In a Serious Relationship With an ASP? Guys, Could You Handle It?

[Pink Floyd]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I am about to blow all of your minds lol!

Honesty, I think what I do as a provider is wrong..always have. Does that make me a hypocrite? NO, because I am not preaching to others not to do this while I am doing it. I simply know in my heart it's not something I could do forever, and I know even more that one day I will in fact have to reap what I have sown...no one escapes that.

Society does not have to tell me a damn thing...my conscience and heart do a fine job.

You can only approach this from the framework you have been indoctrinated to believe your whole life. In the mideast you have people strapping bombs to themselves because of indoctrination. We are first and foremost animals, and the conflict arrises in our denial of our animal roots. We still have the portion of our brain which is reptilian, and that controls our motions. For a deep discussion on where this is headed might I suggest. Things happen for a reason, and that reason is always survival of the spieces. It is too bad that Dr. Dean Edell has retired because he was able to put everything into perspective. Read his book "Eat, Drink & Be Merry". http://forums.delphiforums.com/FreeThinkers3/?

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

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Society does not have to tell me a damn thing...my conscience and heart do a fine job.

Originally Posted by Shayla

Yep! I concur.

So. . . We all concur!!

Sandwich time!! *

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I am about to blow all of your minds lol!

Honesty, I think what I do as a provider is wrong..always have. Does that make me a hypocrite? NO, because I am not preaching to others not to do this while I am doing it. I simply know in my heart it's not something I could do forever, and I know even more that one day I will in fact have to reap what I have sown...no one escapes that.

Society does not have to tell me a damn thing...my conscience and heart do a fine job.

Yeah sleeping with married men is wrong. I feel bad for it sortof but --- it's kinda fun lol. I saw a shirt in Victoria Secret that said "Tell you boyfriend I said hi". I would have bought it if it said "Tell your husband I said hi". Pretty fucked up but I like it .

[Still Looking]

My interpretation of a SERIOUS relationship is that you love that person. You share intimate details and parts of your life with this other person. They know you better than most others. I find it impossible to allow this person to go fuck someone else and maintain I love her. "Personally" I have a word to describe that person! Pimp! Your going to live with a person and send her out (allow) to fuck other guys for cash? You don't do it for her so you let (allow) her to be satisfied else where? As I stated earlier in the thread, I'm not good at sharing! Certainly not someone I have a "SERIOUS" commitment with! I just read where Naomi stated she "felt bad" about fucking married guys. She should thats normal. Tells me she has morals. The disire for money out weights those morals. Not to mention, she isn't dragging these guys out of their homes! But one day the 22 young beautiful Naomi will find that Mr. Wonderful. And if Mr. Wonderful desides he "needs" to see some one else.... well then Naomi will experience the true meaning of "agony and defeat" as they use to say in the wide would of sports. I have been to many a wedding in the last ten years. About half of these weddings I hear these bible verses:

Corinthians 13: 4 -13
4) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
13) And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

This works when the "other" persons actions and beliefs are in line with yours. But when they're not... it gets ugly fast! Before you start with the fan mail, please read the SL disclaimer!

SL Disclaimer: My piss you off button is in the off mode. I am voicing my personal opinion and am not speaking for any one but myself nor am I telling anyone what they should do!

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by FlectiNonFrangi

You can only approach this from the framework you have been indoctrinated to believe your whole life. In the mideast you have people strapping bombs to themselves because of indoctrination. We are first and foremost animals, and the conflict arrises in our denial of our animal roots. We still have the portion of our brain which is reptilian, and that controls our motions. For a deep discussion on where this is headed might I suggest. Things happen for a reason, and that reason is always survival of the spieces. It is too bad that Dr. Dean Edell has retired because he was able to put everything into perspective. Read his book "Eat, Drink & Be Merry". http://forums.delphiforums.com/FreeThinkers3/?

No, it has nothing to do with any of that. It's something I feel that just won't go away no matter how many times I hear "It's ok." It's a decision I made completely free from my contradicting emotions. I don't think it's wrong...I know it's wrong, for me that is. Yet I still partake..hmm.

OMG Still Looking!! I got you biaatches quoting Corinthians!! I need a drink!

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

No, it has nothing to do with any of that. It's something I feel that just won't go away no matter how many times I hear "It's ok." It's a decision I made completely free from my contradicting emotions. I don't think it's wrong...I know it's wrong, for me that is. Yet I still partake..hmm.

OMG Still Looking!! I got you biaatches quoting Corinthians!! I need a drink!

You need a drink at 8:16 am? You want a verse for that?

[London Rayne]

I fly to Fla. in about 4 hours, so I am getting my Eccie fix. Going to miss you guys!

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I fly to Fla. in about 4 hours, so I am getting my Eccie fix. Going to miss you guys!

Does that mean I'm not going to hear from you either? you better text me!!!

[London Rayne]

I will call you from Panama City. I have a date with a fave, and crap...the Saints play tonight! He better let me watch while I blow darnit!

[adult146]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I am about to blow all of your minds lol!

Honesty, I think what I do as a provider is wrong..always have. Does that make me a hypocrite? NO, because I am not preaching to others not to do this while I am doing it. I simply know in my heart it's not something I could do forever, and I know even more that one day I will in fact have to reap what I have sown...no one escapes that.

Society does not have to tell me a damn thing...my conscience and heart do a fine job.

Originally Posted by Shayla

Yep! I concur.

Ladies. That really confuses me. If I thought what I was doing was wrong. I wouldn't be doing it.

I saw a provider a couple of weeks ago who admitted to me that she was less than excited about the business. She was just getting started and it seemed like easy money. My advice to her was if you don't like the job don't do it.

Maybe that's it. You really enjoy the work, but think that you will have to pay for your sins later. To me it's the same difference. Then don't do the job.

[London Rayne]

Honey, people go to work everyday at so called moral jobs they are not happy with. The difference is, you can love what you do and have a conscience that disagrees with it. You are confusing not liking our job with simply not being proud of it.

I love providing, but I don't like what it does to other people. I love the money, the sex, the travel, the intrigue, but I don't like the fact of knowing I could be hurting some woman I have never met...worse, that one day I could be in her shoes.

We all make decisions in life that will benefit us in the future...for many providers, that's what we are doing. You do what you have to do to get where you want to be.

For me, this is the right choice for this time in my life. I don't think it will be the same choice in a few years.

Liking this job, and praising it are two different things.

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

My interpretation of a SERIOUS relationship is that you love that person. You share intimate details and parts of your life with this other person. They know you better than most others. I find it impossible to allow this person to go fuck someone else and maintain I love her. "Personally" I have a word to describe that person! Pimp! Your going to live with a person and send her out (allow) to fuck other guys for cash? You don't do it for her so you let (allow) her to be satisfied else where? As I stated earlier in the thread, I'm not good at sharing! Certainly not someone I have a "SERIOUS" commitment with! I just read where Naomi stated she "felt bad" about fucking married guys. She should thats normal. Tells me she has morals. The disire for money out weights those morals. Not to mention, she isn't dragging these guys out of their homes! But one day the 22 young beautiful Naomi will find that Mr. Wonderful. And if Mr. Wonderful desides he "needs" to see some one else.... well then Naomi will experience the true meaning of "agony and defeat" as they use to say in the wide would of sports. I have been to many a wedding in the last ten years. About half of these weddings I hear these bible verses:

Corinthians 13: 4 -13
4) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
13) And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

This works when the "other" persons actions and beliefs are in line with yours. But when they're not... it gets ugly fast! Before you start with the fan mail, please read the SL disclaimer!

SL Disclaimer: My piss you off button is in the off mode. I am voicing my personal opinion and am not speaking for any one but myself nor am I telling anyone what they should do!

1st - I like the disclaimer idea... It does help to place things in perspective.

2nd - Your use of the word PIMP is fair... especially since I have already used the word BIGOT to describe those who "label" others according to their own beliefs.

Divorce Rate Facts

1. Since 1970 marriages have declined 30%.
2. Since 1970 divorces have increased 40%.
3. Women are the first to file for divorce 65% of the time.
4. Over 40% of first marriages end within 13 years.
5. Over 20% of first marriages end within 5 years.
6. Over 75% of divorced people get remarried.
7. Second marriages fail 65% of the time.
8. Premarital cohabitation increased 70% in the 1990’s.
9. Over 50% of premarital cohabitating couples split up within 5 years.
10. Over 50% of marriages are preceded by premarital cohabitation.

How anyone can use traditional marriage to justify the condemnation of alternative relationships, is beyond me... especially on an Escort Message Board!!!!

[chrissy]

Originally Posted by Naughty Destiny

Hello! I hope everybody is doing fantastic today.

My question pertains to the guys here. Guys, would you be able to handle a serious relationship with an ASP? Why or why not? Would it bother you to know that your significant other was in this line of work?

That's a hard one to answer , Usually a boyfriend or SO in this business means Pimp ..Do you share your earnings with him? Does he have a job,is he putting up reviews for you and your friends? There are so many answers to this that is not really a fair question or is there a right or wrong answer but being here for a couple years now I have had this convo with many..Some view as it very wrong to share a love with strangers for money especially since in most's eyes marriage is something not to be taken lightly.. Others may feel they have the hottest chick in town for getting paid.. Again it can be taken so many ways..

[Laz]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

Honey, people go to work everyday at so called moral jobs they are not happy with. The difference is, you can love what you do and have a conscience that disagrees with it. You are confusing not liking our job with simply not being proud of it.

I love providing, but I don't like what it does to other people. I love the money, the sex, the travel, the intrigue, but I don't like the fact of knowing I could be hurting some woman I have never met...worse, that one day I could be in her shoes.

We all make decisions in life that will benefit us in the future...for many providers, that's what we are doing. You do what you have to do to get where you want to be.

For me, this is the right choice for this time in my life. I don't think it will be the same choice in a few years.

Liking this job, and praising it are two different things.

Does your perspective change if the client is not married?

[London Rayne]

Most of them are married. I don't feel that bad when they are single, because then I know I am not disrupting anything at home. I actually turned down a hobbyist when I found out he had a GF in the biz...talk about me being all in it for the money eh?