.

Fratelli · 04-15-2013, 11:25 AM

The average guy's approach to breaking up: "It's not you, baby, it's me."

Purtybaby's approach to breaking up: "No, actually, it's you. And I want you to know that I'm telling you this for your own good!"

ROFL!!

Guest070313-1 · 04-15-2013, 01:47 PM

Just tell her your a hobbiest, that should do it...maybe...

LuvThatKitty · 04-15-2013, 02:50 PM

Just be honest with her. And do it in person. Don't even think about sending a text or posting on social media. My .02

Codybeast · 04-15-2013, 04:20 PM

How does a grown man preface this thread question with the word "seriously"?

crashkopf · 04-16-2013, 08:20 AM

Breaking up is fun ! Make it so.

Women hate to be dumped. They prefer to do the dumping. Every woman I have broken up with are surprised and amazed I am breaking up with THEM. Something about their ego.

Face to face is the best way. " The chemistry is not there for me ", this is too toxic for me ", " I want to break up our intimate relationship " , whatever. Don't smile is good advice.

Trump says" Your Fired ". Its the same thing. She isn't working out, so fire her. Own up to what makes YOU happy. If she isn't, let her go. You will be doing both of you a favor in the long run. Pull the trigger and get it over.

Codybeast · 04-16-2013, 08:37 AM

If she's even a little bit vindictive or nuts it doesn't matter how nice you are. She will pull some kind of shit due to a bruised ego.

Guest121917-1 · 04-16-2013, 12:45 PM

There is a site that will do it for you for a 10.00 fee, lol.

yimmerz · 04-18-2013, 07:42 AM

It was only supposed to be a temporary trip to visit a sick (flu) grandmother, but she found a regular job in the city and wanted to "get on her feet without any help" and didn't want to mooch off of me so we agreed that she should stay. Haha, I'm pretty sure. I asked her straight up if we are exclusively a bf/gf and she was pissed and cried, etc. I'm guessing that is a question that is forbidden to ask a woman?

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Originally Posted by Codybeast

You're 1st gf? God am I old! The new crops springing up around here get younger and younger.

If you're very first gf of two months is a dancer who's been away for a month are you absolutely sure she's actually your gf to begin with?

Many non-chargers give the gf experience in order to use you (and several other simultaneous "bf's") as human ATM machines and a place to crash.

I been there, done that although I never thought she was really a gf. Lesson learned though.

yimmerz · 04-18-2013, 07:47 AM

I didn't think about trying this one, but I think it could work...except I'm not a confrontational guy and starting an argument for me is as hard as maintaining one, but I'm liking some of the honest ideas. Btw, we've known each other for about 6 months, just been together for 2. Do women do this sort of thing if they are hiding something?

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Originally Posted by Joan

Use the good ol' reverse psychology trick, start an argument and let her break up with you. Works every time ;-)