Donation before or after?

[Guest091813]

blow!!!blah bah yeah!!!! run!!!walk!!!jut get to the next room!!!!4 inches away is safe..hahhahahah

[offshoredrilling]

mmmmmm ahhhh ya ok your a women. but also a provider. And one is never really safe near a hook errrrr provider. ever break up a cat fight at a bar. providers cat fight forget it sell tickets. its safer

[onlyyoungonce]

Originally Posted by anita germane

that totally depends on who your first time is with..some ladies will jump down your throat..but some of us..eh..not so much..you will need to place that consideration down on my bar and have a seat and chat with me a few..then when Im comfy we'll go from there and at my pace...

if your new to the scene completely things may just go haywire till you make
a move..just sayen..mixed messages are a freakin mindblower..
I try to go with the flow..but damn..first timer make a move!!!

yes im a woman..blah blah roar...blah..

I've never had a negative reaction to it (which is good, because if I did, I'd walk right out that door ). And I'm not talking about full on let's get right to it type of aggressiveness, it's just light moves to make sure we're both on the same page .

And no, I'm not really all that new to the scene. I lurked here for quite a while before joining. I don't do that many reviews, but the few I have done are probably about 2% of my actual experience...lol.

[JEN OF SYRACUSE]

I must say everytime I see you I look forward to it sweetie and I never have to worry about the donation.To be honest I dont think it has ever come up because you are one of the nicest gentleman I have met in the hobby by far and probably the last person anyone would have to worry about trying to get over on them...trust me Anita if you ever get the oppurtunity to be graced with his presence you are one lucky lady.

Originally Posted by onlyyoungonce

I've never had a negative reaction to it (which is good, because if I did, I'd walk right out that door ). And I'm not talking about full on let's get right to it type of aggressiveness, it's just light moves to make sure we're both on the same page .

And no, I'm not really all that new to the scene. I lurked here for quite a while before joining. I don't do that many reviews, but the few I have done are probably about 2% of my actual experience...lol.

[sensualsanaa]

I enjoy the money up front, but fanned out is acceptable. I can admit, the session is more enjoyable when I know I'm not going to be shifted at the end of it. It' like taking a weight off my shoulders. I've heard too many horror stories. Thankfully none have happened to me. One time this guy stayed over his time by at least 15-30 minutes and NOT compensate me, but we had a great time, so I let it slide until the next time.

[Guest091813]

Originally Posted by onlyyoungonce

I've never had a negative reaction to it (which is good, because if I did, I'd walk right out that door ). And I'm not talking about full on let's get right to it type of aggressiveness, it's just light moves to make sure we're both on the same page .

Well that's cool for you... Hope you don't have a long drive to see some ladies...however sometimes you may to take into consideration the lady..When a man walks in and grabs my boob before anything is placed in plain site..it is a wtf moment for me. It is the same as a guy walking in and dropping his drawers showing his privates..that type of behavior tends to skeeve me out..

...Im sure your a sweetheart and all as Jenn pointed out..however...come on man..

[Franklin4]

yes I always leave donation in envelope where she says to place it,
only once did a provider count,
I have a well exstablished provider/client relationship with a number of women,

[GP]

IMHO, the envelope is pretty stupid. I think everyone can hopefully agree on that. I think fanned out in a visible location is best.

I also think calling it a donation is pretty lame as well.

[LynnT]

Originally Posted by GP

IMHO, the envelope is pretty stupid. I think everyone can hopefully agree on that. I think fanned out in a visible location is best.

I also think calling it a donation is pretty lame as well.

Me too Im not a charity. I charge a rate, a session fee, service fee.. You're not donating to me you're paying for a service. We are doing a business transaction together...

I dont get the "donation" thing... or "consideration" We are hookers, we offer a service, you're busted it doesnt matter what you call it, you're busted, calling it a different name isnt going to make a difference.

[cnym]

Originally Posted by LynnT

Me too Im not a charity. I charge a rate, a session fee, service fee.. You're not donating to me you're paying for a service. We are doing a business transaction together...

I dont get the "donation" thing...

I dont get it either,
But in this Business, we (the Guys) do what the lady asks for.
If She calls it a donation.... OK
If She wants the $'s in an envelop and placed in plain view .... OK
If She wants to count before ....OK

It really does not matter to me, I will do whatever is stated in their website, I am sure they have their Own reason of Why!!!!

[GP]

Originally Posted by LynnT

Me too Im not a charity. I charge a rate, a session fee, service fee.. You're not donating to me you're paying for a service. We are doing a business transaction together...

I dont get the "donation" thing... or "consideration" We are hookers, we offer a service, you're busted it doesnt matter what you call it, you're busted, calling it a different name isnt going to make a difference.

I am beginning to think more and more that this "hobby" is for people who live in LA LA land. It is refreshing when REAL people come along on occasion. Why are we so afraid to use the real terms to properly describe what goes on here? LE is not going to care if we use and envelope, or call it a donation, or call what we do a "hobby" or use terms like "prohibited topic", or use letters like "LE", or put little disclaimers in ads. If they want to bust you, they will.

[LynnT]

Originally Posted by GP

I am beginning to think more and more that this "hobby" is for people who live in LA LA land. It is refreshing when REAL people come along on occasion. Why are we so afraid to use the real terms to properly describe what goes on here? LE is not going to care if we use and envelope, or call it a donation, or call what we do a "hobby" or use terms like "prohibited topic", or use letters like "LE", or put little disclaimers in ads. If they want to bust you, they will.

You're busted, you're busted, doesnt matter what your website says or what you call it or what you even wrote on this board..

To each their own and a lady does what she sees fit for her. I do wish some would get rid of the term donation thought! Realize they are not a charity and this is a very real business.

Like cnym says though do what she says on her website, etc..

[jackfengshui]

For most people, the use of "provider", "hobbyist" and "donation" has very little to do with a false sense of safety. Rather, it is just a matter of personal choice and taste. Those who prefer other variations such as "prostitute", "john" and "fee for sex" are welcome to do so.

[GP]

Excellent points Jack, but who are they fooling other than themselves?

[cnym]

Originally Posted by GP

Excellent points Jack, but who are they fooling other than themselves?

GP/ Jack/ Lynn
This is Psychology 101
If she refers to herself as a "Provider" rather than a "prostitute" (same applies to all the other terms) Maybe, Just Maybe She feels better about herself. I dont know.

As far as I am concerned, this is a Business just like any other, I pay for a service and the service is provided for a Fee. Call it whatever makes you feel comfortable, if the desire is Provider, Donation.....etc. We all know what we are doing so it really does not matter. Just terminology for comfort !!!!
(Dont get me going about YMMV topic again, LOL)