Why Is It Bad?

[Katalina]

Originally Posted by Budman

You act like giving it away for free means you are settling for the low lifes and if someone pays you then he must be a gentleman. That logic seems kind of weird. Any decent looking lady should be able to go out and pick up a decent guy for NSA sex any night of the week. You seem to think that it is only worth while if you get paid. Nothing wrong with you getting paid for sex but don't act like you can't get laid any other way. Hell, call up someone you have seen from eccie and enjoyed his fucking capabilities and offer him a freebie. Problem solved.

oooooh no. Forgive me because I didn't really clarify. I won't give it free in the hobby world. I DO have fuck buddies in RL (that don't pay). But I don't want a Fuck buddy from the hobby because most men have spouses, see other girls, and won't be able to please me enough (like everyday). That's all I meant. I just posted that because normally when I post about my sex addiction (normally just venting) I get comments like "well why don't you just fuck everyone for free ect ect". Now I have had some fuck buddies from the hobby world but it never ends well. So I stopped doing that.

[SofaKingFun]

Hmmm. Well, I'm not quite sure if this was the answer you were looking for...buuut,

...being an addict myself (ice cream, of all things), I can safely say that I don't know whether yours is an addiction or not. However, I would also like to add that I'm probably not the guy for the job, but I'll fuck you until you find him.


... just trying to help out.

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[Katalina]

Do you like a banana with your icecream?

Originally Posted by SofaKingFun

Hmmm. Well, I'm not quite sure if this was the answer you were looking for...buuut,

...being an addict myself (ice cream, of all things), I can safely say that I don't know whether yours is an addiction or not. However, I would also like to add that I'm probably not the guy for the job, but I'll fuck you until you find him.


... just trying to help out.

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[Nutting Buckeye]

I like putting my "banana" in da cherry!!!

[Mossman]

My too small analyst hat gives me a headache but here goes. Seems like your craving for sex is a validation mechanism. The more a man gives you sex, the more desirable and worth while you feel. You need to realize that your true value comes not from what is between your legs but what is in your head and heart. Money for sex is easy, that's just business. See? $.05, please.

[Toadvine]

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” In other words, a sex addict will continue to engage in certain sexual behaviors despite facing potential health risks, financial problems, shattered relationships or even arrest.


I think many providers, at least quite a few I've met, go into the hobby because they've figured out a way to profit from their addiction.

[Guest042015]

Originally Posted by Mossman

My too small analyst hat gives me a headache but here goes. Seems like your craving for sex is a validation mechanism. The more a man gives you sex, the more desirable and worth while you feel. You need to realize that your true value comes not from what is between your legs but what is in your head and heart. Money for sex is easy, that's just business. See? $.05, please.

How apropo, I wish more women understood what their own personal reasons for providing are- I don't mean the financials, I mean the inner, deep reasons that led them to this.

Having a sexual addiction can't be that easily defined- is it hurting you or your family? Neglecting your motherly duties to seek out sex? Engaging in risky behaviors such as bb?

When you start letting whatever it is take over your life and become the center of your world, its time to seek help of you can't control it on your own. Openly admitting that you have an issue means that you acknowledge it, so do something about it if you think it is important.

Having mentioned this on more than one occasion, I have to assume this is just a marketing ploy not a plea for help.

[Guest120113]

YAWN... STRETCH

Anyone wanna come over and watch paint dry with me?

[jic980]

YES

[Blckpr]

HELL NO!!

@Kat...pm me!

[Katalina]

I want to thank everyone for their input. Especially those that sent me great PMs full of advice. It doesn't ever come before my parenting so that is good. I guess it's not a sex addiction. But I also realized (thanks to the great advice I got) that my cravings start when I'm stressed out. I'm thinking my body gets so stressed that it wants relief and that's my body's way of doing that (causing the release of endophins). Well I guess I should be happy that it's not other worse things that others are addicted to. So I guess it's not a sex addiction but it's my body's way of easing my stress. And lately with my divorce and everything things have been super stressful so maybe that's why it's increased so much. Thank you for helping me figure it out! I can't believe it's taken me 18 months to figure that out!

[Guest101114]

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

I wish more women understood what their own personal reasons for providing are- I don't mean the financials, I mean the inner, deep reasons that led them to this.

I just need the $$ hehe

[Guest061815-1]

I'll be happy to help, Karla! PM me.

[Guest010619]

I'll be happy to help when I'm out and about for a random rendezvous.

[rockerrick]

So what happened , did she embarrass herself and split ?