Big question and be honest

[JxnBiLady]

I'm in the same boat with Dallas. My husband and I have been active in swinger lifestyle for years. He knows what Tess does and is very supportive. I don't hide that I'm married; f it comes up in conversation that I'm married, so be it. I don't care whether a client is married and so far, haven't had a problem with them knowing I'm married. I keep a very open mind about life in general, it is too short to live judging and hating.

I wanna party with you ladies on Bourbon! Like Lillith, the people I know just wouldn't be fun to party with.

Lilith, I may know a good lawyer if you need one. ;-)

[zavon504]

Myself, I think it's rather sensual and I admire those SO's that are cool with a provider or client's activities. There's a component of honesty and sexual trust there that I personally find to be one of the better examples of true affection and mature emotional attitude.

[badhusband]

There's a certain kink that is a turn on for me to be with another man's wife (down with OPP, LOL). Some of it may be because of the 'sneak', in some cases. Another part is knowing that they mainly want the sex part of it w/o the strings, then I don't have to worry about them getting attached to me etc, I'm such a stud. Just ask me, I'll tell ya! LOL
There was one provider that I used to see who was living out her secret fantasy of escorting while her husband worked nightshift. Unfortunately, she retired, What are you doing later tonight Lilith?
Joking aside, it seems to me that providers that are married or have a S.O. are in the biz because their enjoyment of the encounter is primary and the compensation is secondary. Most that I've met in this scenerio were also closer to my age who were well grounded, stable, and very uninhibited which is exactly what I look for.

Bad

Originally Posted by Lilith

Gloria you are so cute! Your drunk brought up a good discussion topic though.

When I started the "come play with the other guys wife" was part of the advertising....and trust me there are a lot more out there that like the idea of a lady being married and her hubby NOT knowing then one would think


I am married....he does not know! there are papers in the works...

anyone want to celebrate my soon to be freedom with me ;-) before after again and again.... giggle

[Lea Madisson]

Originally Posted by badhusband

There's a certain kink that is a turn on for me to be with another man's wife (down with OPP, LOL). Some of it may be because of the 'sneak', in some cases. Another part is knowing that they mainly want the sex part of it w/o the strings, then I don't have to worry about them getting attached to me etc, I'm such a stud. Just ask me, I'll tell ya! LOL
There was one provider that I used to see who was living out her secret fantasy of escorting while her husband worked nightshift. Unfortunately, she retired, What are you doing later tonight Lilith?
Joking aside, it seems to me that providers that are married or have a S.O. are in the biz because their enjoyment of the encounter is primary and the compensation is secondary. Most that I've met in this scenerio were also closer to my age who were well grounded, stable, and very uninhibited which is exactly what I look for.

Bad

I think most people can assume that a provider has a husband or an S.O. since we do have lives outside the hobby. I don't bring it up because I beleive the guy's fantasy doesn't always include my personal life!

Still, if a guy likes to fantasize about being with another man's wife then I can fulfill that fantasy just as easily as fulfilling the fantasy of a guy who wants me to be unattached and his only for the evening!

You are "right on" about enjoyment primary and compensation secondary for providers who have a hubby or boyfriend. I will add this though... I think older providers are more successful at mixing the two because of maturity and the fact that there is trust, honesty and commitment in the relationship. Young providers with young boyfriends or hubbies don't fair as well in thier relationship because the S.O. has learned to deal with jealousy.

Finally, badhusband, if you ever come to Jackson MS you can be a badhusband with me and I will be a badwife!!!! (who knows, I actually may be a bad wife!! LOL)

Smooch!

Lea

[DallasRain]

badhusband......ditto with Lea....

Lea/Tess/Lillith...just come on!!

[badhusband]

Lea,


I may have to make my way to Jackson! I'm more into the "real" than the fantasy. I can come up with any fantasy if I close my eyes and I'm by myself! LOL The only fantasy that I have is that all these beautiful women, such as yourself, would f*#k me w/o the compensation part *snicker*

Originally Posted by Lea Madisson

I think most people can assume that a provider has a husband or an S.O. since we do have lives outside the hobby. I don't bring it up because I beleive the guy's fantasy doesn't always include my personal life!

Still, if a guy likes to fantasize about being with another man's wife then I can fulfill that fantasy just as easily as fulfilling the fantasy of a guy who wants me to be unattached and his only for the evening!

You are "right on" about enjoyment primary and compensation secondary for providers who have a hubby or boyfriend. I will add this though... I think older providers are more successful at mixing the two because of maturity and the fact that there is trust, honesty and commitment in the relationship. Young providers with young boyfriends or hubbies don't fair as well in thier relationship because the S.O. has learned to deal with jealousy.

Finally, badhusband, if you ever come to Jackson MS you can be a badhusband with me and I will be a badwife!!!! (who knows, I actually may be a bad wife!! LOL)

Smooch!

Lea

[Lea Madisson]

Originally Posted by badhusband

Lea,


I may have to make my way to Jackson! I'm more into the "real" than the fantasy. I can come up with any fantasy if I close my eyes and I'm by myself! LOL The only fantasy that I have is that all these beautiful women, such as yourself, would f*#k me w/o the compensation part *snicker*

LOL... that is a fantasy... or maybe a dream... as in "The Impossible Dream"!!!! LOL

Smooch!

Lea