A question for all the ladies

[27CoolGuy1982]

I understand that things get lost in electronic translation between the vast amount of e-mails and spam that need to be filtered through. My question is this, how many e-mails should I send to a provider before it becomes excessive?

[Jon Colden]

Well, under what set of circumstances?

Is the situation that you wrote to a provider, asking to see her, but she never responded? If so, then three is plenty, in my opinion. 1 might be missed, even 2, but the probability goes way down with three. More than that and it becomes personally degrading.

But it really does depend on the circumstances: who she is, where she is, where you found her e-mail address, whether there is any history between the two of you, what stage you're at with her, etc.

Some providers are inundated with e-mails of all sorts, some have underdeveloped time management skills, some are chronically uncaring. The variations are endless.

[NormalBob]

Three feels like the right answer to me between being sincere in wanting to meet someone and assuming they are very busy versus stalking someone with no interest.

[jimny]

The number should be one. I agree a lot of these ladies get trashed with a emails of all kinds. I do too often getting 200 - 300 emails a day on work email alone forgetabout facebook, linknd and other private email. But I weed through them throw out the garbage, flag the less important to deal with later and take care of the important stuff first.

If you sent a sincere, well written email to someone who prefers to be contacted by email than the person should reply on the first, emailing a second and then a third would be just adding to her junk mail at that point.

[Guest012612]

I dont think there is anything wrong with a couple emails. I have a new smartphone and If I read emails from my phone, they show up as "read" on my computer. This can be frustrating but I have works out the kinks as far as that goes.

Also,keep this in mind. Some of us ladies lead 2 different lives. Just because we may not be able to spend time together last minute, meaning the same day or within 2 or 3 days isn't a reason to stop trying. Dont give up, keep in touch, xoxo

[cleopatraVIP]

I believe if she considers herself a buisnesswoman one email is enough. The client is the MAIN priority and he shouldn't have to wait for a reply. That's just my opionion.

[Guest091813]

I'm gonna tell ya..and be honest about it..I receive more emails now being a Mod then i
ever have before in this biz...
first thing every morning..I brew my coffe ..then have a drink f it ..then...

I clear out all the mod emails and concentrate on those that want to deal with me..
anita.
.ha.. hey now..i hear ya'll snickerin.. and yes..there are gents that want to deal with me..
stop laughing..
and I email them back....yes I do...

I check my emails Once a day...phones answered all day ..within my biz hours...

If the gent isn't you know.. an ass in his attempt to see me..he will get an email back..

I do get emails that are very basic from the hi..to the your hott to the i want you..yes..I do get those "I want you emails" ...even though ya'll think I don't...
( thank you lv's).
and guess what ...I answer them..and let them know to call me..regardless if i don't handle my biz through email..I let them know what to do..and i try to respond within the 24hrs they send them...most time less..

If I I get the email after the fact of them wanting to set up ..I apologize for not returning sooner and advise them the best way to reach me in the future..
It seems to work out to the plus for us both...

for those other ladies...umm wow...i'd say... send them a hey..i'm so and so email..if you haven't heard back from them..send a sec..giving a benefit of the doubt...after that..roll on...

now understand..I'm an ol school girl..yeah I'm gonna say it again for those that think I say too much...I handle my biz over the phone..you'll know within 4 minutes if you want to see me or not..not 4 to 5 emails later....


good luck sir..with the ladies your contacting...muah..nita..

[onlyyoungonce]

I'll say this. I've been complimented on the email requests that I've sent that they are clear and with all the info needed for references and an easy setup and are very respectful. Having said that, when I don't hear at least some sort of a response back, I consider that to be a bit insulting.

So when I send 3 or more emails and don't ever hear a response back, then imo, the girl shouldn't be in this business as a provider because there's something else going on with them whether it's that they aren't really interested in doing this to begin with and there are some other pressures behind the scenes, or that they don't have any respect for the guys contacting them in which case I lose all interest in seeing them.

[NormalBob]

Let's say there are at least 1,000 escorts on ECCIE. Hell, Texas may have that many...

There are too many real life situations in that pool to think one rule will cover this. If I've not yet met the woman, I don't have a lot of assumptions about her circumstances. If I really want to see her, I'll try to make it happen and if she doesn't get back, I assume being an escort isn't her priority at the moment but may again be in a few days.

TCB is important though. It can be as important as the BCD.

[Doove]

I pretty much agree with NB. I don't see a problem with sending a 2nd or 3rd email if a response is lacking. I'd just be sure to be gentle and, as Bob alluded to, let her know i'm only following up in case my first one or two emails somehow fell through the cracks.

[BlackJedi]

Originally Posted by Doove

I pretty much agree with NB. I don't see a problem with sending a 2nd or 3rd email if a response is lacking. I'd just be sure to be gentle and, as Bob alluded to, let her know i'm only following up in case my first one or two emails somehow fell through the cracks.

Yeah....but how does one know if the lady is indeed busy or just ignoring the emails and simply not responding? (had this happen to often--lol) If you send too many emails...then she may think you are nuisance, pushy, etc and just put you on ignore, etc.

[Doove]

I think there are ways to word your email so that you don't come across as pushy. Particularly if you don't over-do it and start sending 8 or 9 emails. Limit it to 2 or 3, word things gently, and if she gets annoyed, well, so be it. What will you have lost?

[Jon Colden]

Well, I, too, have to agree with both NormalBob and Doove. Things can happen in people's lives that can cause them to neglect their business affairs. It's ideal when just one e-mail does the trick, as it were, but a couple earnest and polite follow-ups can't hurt a single bit. And if that person IS actually ignoring one e-mail, then it's just as easy to ignore three.

The thing is: without following up, you'll never know what it was, and you run the risk of missing out on the time of your life. And that's just sounds silly. Why not write at least a second time?

Erica Hall is one of them best ladies at TCB - well, at EVERYTHING, really - and look at the situation she describes. If I wrote to Erica, my e-mail got away from her inadvertently, and I missed the chance at meeting one the most incredible women I've ever known, I think I'd throw myself off a bridge. No way I'm going to do something as self-defeating as that. Erica Hall? No, I'm writing to her again. Absolutely and without hesitation.

[BlackJedi]

Originally Posted by Doove

I think there are ways to word your email so that you don't come across as pushy. Particularly if you don't over-do it and start sending 8 or 9 emails. Limit it to 2 or 3, word things gently, and if she gets annoyed, well, so be it. What will you have lost?

Yeah, i limit the emails to two. One provider a while back was active on eccie with her new ad after I sent an 2nd email and received no response...so I knew that one was a lost cause--LOL. Oh well....it is what it is...I guess.

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

I don't mind A FEW (no more than 5)....5 is my magic number.