The body language of a date

[Guest083011]

Nice C. You can pull my tie any time.

[Guest053011]

Originally Posted by Camille

I did just notice that my compliment had caused him to blush slightly...but he tried to hide it by turning his head quickly and I almost missed it. Too late, I saw it and was so deeply jolted by his reaction to my enjoyment of him that my heart literally jolted. I got THE most incredible butterflies. There is something so precious about making a man blush when you are being sincere about your enjoyment of him...it's a sign that he wasn't expecting it and isn't used to it. Letting a man know they are so much more than worthy of your enjoyment is such an incredible gift to give.

What a lovely post to share

It's an incredible experience, and touching in it's own right, to be able to have that effect on a man. Makes me want to ravage him and luxuriate in all the good feelings he can inspire.

Yay boys

[Laurentius]

Wow! A thread like this with Lauren and Camille is better than foreplay!

[Nina Rae]

Originally Posted by Camille

I'm doing it because I don't care if everyone is watching because that's how much I enjoy you" and I gently pulled him towards me by his tie and kissed him. There is something so precious about making a man blush when you are being sincere about your enjoyment of him...it's a sign that he wasn't expecting it and isn't used to it. Letting a man know they are so much more than worthy of your enjoyment is such an incredible gift to give.

C xx

I...completely....agree! The most arousing, and just plain fun, moments happen when you're with a man who's thrilled to be with you. That feeling you get from reciprocal excitement is enough to make me not give a damn who's around. Knowing I've made him blush at the thought of being into what he's saying, doing, smells like, sounds like...all of that...I love it. How can you not?

Its never just about physical appearance. I've seen one gentleman in particular on a repeat basis just because of the sound of his voice and the inflection when he speaks. From the moment he says "hello", I can't wait to hear what he'll say next. There is always something. There's something about everyone.

[ClairJordan]

I have never been with a truly secure and confident woman who was catty toward other women, while the unsure or immature ones find any excuse to hiss and scratch (metaphorically).

This reminds me of a conversation with my cousin about a reaction her 5 or 6 year old daughter had to another little girl's outfit. They were at a resort and getting ready to attend an evening luau. Her daughter wanted a very expensive outfit in the resort shop, which my cousin would not buy. Another, very pretty, little girl walked into the luau wearing the coveted outfit. My cousin was very upset to see her daughter shooting her scathing looks. "It's starting already," she said. We had a long conversation about women despising other women and my take was that it does emmulate from insecurity about themselves. Or, in this instance, fashion envy!

A comment on Camille's observation; some people set out to attract attention and others just do. When my last boyfriend broke up with me, he said "You walk into the room and everyone knows you're there. It's not anything you say or do, it's just who you are. It makes me uncomfortable."

Whattaya gonna do with that??

[Guest083011]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

When my last boyfriend broke up with me, he said "You walk into the room and everyone knows you're there. It's not anything you say or do, it's just who you are. It makes me uncomfortable." Whattaya gonna do with that??

New boyfriend, of course.

Now mind you I've seen you enter a room with said results. Thank goodness I was your boyfriend that evening (though temporary, of course).

[Camille]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

A comment on Camille's observation; some people set out to attract attention and others just do.

Couldn't agree more Clair. I guess my point was, if it bothers people to the extent that they notice the looks they get, then just smile...it suggests you fall into the latter category than the former. The people that fall into the former category are just gonna have to suck it up when the attention they attract isn't always welcome.

C x

[Camille]

Originally Posted by Nina Rae

I...completely....agree! The most arousing, and just plain fun, moments happen when you're with a man who's thrilled to be with you. That feeling you get from reciprocal excitement is enough to make me not give a damn who's around. Knowing I've made him blush at the thought of being into what he's saying, doing, smells like, sounds like...all of that...I love it. How can you not?

Its never just about physical appearance. I've seen one gentleman in particular on a repeat basis just because of the sound of his voice and the inflection when he speaks. From the moment he says "hello", I can't wait to hear what he'll say next. There is always something. There's something about everyone.

For then men that might have missed the point...when you blush..PLEASE don't hide it. We LOVE it!!!

C xxxx

[WTF]

Originally Posted by Camille

The people that fall into the former category are just gonna have to suck it up when the attention they attract isn't always welcome.

C x

Agreed. I wear a tutu to a church service, I better know that is going to attract attention.

[am-a-pleaser]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

A comment on Camille's observation; some people set out to attract attention and others just do. When my last boyfriend broke up with me, he said "You walk into the room and everyone knows you're there. It's not anything you say or do, it's just who you are. It makes me uncomfortable."

Whattaya gonna do with that??

I'd take you out and let everyone be jealous that you're with me, uhm, I'm with you, uhm, we're together!

[RunSilent RunDeep]

Originally Posted by Camille

For then men that might have missed the point...when you blush..PLEASE don't hide it. We LOVE it!!!

C xxxx

... as if I could ... (blush)

Thank you, ladies. Thank you, Lauren. Thank you, Camille. Thank you, Nina Rae. What a great attitude! May each of you prosper wherever you go, whatever you do.

Going back to your original question, Lauren, I haven't run into that (yet); I'm really very new to the hobby. So far, the ladies I've sought out are people who are reasonably active on a local board. Those interactions, supplemented by the portions of reviews that I can see with non-paid memberships, have given me an encouraging first impression of each lady. So far, knock on wood (RSRD taps his knuckles on his skull), so good.

*shrug* Maybe it has also helped that I'm personally into "connection" -- and not just physical connection. So I meet her eyes, I ask her questions (non-intrusive questions, I hope!) about herself (because I want to get to know her), I listen when she talks, and so forth. A person, meeting a person; not just a customer "interfacing with" a service provider. (RSRD shakes his head) "Impersonal," I'm not interested in. I'm already "handy" with "impersonal."

If she prefers "impersonal" -- what then? I think my first thing is to find out why.

Is she unhappy doing this kind of work? (Then maybe every date with every man is likely to be impersonal. My big head says, "Bail." Would it win? Dunno, as yet. Forfeit the donation? Probably; I'm guessing that a lady with this attitude toward every date wouldn't be on the high end of my range, anyway.)

Did she arrive in a bad mood, from things having nothing to do with me? (Then maybe rescheduling might be a good idea.* Or ... maybe ... I might cheer her up enough to proceed. But I wouldn't guarantee that I could.)

*I don't do much traveling nowadays, and so far each lady has been a local. That does make scheduling and rescheduling easier!

Did I bum her out? (Then maybe we should quit before I make things worse. And, as a newbie, maybe I should see try to find out if I made some dumb mistake that I can prevent in the future (for example, failing to be freshly showered). Oh, and forfeit the donation, both as her PITA fee,* and to motivate me to retain the lesson I just got.)

*PITA: Pain In The Ass. A surcharge added to the fees of clients who are especially difficult. (Not unknown, let us say, in the sole-proprietor consulting world.)

To echo many others, Lauren, thanks for a thought-provoking question. It has stirred up a fascinating conversation!

-- RunSilent RunDeep

[RunSilent RunDeep]

Originally Posted by ClairJordan

<snip> "You walk into the room and everyone knows you're there. It's not anything you say or do, it's just who you are. It makes me uncomfortable."

Whattaya gonna do with that??

Whattaya gonna do? Trade up.

Seriously.

I'm proud as hell when people "notice" the lady I'm with. It reflects well on my judgment that they notice her ... and it reflects well on me that she came in with me.

As a man, I have little respect for a man who can't handle it.

That said, from what I've seen in the news, it looks like a non-famous man who dates a major celebrity woman faces problems that can be seriously hard for a man to handle: being ignored by her business people, her co-workers, the "celeb" press, and perhaps her "celeb" friends, all in a very noisy and public setting.

Maybe this is why Sandra Bullock's ex went astray, dunno.

But what you described doesn't sound like that. Speaking as an XY-chromosome person, I hear the whining of a loser who wants as much attention as the sexy, vivacious, alive woman he came in with.

Idiot. Loser.

Be glad you're rid of him. The sooner the better, so that you can feel free to meet a guy who might have a head on his shoulders, a heart in his chest, and guts behind his abs.

You'll have noticed, of course, that I'm saying nothing about anything below the abs.

(girl, pointing to the boy's cock) "Why would I want one of those? With this (pointing to her pussy) I can get as many of those as I want!"

Trade up. Seriously. I'm sure you can do better. And you'll end up much much happier.

-- RunSilent RunDeep

[abdclub]

Camille, you just made an aging man tear up!!!

abdclub
If only they were all like you!!