Here comes the sun☀️

[meldrick]

She is a "find peace, spread love kind of girl". Others here are a "find piece, spread legs" kind of guy! I said others! Not me! Nossir, I just want to discuss great literature! And stuff . . .!

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by meldrick

She hath words to tame the savage beast!!

Something about her ass had a calming affect.

Originally Posted by meldrick

She is a "find peace, spread love kind of girl". Others here are a "find piece, spread legs" kind of guy! I said others! Not me! Nossir, I just want to discuss great literature! And stuff . . .!

She seems to want to believe in lost causes at times..... It's beginning to look like this placed proved to not be worth the effort.....


It's been a long time sir... you should drop in more often.

[Anonymous01]

As one who was very active on ASPD when Amber from Houston owned and moderated the board, what a long, strange trip it's been......

To the OP, thank you for an intelligent, sincere, appropriately sarcastic appeal to the kinder, gentler side in those of us who have a kinder, gentler side. You have my gratitude in reminding us that every once in a while, you can find a diamond in a coal mine.

Unfortunately, Amber was not so good with the business side of ASPD and as her health declined, left the board in financial dire straits.

It appears that the new business model is to generate content that will drive click-throughs. I have four different pop-up / cookie blockers loaded on my PC and every time I click onto a new page, the blockers / counters indicate they blocked up to 20+ cookies / pop-ups per page load.

In keeping with the time, unfortunately, hate seems to generate more click throughs than love (Can I borrow "Darth Cheeto"? I laughed my ass off at that one!), so the current owners of Icky do whatever they can to generate ill will, discontent, and discord, because, it's the American Way and they make money off of doing so.

I rarely visit Icky anymore, do most of my serious research and connection with providers on P411 and TER. I read it primarily to laugh, groan, and shake my head.

Again, thank you for reminding us of what we once were - an on-line community where gentlemen respected ladies and treated them accordingly, and for the most part, were treated with reciprocal respect. I met truly exceptional ladies who happened to be providers on ASPD, and they are sorely missed...

Just my $0.02, respectfully submitted.

Anon. out.

[SofaKingFun]

Interesting thread.

I've come to the realization that people are assholes.

Coed is simply a reflection of that.

Asking for a nicer coed and more consideration and respectful exchanges between people is great, but, much like putting lipstick on a pig, it's always going to come back to the fact that people are assholes.

Some are better than others in masking it, but make no mistake about it, there is an inner-asshole in each and every one of us, just waiting to reveal itself.

Call me a cynic, but I'm being proven correct on the daily. Sure, I try to see the good in everyone and I've always given people the benefit of the doubt and have based my decisions on that specific individual, and occasionally, it has worked-out.

If I had to put a number on the probability that you'll
meet a genuine, "good asshole", (good person/least assholish) I'd say that 4% is being pretty generous.
(Yes, that's 4 out of 100 people)


If you want change in Coed or wherever, start from within.

Ask yourself, why are people behaving like assholes?

Then ask if you/your actions are contributing
to the solution, or the reason?


Then you'll come back to the first thing I stated in line one..err, two. LoL!

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[lizshue81]

Originally Posted by SofaKingFun

Interesting thread.

I've come to the realization that people are assholes.

Coed is simply a reflection of that.

Asking for a nicer coed and more consideration and respectful exchanges between people is great, but, much like putting lipstick on a pig, it's always going to come back to the fact that people are assholes.

Some are better than others in masking it, but make no mistake about it, there is an inner-asshole in each and every one of us, just waiting to reveal itself.

Call me a cynic, but I'm being proven correct on the daily. Sure, I try to see the good in everyone and I've always given people the benefit of the doubt and have based my decisions on that specific individual, and occasionally, it has worked-out.

If I had to put a number on the probability that you'll
meet a genuine, "good asshole", (good person/least assholish) I'd say that 4% is being pretty generous.
(Yes, that's 4 out of 100 people)


If you want change in Coed or wherever, start from within.

Ask yourself, why are people behaving like assholes?

Then ask if you/your actions are contributing
to the solution, or the reason?


Then you'll come back to the first thing I stated in line one..err, two. LoL!

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Someone once told me "what you appreciate, appreciates" and I think it's true. Kind of like we see what we look for. If you look for good you'll see more good. If you look for assholes you'll notice more assholes. Things we spend our time and energy on take up more space in our lives and in our perceptions. Things we don't give energy to won't seem as significant as the tings we do give to. Don't give energy to assholes and you'll notice how few of them there really are.

[LOJ]

Originally Posted by lizshue81

Someone once told me "what you appreciate, appreciates" and I think it's true. Kind of like we see what we look for. If you look for good you'll see more good. If you look for assholes you'll notice more assholes. Things we spend our time and energy on take up more space in our lives and in our perceptions. Things we don't give energy to won't seem as significant as the tings we do give to. Don't give energy to assholes and you'll notice how few of them there really are.

Well put Liz.

[SofaKingFun]

Those are nice sentiments, liz. However, lately, it seems that whether it's giving people the benefit-of-the-doubt, or trusting that they'll will do what's right, or any number of other, (what should be, common decency), things, I'm afraid the assholes far outnumber the good; this, all on their own, with no added energies.


Sad but true.
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[lizshue81]

Originally Posted by SofaKingFun

Those are nice sentiments, liz. However, lately, it seems that whether it's giving people the benefit-of-the-doubt, or trusting that they'll will do what's right, or any number of other, (what should be, common decency), things, I'm afraid the assholes far outnumber the good; this, all on their own, with no added energies.


Sad but true.
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My point is you don't need to "give" them anything, Ignore the assholes and put your energy and attention toward the good folks. You'll start to notice less assholes and more niceholes.

And it works for me because I see an overwhelmingly positive world full of good people.

[SofaKingFun]

"Niceholes", Liz?

I like the niceholes. I'll keep a sharp eye out for them.

Thanks and have a great weekend!

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[lizshue81]

[Smokin Joe]

Originally Posted by SofaKingFun

I'm afraid the assholes far outnumber the good;

I don't think so. The assholes are just more obvious. I think there's plenty who aren't assholes that just don't bother to enter the fray.

[inspector farquar]

Originally Posted by klovve

*Editor's note attached to the end of this rant*

A long overdue (and likely missed) novella rant from Klovve

Little darling, it's been a long cold lonely winter.

1A) Allow me to introduce myself: for my old friends - hey, what's up, hello! For the new: so lovely to meet you! Let's sit, chat, and pretend to drink tea. For everyone: take a seat, I'm going to be a minute. (For anyone who hates my flowery prose or doesn't have patience for a long introduction, skip to section 2A.)

1A.2) Hobby patrons, we have a fucking problem and its name is ECCIE. Specifically, Austin CoEd and I'm in a mission to whip her ass into shape.

2A) Let me provide some context: I'm a C-List ECCIE (which I pronounce "icky," because I'm an asshole) personality and since my hobby entrance I have seen some shit. I look at the forum today and I feel sad. I feel anger. I feel Annoyed. Addicted. Alienated. Obligated. Objectified AND entitled (it's possible.) But more than my proclivity of confusing lexicon, I feel disappointed. Icky (ECCIE) we need to talk.

2B.1) Let's start by bonding over our shared affinity of underground sex clubs. (I.E. This escort forum.) Raise your hand if you have a streak of kink. Raise your hand if you have sex with strangers because variety is the spice of life. Raise your hand if you're a lurker and ICKY (ECCIE) is where you get off by reading literotica, alternatively known as Independent Provider Reviews. Raise your hand if you troll hooker boards because you thrive on possibilities of the unknown, like car dates and cruising Rundburg are your thing. Raise your hand if you've learned that providing provides the necessary perks of a work-smart-not-hard lifestyle. Raise your hand if the root of every decision is sex.

My arm has done more up-downs than a Catholic in church. With me? Good.

2B.2) Sex is FUN. P in the V and make me C, fun. Create-a-new-identity and sign-up-for-GOOGLE Voice, fun. Browse blondes, brunettes, and the select redhead (or gay, or trans, or whatever the fuck you want) fun. Turn climaxes into a commodity, fun. Every kind of carnal, hedonistic, and boast-your-exploits-to-the-world fun. So why have we allowed the forum, which supplies and supports our hidden addictions, to shrivel into a wasteland of misogyny, dirty laundry, and hate? CoEd used to be fun.

2B.3) The Icky (ECCIE) of today is like shitty, skunky, float-the-river beer. Like Frio or Nattie Ice. Yuck. I still remember the ECCIE that created the controversy commonly known as "KLOVVE" - which I'm not going to wax on about because that isn't the point and no one really gives a fuck about her anyway. Sure, everyone enjoys the occasional flame out of any random community member - think Britney circa 2007, we love travesty and drama - but this cesspool of toxic bullshit and vindictive call-outs has poisoned the well that once fed us foreplay. If I wanted to watch people bitch and bicker I would spend more time at home over the holidays, sober.

3A) Consider this a call to action (albeit dramatic and wrought with overused alliteration): can we call off the cavalry? Let's swap weapons for whips and put some life (and fun) back into this fantasy forum we all cherish and covet. Let's talk about sex, baby. Let that freak flag fly.

3A.1) If the goal is to fill our beds with lovers or our banks with dollars, insulting the market won't help the quest. I believe in a CoEd that draws attention with sexy syndicates, word porn, strategically placed ThreADS and the occasional tit/dick pick. Which would you rather read: a steamy story that turns your panties wet, or the unoriginal drivel from the bland, the bitchy, and the brave-behind-the-keyboard? Soak my britches any day of the week.

3A.2) In sum, be nice to each other. Pussy and prosperity grow faster when they're high on love. Let Donald Trump be the asshole, he seems to be really great at it.

Now please, discuss. (Metaphorical mic drop)


*After a quick look at today's CoEd climate, it appears the storm is nowhere near the level 5 hurricane I projected. Not a weather woman, people, but I stand behind my statement*

This place sure needs some SUN. Carry on, miss.

[JohnnyYanks]

This place definitely needs some more sun.

[rockerrick]

Sorry all you get is more Son's, son's of bitches

[JohnnyYanks]

Rick making word play.