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Originally Posted by diddleman
I want to say that when some of us ask about rates, specials, grandfather rates, etc. it isn't mean spirited or even cheapskate. I just want to try to afford to see you, and I want you to want me to visit.. I don't haggle I just politely inquire. There is a difference.
When ladies raise their rates they will no doubt leave some good respectful clients behind.
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This is how I've thought about it too but wasn't really able to put it into those words.
I think some providers think it's an insult when we ask about specials, grandfathering, discounts, etc. I can see that point of view....like maybe we don't think you're worth a certain dollar amount.
But there is another point of view. I WANT to see you! I've read your ads, I've looked at your showcase, I've read your reviews, I've checked out your posting history, maybe I've talked to you in chat or thru PMs.
Everything is awesome except the rate is just not something I'm comfortable with.
The reason's I'm not comfortable with your rate is way more about me than about you.
Money is real and I have many responsibilities, I have to find a balance between hobby and real world that works for me. I have a rate that I've stuck to now for 15 years (with very very few exceptions) that works for me.
I can list at least 5 providers I'd love to see right now that have rates I'm just not comfortable with. One of my thoughts is what if I have the best session I've ever had? Am I now stuck seeing this great provider at a rate I know I'm not going to continue with long term?