I really dont know who to tell

[Saintliest]

Post a negative review, under a different name if needed or tip someone else on the board that you trust to post a fake review. Let's face it fake review do happen on here. I've only encountered one person that was seriously fucked up, and I posted an alert about her. Some heeded my warning...others did not...and they suffered the consequences.

[malwoody]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Post a negative review, under a different name if needed or tip someone else on the board that you trust to post a fake review. Let's face it fake review do happen on here. I've only encountered one person that was seriously fucked up, and I posted an alert about her. Some heeded my warning...others did not...and they suffered the consequences.

Once again, no offense but "fake review"..."different name"..?
Ooookaaaay...take this with a grain of salt if you like but one thing I have come to realize over the years is that in this endeavor or any other, the most important currency IMO is integrity...and when you suggest things like "fake review" and "different name" and tipping "someone else on the board that you trust to post a fake review."...sorry but I don't see much integrity in any of your ideas and even the suggestion of writing a "fake review" etc gives me pause..

Just my dime mind you...
Malwoody...always have been and always will be..

[Saintliest]

Ok, so if this lady knows his screenname, hes risking hell on his end, you do realize this right? By posting a fake review from a different source, he's clean without the drama of the lady knowing who did it. So, you would rather this guy risk having his family, job, and neighbors involved in this discussion as well?

[SteveHorny]

away from him

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by polarbear6828

My post concerns a friend, and service provider. She is not posting according to what the real deal is? Im not gonna give a negative review, its my friend. She really used me, my fault, took her and family in, made sure she had a phone, trying to not communicate with her, but the ad's posted by her, are not all honest? I guess Im asking direction from the moderators. I have other friends here, that are straight up, maybe I just got the bad apple? Its not an age issue, my friends are all ages. Help!!!!

So, you got fucked (or raped) and you don't want to say anything about it publicly - no negative review. Sob, sob, "its my friend. She really used me…."

Good grief! You got ripped off, and now you don't want to say anything.

She is not your friend! Repeat that: She is not your friend!

If you don't want to report who she is, quit crying about it. Be honest with yourself, and us. You got fucked, and not in the sexual context. No pleasure here. So, move on. If you don't want to share who the rip off artist is, that is your problem.

Think about it before you respond.




JR

[OLindsay]

Fellas you all would be surprised at how many providers on here that have pimps, or that will get close to a client to get as much info as possible from them to only turn around and use it against them if they don't get said amount of money from them , then they threaten the hobbyists by telling their significant other if they don't give it to them. Or how about getting money from clients ahead of time and not repaying them or following through with premade arrangements (such as seeing them on a certain date and don't answer the phone to the client when they call).
Or how about the ones that make up lies using their kids as the pawn to get someone to feel sorry for them. This makes me sick to my stomach just thinking and typing it.
As I set here myself being a provider I could never imagine threating a client for not giving me money when asked, or destroying their home life..
Karma is a bitch and believe it or not that provider will get hers.
Ijs not all of us are like that to our clients and it sucks. Cause one bad apple can ruin it all.

[Saintliest]

Thank you Lindsay for reinforcing what I am trying to say.

[OLindsay]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Thank you Lindsay for reinforcing what I am trying to say.

Im saying what I know and what im hearing from my clients. And it's sickening.
And to be fair to the other hobbiest you need to tell whom your speaking of so it will help them with their future decisions on choosing the provider they wanna see. Ijs.

[Johnny4455]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Thank you Lindsay for reinforcing what I am trying to say.

In another post you are criticizing hobbyists for disrespecting providers, yet here you thank Lindsey for reinforcing "what you are trying to say".. And Lindsey is listing many horrible things that some providers do.

It is a two way street . There are bad folks on both sides, just as there are wonderful folks on both sides of this community.

I consider a true professional provider one who greatly values discretion, understands that respect goes both ways, and doesn't want to have any relationship with me other than bcd. If a hobbyist wants more than that he should probably look for something else.

To the op, in my opinion, move on and chalk it up to lessons learned. It happens, in my opinion when you go beyond the proviider hobbyist relationship, and try to help someone because you think you can change them or that they think you are really special.

[OLindsay]

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

In another post you are criticizing hobbyists for disrespecting providers, yet here you thank Lindsey for reinforcing "what you are trying to say".. And Lindsey is listing many horrible things that some providers do.

It is a two way street . There are bad folks on both sides, just as there are wonderful folks on both sides of this community.

I consider a true professional provider one who greatly values discretion, understands that respect goes both ways, and doesn't want to have any relationship with me other than bcd. If a hobbyist wants more than that he should probably look for something else.

To the op, in my opinion, move on and chalk it up to lessons learned. It happens, in my opinion when you go beyond the proviider hobbyist relationship, and try to help someone because you think you can change them or that they think you are really special.

I am speaking of this post only, and u bet ya, I think it's horrible how some of the ladies take advantage of the hobbiest. but whom am I to judge if it's not brought to attention its gonna continue.

[Saintliest]

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

In another post you are criticizing hobbyists for disrespecting providers, yet here you thank Lindsey for reinforcing "what you are trying to say".. And Lindsey is listing many horrible things that some providers do.

It is a two way street . There are bad folks on both sides, just as there are wonderful folks on both sides of this community.

I consider a true professional provider one who greatly values discretion, understands that respect goes both ways, and doesn't want to have any relationship with me other than bcd. If a hobbyist wants more than that he should probably look for something else.

To the op, in my opinion, move on and chalk it up to lessons learned. It happens, in my opinion when you go beyond the proviider hobbyist relationship, and try to help someone because you think you can change them or that they think you are really special.

Yes, I am well aware of what some other providers do. What I was pointing out is what I have said in the begining...its a little late now, considering he's spilled all the info about what he's done to help her out, to make it easy. If she wants to fuck with him...lets just say his balls are in a sling...which is why I was saying to post a fake review or whatever else to draw attention away from himself but still tell the truth.

[Johnny4455]

A fake review to tell the truth.... I would never see being a part of a lie on tbis board as an answer. Pretty serious breach of the communities trust and the guidelines.

[Saintliest]

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

A fake review to tell the truth.... I would never see being a part of a lie on tbis board as an answer. Pretty serious breach of the communities trust and the guidelines.

Tough shit. What are your other options? The guy told the whole board that this lady was using him from the start, with enough detail for her to login and suspect it's her he's talking about...ESPECIALLY if she knows his screenname. DING DING DING! It's not hard to put puzzle pieces together here. If this lady used him for a period of time to meet family, friends, neighbors, co-workers...what's to stop her from making ONE and ONLY ONE phone call in the heat of anger to seriously fuck this guy's life up? Once the cats out of the bag, it may very well be extremely painful to put it back in...assuming you can.

So yeah, as opposed to all of that up above, in his best interest, thats what I would do. Because, lets face it, if your employer gets a phone call from some lady accusing you of something...real or not...given the current Job Market...the communities trust and guidelines mean about as much as Obama's word on keeping your health insurance. Unless, of course, there is a rule or guideline in the community for helping a fellow hobbyist out with lost wages for being 100% truthful and honest to the board. If not, fuck em.

[malwoody]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Ok, so if this lady knows his screenname, hes risking hell on his end, you do realize this right? By posting a fake review from a different source, he's clean without the drama of the lady knowing who did it. So, you would rather this guy risk having his family, job, and neighbors involved in this discussion as well?

You speak as if you know the participants...

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Thank you Lindsay for reinforcing what I am trying to say.

Which is what?...Seems to be an ever changing paradigm.

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

In another post you are criticizing hobbyists for disrespecting providers, yet here you thank Lindsey for reinforcing "what you are trying to say".. And Lindsey is listing many horrible things that some providers do.

"Seems to be an ever changing paradigm."

Originally Posted by OLindsay

I am speaking of this post only, and u bet ya, I think it's horrible how some of the ladies take advantage of the hobbiest. but whom am I to judge if it's not brought to attention its gonna continue.

Indeed it will "continue" because there will always be another clueless target...

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Yes, I am well aware of what some other providers do. What I was pointing out is what I have said in the begining...its a little late now, considering he's spilled all the info about what he's done to help her out, to make it easy. If she wants to fuck with him...lets just say his balls are in a sling...which is why I was saying to post a fake review or whatever else to draw attention away from himself but still tell the truth.

Once again, it would seem to me anyway that you have a lot of knowledge regarding the OP and his dilemma....it's almost like you are predicting the future based on this knowledge..

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

A fake review to tell the truth.... I would never see being a part of a lie on tbis board as an answer. Pretty serious breach of the communities trust and the guidelines.

Yeah, I still don't get why he is so gung ho on this fake review biz....
Does make me wonder how many he has written.

A fake review in order to enlighten the rest of the forum...?
What am I missing here.?..I can't remember anyone ever suggesting writing a fake review..

[Guest030114]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Tough shit. What are your other options? The guy told the whole board that this lady was using him from the start, with enough detail for her to login and suspect it's her he's talking about...ESPECIALLY if she knows his screenname. DING DING DING! It's not hard to put puzzle pieces together here. If this lady used him for a period of time to meet family, friends, neighbors, co-workers...what's to stop her from making ONE and ONLY ONE phone call in the heat of anger to seriously fuck this guy's life up? Once the cats out of the bag, it may very well be extremely painful to put it back in...assuming you can.

So yeah, as opposed to all of that up above, in his best interest, thats what I would do. Because, lets face it, if your employer gets a phone call from some lady accusing you of something...real or not...given the current Job Market...the communities trust and guidelines mean about as much as Obama's word on keeping your health insurance.

Well, then, if she knows his name, what's to keep him from just naming her? So far, her identity is unknown, so her reputation has not been damaged. In the global environment, it's called mutually assured destruction. As long as she doesn't harm his reputation or his current family situation, there's no need for him to reveal her name - and vice-versa. But if she does do anything to harm him, then he would have every right to reveal her name and the consequences that result from that revelation.

There's no need to write a fake review - or any kind of review. This seems to be a relationship that has run its course and one person was slighted by the other. Of course, the other party will have a different viewpoint with circumstances that will put the OP in a different light based on her perspective. The best course of action is to let it die a natural death, or there will be mutually assured destruction.