do you ever

[guest073113-2]

What I enjoy most is acquiring that companionship when you see someone multiple times. The fantasy's you can create when you are familiar with one another. That feeling is the attachment.

[old-tyme-racer]

It happens often, both ways. Some people like that, there is nothing like a ATF. Just my opinion.

[pmdelites]

all in one response post.....

Originally Posted by gary5912

do you ever find yourself getting attached to a provider or client that you have seen on a regular bases

attached as in wanting to spend the "rest of my life with her"?? NO
attached as in wanting to spend more encounters with her with no strings attached? YES

Originally Posted by ez2plz

Personally, I wouldn't see someone on a regular basis if I didn't like them enough to feel a certain amount of attachment.

ditto for me - if i'm going to spend some intimate time with a woman, i would like her to be someone i can get along with, at least for an hour at a time. someone fun, intelligent, sassy, fairly well together, organized.
but if, for example, she has a messy place, is scatterbrained/disorganized, has spacey thoughts, bitches about things esp those that "arent her fault", asks for money for bills or debts, or is indiscreet or talks about others in less than respectful manner ==> SHE'S OFF MY LIST!!

Originally Posted by BigMikeinKC

Back to the OP's question. Yes - but you have to remember what the relationship really is. Absolutely nothing wrong with caring or feeling extra for a provider, as long as you keep reality in the back of your mind.

I'll let myself fall in love for an hour or two, sometimes longer if its trip somewhere. But then you have to fall out of love and back to real life.

big mike, i agree completely!!

imho, there is a BIG YELLOW TAPE between a provider and a client that reads "CROSS OVER AT YOUR PERIL - FOR EACH SIDE IS IN A DIFFERENT REALITY AND YOU PROBABLY WONT GET WHAT YOU WERE AFTER."

Originally Posted by elitistjerk

Back to the original topic, there was a provider I saw about 90 times over the course of a year and a half that left the biz and the state about 6 months ago. To be honest I felt heartbroken when she left, and I still miss her.

waaaaaaay back when i started consulting w/ indys, i fell for a woman, fell hard. when she said we'd gone full circle and said no more consultations, there was a big void in me. i kept contacting her but she just wouldnt answer my calls. fortunately, an hour talking w/ another very sane and wise provider essentially woke me up! she said that i shouldnt have fallen for her in the first place. and then said that i didnt owe her anything for taking up that hour of her time!!! i did give her a 100 dollar target gift card.
while i miss suzanne, i wont forget the memories.

Originally Posted by emosissy

Yes, in that very predicament now and trying my best to SNAP OUT OF IT. Somebody slap me please!

these are the best i could find...
me to you:
a "gentle" wake up call

you to yourself:

i hope you regain perspective and make it through this!!! :^)

Originally Posted by bartipero

When I'm not near the face that I fancy, I fancy the face I face.

as stephen sills sang "if you cant be w/ the one you love, love the one you're with" [1970]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_the_One_You're_With
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HH3ruuml-R4 - original song w/ images
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bO4oI10tF5E - in concert 1996

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Originally Posted by old-tyme-racer

It happens often, both ways. Some people like that, there is nothing like a ATF. Just my opinion.

I would agree also. It can go both ways. And it can be the same as being married, it can get "old" unless both parties work to keep it ALIVE. A relationship is a relationship. That is why so many hobbyists see some many different providers. Some times it clicks. Taylor and I clicked the other night and I had to go back the next night for a second helping. Dont do that very often! Now I need to do a review! Or 2.

[Guest041614]

I agree with that! On my side of the fence if I feel a client is starting to get let's say attached I can tend to put a nice sized gap in our meetings. Sometimes I will avoid permanently if the "gap" (lol that doesn't sound right if your mind is like mine) doesn't seem effective. But if Richard Gere happend to be that client hmmmm lmao kidding